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Blow Job troubles- bit exteme warning

275 replies

GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 15:23

sensitive subject _I've never been any good at them, I too much of a gag reflex I can never take * ahem full length without gagging.

I feel really bad as I'm letting him down on my side of the deal as he doesnt get satisfied properly.

the other night was just messing around and he just grabbed the back of my head and was literally like shagging my head, felt like I couldn't breathe and was gagging everywhere told him to stop eventually, started crying felt really bad I should be able to do it :(

Any tips on how I can round it??

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molemesseskilledIpom · 10/03/2011 16:02

Exp did that once.

ONCE. I threw up all over him and I had been eating peanuts that evening too. He never did it again after that.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 10/03/2011 16:02

I would seriously advocate throwing up on his nuts. If he's an otherwise nice man who just doesn;t understand how the human gag reflex works then throwing up on him is the best demonstration.
However, if he thinks he's entitled to force his knob into your mouth despite the fact that you are crying then there is no reason to waste a second more time on trying to please the selfish shitbag. Devote your energies to getting rid of him instead.

fifitot · 10/03/2011 16:03

Do you enjoy giving BJs normally or only do it as it's expected? If you don't and it sounds like you only do it out of duty then don't do it. They aren't compulsary you know.

Personally can't stand it but each to their own.

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GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 16:03

Malificence-he did apologise, hes never done it before as its not okay, but i Think it may be a one off, IYSWIM hes not done that before.

Jessica- you never know im a bit lass lol,

theres some interesting stuff on here, It had never occured to me as wierd as that sounds 'oral rape' just doesnt sounds an accurate description. I was more crying becasue I felt like a useless GF who couldnt give a decent blowjob.

I did say waht were you playing at I couldn't breathe

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GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 16:05

fiftot_ somtimes if im in the mood ill do ity off my own back otherwise its asking, I dont often give them dont really enjoy them

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AfternoonsandCoffeespoons · 10/03/2011 16:08

a bit of a tarded thing to say but he did apologise

Sorry OP but you've just lost any sympathy i had for you with that comment

JessicaDrew · 10/03/2011 16:09

Glitter tell him when he asks answer will be no!
but it will happen and he will enjoy it, when you choose!

squeakytoy · 10/03/2011 16:10

So dont do them then. You arent going to enjoy them anyway if he treats you like you are some sort of animal, knowing full well that you are not happy.

I am sorry, but I would seriously rethink my relationship if my husband EVER behaved like that.

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GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 16:13

Afternoon&Coffee- whats your objection? that I used the T word?

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squeakytoy · 10/03/2011 16:15

it is a bit of a sensitive/immature word Glitter, I think "stupid" would have been a better choice...

AintMissBeehiving · 10/03/2011 16:17

That is just so horrible. I wouldn't go near him after that.

Curiousmama · 10/03/2011 16:21

Just looked up tarded as hadn't heard of it Shock

emmybooboo · 10/03/2011 16:26

I think so op, it's not a nice word at all, lots of people on here have sn children. It's something horrible kids use in the playground, not grown women......

chickchickchicken · 10/03/2011 16:27

Shock at tarded. i've never heard an adult use it before.

no sympathy from me either

MarioandLuigi · 10/03/2011 16:28

Gosh - I thought it was a term for late

My sympathy has now reduced to zero.

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GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 16:29

I have a SN sister, sorry if its offended anyone but its a very emotional thread my PC slided a bit, I apologise.

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JeremyVile · 10/03/2011 16:30

Rubbishy word but hardly the point.

chickchickchicken · 10/03/2011 16:30

apology not accepted. no excuse for bigotry. its not about pc but about attitudes. that it would even enter your head to say is disgusting

TyraBanksForehead · 10/03/2011 16:31

Whilst I agree it's not a nice word at all, I don't think posting that you have no sympathy is helping here. If offended, leave the thread. The OP has been assaulted and is no doubt shaky and upset.

chickchickchicken · 10/03/2011 16:33

you are emotional because you feel you cant give a good blow job

stop and think how 'emotional' you might be if you had a learning disability and lived with daily prejudice

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 10/03/2011 16:33

Agree Tyra Hmm

chickchickchicken · 10/03/2011 16:33

OP has said she doesnt feel assualted but rather wants to improve her technique

chickchickchicken · 10/03/2011 16:34

i think its assualt but as OP has already said she doesnt its a bit late now to use that as an excuse for bigotry

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 10/03/2011 16:36

OP, agree with everyone else's tips. Get a new bloke who doesn't think a blow job means half suffocating you.

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GlitterHo · 10/03/2011 16:38

calm down chicken like I said I have a disabled sibling, Its a word I'd never use to a disalbed person.

bigotry would if I had used it in that context, , my term was stating that my p response was so beyond stupid in my anger used a stronger word.how does that translate into I hate disabled people?

like I said before I apologise for any offence

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