As a child of a father who was violent (always using objects rather than fists, and not always at my mother, many times at furniture, windows, doors etc -- I suppose that made him feel less like he was violent TO his wife) I would say no.
My mother stayed with him, but his building tension (he had lots of affairs and caused a lot of strife in order to get a pass) and subsequent outbursts coloured my childhood and deeply affected me. I am so lucky that for whatever reason I have steered very clear of men like that and have a wonderful,
respectful and kind husband.
My mother never left ("he was a genius", "He's so mixed up about his childhood, he can't help it" blah blah) and so this pattern of behaviour went on. He was always contrite, always seeking 'help'. I grew up thinking battered doors, broken windows and a father storming off for a week at a time was
fairly normal.
The behaviour evolved, certainly. It was actual violence against my mother (I was left crying as a baby as she was hit by a chessboard and taken to hospital) in the early years, then violence more against things, then years of silence and disappearance and infidelity, then depression, money problems and suicide.
But he never addressed this anger and need to control and lack of respect for my lovely mother.
Our relationship was complicated. He loved me and gave me many gifts of time, learning (he was a genius) and love. But I can never forgive
hise vile, thuggish, bullying side.
All in all, I wouldn't wish it on my children.
I really don't think someone who would hit you with his child in your arms can do enough to change for you. In some ways, the more remorse = the more self-pity = the depth of his self absorption and the cycle will just repeat itself.
Best of luck, you'll need some strength.