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So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else.

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

Inde

You may not have heard the AA saying yet.

"The best thing about sobriety is you get your feelings back.

"The worst thing about sobriety is you get your feelings back."

This is why a lot of people in AA stay in AA. Although stopping drinking seems incredibly hard when you're in it, once it's done, it's done.

The hard bit is handling life without starting again.

How is noteven and how can we support her?

Anyone have experience of SMART recovery?

I pm'd her yesterday to see how she was doing but not heard back. Don't know if she is still reading posts

I think Indie lives near her.

she needs support. Thanks zany. I will not pm her but I hope she knows we are thinking of her,

Evening All

Well, my intentions of doing 15 minutes gardening every night have been good, but I am only on day 3, and I have managed to hurt my back!! So I am like a little old wisened woman.

Am finally dealing with the last pieces of paperwork for my Solicitor, which should hopefully allow me to get rid of the exdp (knobend that he is). It's hellish to look at the paperwork, and realise just how much we squandered on booze and fags , what is equally interesting is how he has been fleecing me for a long long time! Makes me angry - although I am not sure where the anger is directed - at me for being a bloody mug, and letting him do it - or him, for taking advantage of the person that he purported to love .

I too had nightmares last night thurso, it is not good to dwell on the bad things that we have done, I like the saying "Look back but don't stare". But sometimes our subconcious (sp) has other ideas.

venus well done you, turning down champagne is never easy.

JWN pleased that you are back to your usual boingy self
mouse mwah mwah to you and Nemo.

To all the other BB's big hugs

Right, off to finish the paperwork - my dad is going to look at it - sanity check it - for me, so I now have someone who will nag me til its done.

Then off to a meeting - to restore my own sanity. Although, I don't think that I was very sane to begin with!

Evening Babes

Had a lovely day out with our new friends. Nemo's SALT ssaid that she's really pleased with all I'm doing and that she wished she could take me out with her to meet other families going through all this.

I just do what any mum would do.

bafana - I keep looking at our garden hoping that the Graden Fairies will take all of the weeds and rubble, yes bloody rubble, away and make it perfect for me.

I'll just have to wait for DH to get the chance.

Great quote IsinDe

Fab quote indie
Right, paperwork off for pater to look at
Me, off to get head looked at , nah think I'll just go to AA instead.

have a good evening, back soon!

Hi all, I found a great way of dealing with my stress and tiredness - I gave dp a really hard time for being complacent around the house - made me feel much better

I was going to say that I'd given him a tongue lashing, but then I thought that you silly girls (especially those at the back of the bus) would interpret it the wrong way!

venus - glad you are okay, have been thinking about you. xx

Off to bed here. See you tomorrow at some point Babes. xx

Morning all, sun is shining, birds are tweeting.

Off to Edinburgh today for a meeting - let's hope the sun is shining there too. Busy day - so won't be around much.

Have a great day brave babes.
Today is my 4 month birthday , when I got on the bus, I felt it was more likely that I could fly to the moon!!!

Indie, I won't drink on the train either, and we can keep each other company in a virtual sense

We scots are ahead in all things technological - even our birds.

isindie can you get something else for the train journey home? I sometimes carry around a little bottle of Purdy's for such times (and I buy it early to avoid going anywhere near the station buffet when I'm tired and feeling that a day's work is done).

bafana - it certainly is sunny in the town today!

morning!, lovely and sunny here too! - am off for a hard days grind (ooer missus! ) at the office, looking forward to the weekend and just relived i feel more like my usual self!

see you later babes!

L XXXXXXXX

another one checking in in the sunshine - it fairly lifts the spirits!

Morning!

lovely one here too!

a day working at home today, so will be able to catch up properly

I'm not feeling very good on the inside though, I had a good day at work yesterday, and was very smiley, but felt that a sheet of tears was always at the back of my eyes, IYKWIM.

DH has gone into full steam ahead mode, the AD's always make him jittery at first, and I try to live around it. DH went for a run this morning, and so I decided to go swimming for the first time in ages, and actually feel much better for doing it. I always forget that when things are dragging me down, the best thing to do for a bit is not overthink it, and do something else.

Very, very hard not to pick up the wine at night lately, especially as DC2 not been home for a couple of nights, although that's probably a good thing, so that they don't pick up on the strange vibes, , realise I'm not giving a 17 yr old credit for sense.

I'm trying to do tasty evening meals, fave plain but tasty packed lunches, as DH's appetite goes, when he's like this, and sending caring and supportive emails, for when he gets to work in the morning........sound like a fucking saint, but I am so, so horrid really, because I am just so, so bloody fed up with it all. OOps made myself cry now...

Speak later
xxxx

thurso you sound so down, I wish there was something I could say to help. You don't sound horrid at all, you are totally allowed to feel fed up. Why shouldn't you? You are being amazingly supportive to your dh. Make sure you look after you, too.

thurso - i think you need to tell him how you feel! - you are being supportive and he needs to know its a two way street - you are building up huge resentment, keeping it to yourself will poison your relationship - i wonder if a third party would help communication?

in the meantime, have a [[[[[[[hug]]]]]]]]]]! you are a lovley woman!

thurso I know exactly how you feel. The combination of being a mother and a rock is extremely exhausting and I know when DH has been like that in the past I have felt resentful at him having the "luxury" of a breakdown! I know that is because i am a cow, but there you have it. Now it is me who is on ADs, after initial concern at all the crying, DH now doesn't even bother to ask how I am - let alone send nice text messages - as I am obviously "alright" now.
I bet you feel angry and resentful and then guilty for feeling the first two?
You are doing the right thing with the swimming and trying to carve out a bit of time for yourself when somebody is not bloody leaning on you.
Well done on not picking up, I would have done!
Is he turning to you for - ahem - other support (because he needs you and loves you)?? ADs should reduce that soon - hang in there.