HUSBAND LEFT AFTER AN AFFAIR III - AM MOVING ON WITHOUT HIM

[solost]

My husband left me in mid-August when I found out he was having an affair. My original thread (husband had an affair and I want him back) detailed the fact that I felt he had made a mistake and asked for advice on how to get him to see sense and come back to me and our 3 DCs. Four months on, he still hasn't returned and I am re-buildling my life without him. That thread is now full. This is the continuation. Thanks to all of you for your support.

Hi Perfectstorm (and everyone else

Sorry I missed some of your messages, things have been hectic here the last few weeks.

The puppy is great, she is a cairn terrier (think Toto - Wizzard of Oz!!) we called her Betty - after much debate! We wanted a rescue dog but all the ones we saw were Staffy crosses and we wanted something small but scruffy! Only went for a look - but it was easier to leave with the puppy than without!!!!

H still not putting a foot wrong with the DCs, turning up on time, helping out when required etc.

We are off on holiday in just over a week, still aprehensive but looking forward to a break and some decent weather (hopefully!). H muttered something the other day about not really thinking when we were away last year about missing holidays with is family because of his actions. I told him that I hoped he wasnt suggesting that we all stayed at home because he had decided to leave, he said no - he was glad we were going, that he felt that he needed to 'experience us being away' - stuff along those lines anyway - it came across almost as though he saw it a some kind of punishment for himself??? The kids are really looking forward to going and are not fazed at all about going without Daddy.

How are you all doing?

all the better to see you are doing ok x

hear hear, i agree, great to see you doing so well!

Really glad to hear that you're all doing okay, Solost - sure the holiday will be lovely.

Good for the kids! And let himself beat himself over the head with it (while doing nothing to make it better and making it all about him, him, him as usual I see...). He is a big greasy bumflap and you are well rid. Have a lovely trip!

Send him a postcard telling him about all the fun the kids have each day so that he's not "missing out" and you get to rub it all in his face...

Okay maybe that's cruel but it's what I'd do.

Solost, you are incredible, I want you to know that. Have a fantastic holiday, your strength and poise through this whole ordeal has been inspiring.

Solost so glad you're back. Ive just come back from Butlins (hardly abroad) but so proud of myself, girls had fantastic time and so did I because of them. My H went loopy come day 3, said he was pining, said he missed family holidays, made up some pathetic excuse about our joint loan to stress me out, succeeded!! He too said he is punishing himself, i swear we have the same H. Also told me OW is driving him mad blah blah blah but still claims he doesnt love me and left because he wasnt happy. He certainly aint happy now :)

Have the most wonderful time all of you, have no contact if can be helped, I promise he will be making some pathetic noises to you whilst you are away. Take heed and dont talk him, just concentrate on renewing your strength.

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Just came on to check and see how you were doing. I'm so glad that things are going well for you and DC. Well done, solost. Enjoy your holiday! xx

Hi solost, how are you doing? I (and I'm sure lots of others) still think about you from time to time.