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Very Nosey BJ QuestIon!

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:35

Yes I've name changed - come on I had to!

So the question is - how often do you give your DP a BJ? This is following on from a conversation with DH last night. I had just given him one Blush and to summarise, he basically said "that was amazing, shame you don't do it more often though".

Admittedly we sometimes go weeks without me going 'there'. I don't dislike it, but it's not top of my 'sex list' IYSWIM. So when I'm going through a knackered phase and we finally get around to a bit of rumpy, I would quite often rather go for the 'standard' shag rather than faff about (god that makes me sound old and dull, I know!). But then we'll have more 'up' times when a BJ is every week or two. But it's never really part of every session. BTW DH is very willing the other way round and definitely does it to me more often than I do to him, so I suppose that's why I maybe feel a bit guilty about his remark...

So can we all leave our blushes at the door and compare notes please? Grin

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NerdyFace · 10/02/2011 12:37

As a man, the one bit of advice I can give is....WATCH THE TEETH!

That is all. :o

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:38

Well thanks anyway, but I don't think it's my teeth that's the problem, it's the lack of mouth in general it would seem......

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:39

And BTW Nerdy - fess up and tell us your numbers pls!

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NerdyFace · 10/02/2011 12:40

My numbers?!?!

mmmitsdelicious · 10/02/2011 12:41

I'm more likely to give DP a BJ than have full sex atm.

SillyLily11 · 10/02/2011 12:41

I'm sure my DH would love me to do it more than I do but sometimes as you said I'd rather just go for the 'standard' shag than mess about with foreplay too much.
So, maybe only once a week, sometimes a bit less. Blush

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:41

As in how often your DW/DP obliges? Grin Now yo're here you may as well join in!

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Bertina · 10/02/2011 12:41

I take mine out NerdyFace. I think MrBert appreciates it.

WriterofDreams · 10/02/2011 12:42

I absolutely hate BJs (giving and receiving) and so DH gets absolutely nil! I have done them in the past and he does like them but he knows I don't like them and would therefore never ask. I have offered in the past as a treat for him but he has said he'd rather I didn't offer unless I was really in the mood as he doesn't enjoy it unless he feels I'm enjoying it too. He likes giving oral but I really have to be in the mood for it.

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:42

Bertina Grin

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NerdyFace · 10/02/2011 12:46

Hahaha..Well I'm single at the minute and cannot bend in the desired fashion, so my number is 0.

Although from previous relationships i'd say everytime we had sex so 4 or 5 times a week possibly? Mutual oral was always used as foreplay I cannot remeber a time where Oral was ALL that was done!

Joony · 10/02/2011 12:48

Any man would be happy for a BJ every single day of his life but it's a lot of effort for women, why do you think it has the word job in it????

Think you are doing ok and your man should be happy with what he is getting, you don't sound old and dull at all.

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:50

Thanks Joony - to be fair DH wasn't 'moaning' about it as such, it was just a one off remark which has now got me on a guilt trip.

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Crawling · 10/02/2011 12:50

I dont I can count on one hand the amount DP has never complained and does give oral sex alot but I cant orgasm during penetrative sex, so that way we both get satisfied.

Joony · 10/02/2011 12:56

I couldn't expect my partner to give me oral and not reciprocate.

Whatever you do together you both have to enjoy it.

Don't feel guilty, of course he is going to say that, take it as a compliment.

juicychops · 10/02/2011 12:59

Probably about 1-2 BJs per week. And during 'time of the month' about 3-4 as we dont have as much sex during that week.

redrollers · 10/02/2011 12:59

every time we have sex.
As part of foreplay though, not seen through to conclusion, iykwim!!!

Joony · 10/02/2011 13:01

I can't believe how many BJs some of yous women are giving, I thought I was doing well!

carmenelectra · 10/02/2011 13:09

I would say that I give my DP a BJ as foreplay pretty much every time that we have sex(2 or 3 times a wk).He gives me oral everytime really, exceprt very occasionally, if we have a real quick quicky!

A BJ on it's own I do a lot, maybe once a week or so. Without actual sex.

I think its really really unfair of a woman expecting oral herself and never giving her her DP/DH a BJ Shock. Then again, I do actually really enjoy it!

NerdyFace · 10/02/2011 13:12

Were any of you single, I think this would be the perfect place to find the future Mrs.NerdyFace!! :o (JOKING!!..DON'T HURT ME!)

batman47555 · 10/02/2011 13:14

sadman here
i give O quite often but never receive
poor me

happiestblonde · 10/02/2011 13:17

I love it. Every time. I swear I spend my entire life with DP's c*ck in my mouth.

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 13:21

Oh jesus some of you are making me feel so inadequate - I wish I hadn't started this now Sad

Will have to make sure DH doesn't get hold of this thread...

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kormachameleon · 10/02/2011 13:22

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 13:24

Hmm I agree and I have to say happiest you can't be talking literally Confused

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