Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Ah Tea ((Hugs)) please take what Getting said on board & do not allow yourself to feel bad or embarrassed over this. He might have said no for loads of reasons that have nothing to do with you. Remember nothing ventured, nothing gained. Dust yourself down & don't let it put you off trying again.

Now I am going to completely mortify myself & share a little story to make you feel better. Once upon a time many moons ago when I was devastated over xh's infidelity. I was possessed with an urgent need to have sex with someone, firstly because I hadn't had sex for a v long time but also as a way of helping myself to get over xh. Well I came out of college one night feeling particularly low & I just looked up at the sky & said God please put the right person in my path. Well I swear to God I looked down & there was this guy I'd know for years. He'd suffered a tragedy in his life about 4yrs previously & I know he hadn't had a girlfriend for years but was trying to relaunch himself. Well of course as I was half insane at the time from all my dealings with xh I didn't view his sudden arrival as mere coincidence, I viewed it as a sign from God . Feeling empowered by having approval from the man above himself, a few days later I dressed to kill & went somewhere where I knew this person would be. Brimming with the over-confidence that only a mad person can possess I asked him could we go somewhere for a quiet coffee, that I wanted to ask him something. Sitting down quietly with coffees in place I said "look I'll get straight to the point, I haven't had sex for ages & as I know you're single & also looking for a woman I was wondering would you be interested in some no strings attached sex". Que friend chokes on coffee & spits it all over table. In that same moment I suddenly see the light of sanity & think oh dear God what have I done! Friend suddenly becomes over excited & enthuastic & starts babbling that yes he'd be really interested but needed to confess that due to being on antidepressants might only be able to perform once a week & would that be ok. At this point I am thinking "beam me up scottie". I manage to bring things to a quick conclusion telling friend I would give him time to think it over (couldn't do a complete about turn all in the space of 2mins). I later had to ring him & say look I'm really sorry but I was completely insane when I thought that having no strings attached sex might be a good idea. I had to dig deep & overcome the embarrassment of it all as I had to meet him on a regular basis. In fact I still meet him regularly & every now & then our eyes meet & I know he is thinking about it & we both start grining like fools over the memory. I've managed to maintain a good friendship with him though & we talk away like normal most of the time.

Now I hope that story will have cheered you up & made you realise you've absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about