Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Thank fuck I didn't murder the bastard eh,would have seriously slowed me down regarding moving on.
He is a lucky lucky man he can still fuck anything.
Anyway as the old saying goes she who fucks last ,fucks longest x

Lol Patience, that has just given me a great laugh, you have a wicked sense of humour . Will be hoping that last sentence proves right for me too

Xpost starting,
Thinking of going on mastermind ,specialist subject knobber blokes .

Locked up in lesbo jail with a murder charge over my head its like my worst nightmare.at least i have my liberty .ok going to ask slow burner man out if he is single ,fuck it.

Ooh Patience, go for it!

Lol ok will keep u posted between 4 and 5 pm ,may need to post for top tips

Go for it Patience

Thanks Starting I still am glad I sent it , all the self help advice is write it then burn/put in a drawer. However as this is literally the only time I have ever spoken/written to him like that I think I am allowed that much - I shant be making a habit of it !

So what are you northern lasses up to this weekend - is Maybees still around she hasnt been on here for ages

He's single .

Bottled out asking ,but at least im clear to flirt .

LOL Patience.

Right going to fly to Scottyland. Seems least worst option and PIL are happy to buy car seats for the other end for their car. Let's just hope MIL's jekyll and hyde behaviour is to the minimum and her undermining/ criticisms or me or kids. Otherwise it won't be a repeated trip iyswim?

evening all

Am home, feel sick and in lots of pain and have slept most of the day but i'm ok

when they removed the coil i asked them to do a smear too as i am overdue and the consulatant said my cervix looked quite red or something (was still drugged when she told me) so she has taken a biopsy too, now have to wait for those results ffs

will be back tomorrow need to go back to sleep now, night everyone x

Lots of love Sov xxxxxxx
Oh Patience - the man is single and fine!!!! No getting off with him when I'm there mind lol! Slow burners are the best I think.
I've got my eye on one of my friend's friends - he's single too and very lovely (well, in my eyes) think he's coming to our school to do a drumming workshop :)
Getting - glad you sent the email - wish I could send things to people who piss me off. Like my friend from his village who is ignoring my texts and messages. It really hurts but part of me wishes I could just send her a text saying "What's your problem?"
Tea - good idea to fly love. Glad you've decided that. And you're right - if mil is unbearable it will be the last trip. You are in charge of you and yours.
Maybee is fine - she's moving soon but she's meeting Patience and I on Saturday! Woo Hoo!!!!!!

Big hugs sov ,
Sounds a good plan tea,just don't let her bully u.stand tall and use ur dumpling powers ,protect urself with a shield of positivity.let her remarks glide past u and respond with "I'm sorry u feel that way ,I prefer to do blah blah blah "
This will empower u ,and she will respect u for it.she may go back and lick her wounds for a bit but that would only b the shock of ur assertiveness.think on it as ur montrose mil field study x

Lol ggm ,def a girls nite out on sat x

Aiden just split with Carrie in sex and the city .I liked aiden, oh well life goes on.found more silent witness to sky plus, when one door closes another door opens and dr harry Cunningham walks thru .

Sov, how are you? Hope you feel a bit more comfortable today. Wish one of us could pop round to help out a bit. Have you managed a bit of r & r today? I do hope so.

Happy, hope you've had positive news. Sometimes it's the hard times that bring you closer in the end.

Getting, have you had a response to your email? I wouldn't have been able to hold back if I had someting eating me up and email is definitely the way to go rather than a face to face rant. At least with an email, you get 2 for the price of 1 as hopefully he will have re-read it.

Tea, glad you've decided to fly. I flew to Aberdeen once and no sooner had we sat down and had a drink than we were preparing to land. Would your in-laws stretch to hiring a car for you as there are some lovely places to drive to round Montrose?

GGM, Maybee, Patience, have you've washed and pressed your best frocks for tomorrow?

Mumfun, hope you have achieved whatever it was that you wanted to. I could only aspire to your serenity and self control.

Romney, Pink, Starting, Fairy and any other lurkers, hope you're all ok.

It's so nice to see the start of spring when I take the dog for a walk. Then I think, gosh that means it will soon be approaching a year since I kicked XP out on his arse . Thought I'd feel sad but I feel empowered. So much has happened. I was looking at a bit of property porn the other day and saw that OW's house is up for sale. Wondered for about 10 seconds whether they are divorcing or trying a new start and quickly realised that I didn't give a fig one way or the other. I can't help feeling just a little smug that out of the four of us I am the only one sitting pretty and feeling stronger. That is because I refused to settle for half-truths, faced up to the whole mess and took it head on. Bloody hurt at the time but I wouldn't be here now if I hadn't refused to settle for the scraps that were on offer. It's taken all this for me to realise how low my self esteem was. Oh, and perhaps I should also add that another reason I'm feeling good about myself is that I've got a date on Sunday .

Woo hoo Elsie x
Glad ur feeling empowered .its such a good feeling to come out the other side still smiling ,ur so strong ,u should be so proud of urself x
Sov big hugs hope ur getting some help with the dcs today x

phew hello ladies, horrible night tonight, have such 'going to bed' problems with 6 yr old. She's just settled down now after an hour tantruming.

This stuff is so hard on your own isn't it? I wish I was more patient, feel like a crap mum.

Big hugs Kate ,mine are still watching thumbelina video x

Sov, hope you've got plenty of support & that results came back clear.

Tea, seems to be the sensible option to fly, hopefully you'll have a great trip.

Patience, my life has become so boring that I've found myself getting wildly excited about your single man . Have college all day tomorrow so if I don't get back on hope you have a wild night tomorrow night & that you post all the gorey details for the rest of us after

Goo, wishing you a great trip tomorrow & hope ye all paint the town & meet loads of men

Getting, hope all's well & that you got some response from xh.

Happy, hope things are ok ((Hugs))

ET, tell us more about date please

Kate, bedtimes are a bummer indeed

Well had xh on phone today (he found a missing item from one of dc's) but think that was an excuse & he really rang to apologise again for Sun & everything over past few years aswell. I think it's all only hitting him now & tbh I'm over it all now anyway so it was nice to just be able to be compassionate to him. Saying all of that I would be v careful around xh, once bitten & all that! By that I mean I have no great expectations around xh & just do the best I can whatever way he presents himself (changable like the weather ).

By a strange set of circumstances I am meeting up with a single dad in similar circumstances to myself (obviously roles reversed)next week for coffee. I have loads of male friends that I regularly meet up with for coffee etc but will be strange doing that with someone new but who's neither an old friend nor a date . Will have to make sure I don't get

Woo hoo! See you soon Patience!

Lol told X I was going out 2 morrow .he replied I hope u find what ur looking for .
Wtf
Pmsl
Yes I am visualising single man in all sorts of situations

Waves to ggm.
When I spend time with this bloke he wont know what's hit him LOL he makes me smile.funny how I clocked he was single months ago .since Sept Ffs.slow burner rite enough.

Lol at xh Patience Well I for one certainly hope you find what you're looking for

Starting how do u meet these guys ?