I am a fairly regular poster, but have namechanged. I am shocked, almost appaled, at how many people think it is excusable for a woman to throw something at her partner and will blame hormones, depression etc. Violence in any relationship, is unacceptable and certainly not normal behaviour - whether it be a male or female perpetrator. I do genuinely believe that, had the OP been male, many of the responses would have been completely different.
OP - I am glad you and your DH are working to resolve this. Please go see your GP and see if they can recommend any counselling to discuss what happened. If they are unable to help, please see if you can find any counselling services yourself as I really feel you need help to address what happened. In a loving relationship, violence is wrong. This is harsh, but needs said - what you did to your DH was assault and he had every right to call the police. Whether or not you would have been charged isn't for me to say, but I do believe you could have been looking at a conviction for common assault. I can see you were immediately apologetic and remorseful for what happened, but 'sorrys' aren't enough, you need to actively seek help and ensure this does not happen again. Please also reconsider trying for a child, it is a really bad idea to bring a child into this relationship, without resolving what happened on Saturday.
I come at this from a certain angle. I was assaulted by my DH last year - he was completely blind drunk and vomiting everywhere, as I tried to help him he hit me. I got him out of the house and called the police. He was charged and convicted of common assault and was sentenced to 24mth community order and must attend DV course. He sees a probation officer regularly and will do for the duration of his sentence. After the incident, we separated for some time, but we are now trying to work through things. We do love eachother, he had never, ever been violent or abusive in the past and is not usually a big drinker (he has been teetotal since the incident). He is full of sorrow and remorse and immediately sought help from his GP and a counsellor. There were circumstances which led to the incident which will have 'stressed' him out - we were struggling to keep hold of our home and were at risk of being repossessed, we had other money trouble and DH had just lost his job, through no fault of his own. BUT all of this doesn't excuse or justify what he did - what happened was WRONG and nothing justifies acting in a violent/ abusive manner to someone you love.
To any women, or men on this thread - vintageteacups springs to mind - that have thrown something at their partners, or slapped them, hit them or are abusive in any way - be it emotionally, physically or any other way - PLEASE, PLEASE SEEK HELP for your problems and realise that what you are doing is wrong. Can you imagine how you would feel if, in years to come, your children are experiencing this? Would you worry that it has been their exposure to this from your actions that have led them to believe this is acceptable behaviour? I have seen, first hand, how it can devastate families and I urge you to change your ways for you, your partners and, most importantly, any children you may have.