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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Mouseface · 21/01/2011 22:19

Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite. Grin

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 19:45

Hey Ma.

Maybe we can cheer each other on??

I so need to get fit.

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dementedma · 01/02/2011 20:27

last year i did the 5K race for life in the name of a friend of mine suffering from Breast Cancer. When i started the training I actually couldn't jog for one minute! Blush
i was determined to run jog the route without walking and I did it in 38 minutes!!
Since then, I have done nothing but drink and gain weight.
just got the flyer through the door for this year, so looks like it's time to get the trainers on and start walking again, to begin with!

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 20:34

Ma

You so should do it. Especially for such a great cause. I have 2 friends with Breast Cancer who are fighting for their lives right now.

I want to do a mile, on my crutch. Smile

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missy10 · 01/02/2011 20:41

hi all i have been following you all and i have a problem with alcohol i drink 3-4 times a week and i can easily drink a bottle of wine at a time im a single mum of 2dc my ds has special needs and my dd5 has sleep problems and possable adhd im sitting here looking at a bottle of wine and i want 2 drink it i know it wont make me feel better but it will help :(

thatwasntverycleverwasit · 01/02/2011 20:52

NOOO!You can not drink, you can! Tell yourself you can drink it tomorrow as a reward for 'being good' today and then tell yourself the same thing tomorrow.
I feel for you. Sat here looking at my juice and there is wine in the cupboard!

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 21:08

Hello Missy

So, why have you not opened that bottle of wine?

What has made you post now? Why do you feel that you need that drink?

Talk to us Smile

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missy10 · 01/02/2011 21:15

my life is shit mouse the wine helps forget

Mssoul · 01/02/2011 21:15

This thread is amazing and I am so glad I found it. Hi everyone and special hello to Chardonnaylover and missy10 who have joined at the same time as me... Smile I have spent all day thinking about what I was going to say to you all when I got home instead of what I'm going to drink once I put the wee one to bedGrin, so that makes a change.

Missy, if I have booze in the house, I drink it. You are not alone in that. For all the good it does us in the long run, we may as well flush it down the loo. Fab to relieve stress right now (and you sound like you have a lot on your plate) but tomorrow it will make you tired, irritable and not liking yourself for not doing chores/not doing well at work or shouting at the kids etc. It is such a vicious cycle.

Hi Ma, I'm thinking about a 5k too. I might do it with my 13yo dd. Mine would be in June so 4 months to train... How long did you train for last year?

Mssoul · 01/02/2011 21:23

Aw Missy. I was a single mum for 8 years and it was tough. And I just had one (extremely spirited) dd who is now 13. Do you ever get a break from their Dad? Hope you manage to stay off the booze tonight.

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 21:31

Ouch Missy

Been there, done that.

Why so shit sweetheart?

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missy10 · 01/02/2011 21:32

im on my second glass now :( nope there dad hasnt seen them in nearly 4 years

missy10 · 01/02/2011 21:34

because my life is hell 24/7 mouseface i just dont know what 2 do

Mssoul · 01/02/2011 21:35

Aw that's rubbish. Hope you have a supportive family/friends to lean on now and again. I would be on my 2nd glass if there was any in the house (which is why there isn't) Smile

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 21:38

Why is it hell Missy

What makes life so hard for you?

Talk us through it, tell me what hurts.

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notevenamousie · 01/02/2011 21:50

Hi missy,
Mouse is right, can you talk rather than drink? You've come on here and told us you are drinking - that's really brave, I wouldn't have managed that, I'd have walked away from the PC and drank in lonely denial.
Can you pour the rest away? Clean your teeth?

notevenamousie · 01/02/2011 21:51

Mouse - venus said she was going away for a few days, mix of work and holiday I think.

missy10 · 01/02/2011 21:58

my life just seems as if it a large hamster wheel my ds has adhd and is autistic he is getting increasing violent towards me day by day my dd needs about 4 hours sleep a night and i work as well im just finding life so hard

notevenamousie · 01/02/2011 22:14

I'm not surprised it feels hard.
Are they in bed? If so, could you sleep? You need that. And then, you need to pull out all the stops in asking for help, rubbish as it feels.
Do you work full time? If so (and I do too) it is harder to carve out some time for yourself but doable. Any family or friends you could ask? Are there extra pennies (or would there be if you gave up the alcohol) for an evening babysitter or overnight nanny to get you some rest, or socialising, whichever is more urgent. Is there a reason your dd needs so little sleep? Is there any extra support you are entitled to with DS?
Just a few bits off the top of my head, I'm not really very good with these things as it took things getting really bad for me to find any help.

I'm off to bed now but others may well be around, good luck to you. Keep posting here, whether drinking or not, and there are some much wiser people than me that will be along.

I had another amazing AA meeting tonight. It's like everything everyone says seems to apply so much at the moment. My sponsor did the main share this week and she is just wonderful, she has taught me so much already.

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Mouseface · 01/02/2011 22:17

Missy - what support do you get with DS? Community Children's Nurse? Cons Paed? Social Worker?

Please tell me that someone helps you sweet?

You can't do this alone.

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missy10 · 01/02/2011 22:21

i work in a pre school im also doing my cash level 3 diploma as well i work until 2 most days my i have tried using baby sitters in past but thy find my ds very very hard 2 cope with and it wouldnt be fair for any one else 2 have 2 deal with what i do im waiting to see the school nurse 2 see if they can help with my dd she sleeps in bits asleep for an hour then awake for 2 -3 its so exhausting i have tried 2 get help for my ds but he is not disabled enough 2 to get any help i did pour the second glass of wine away and the rest of bottle that is some thing i havnt done in a very very long time

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missy10 · 01/02/2011 22:24

my son has a learning disabilty nurse and a peds neuro consultant social services are crap here

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