The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite.

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

It can't hurt to have a go can it? Is there anyone you can go with? Sorry if you've already said but I've just got on the bus and don't know the backgound.

Luci

People do manage to stop without AA all the time - though how happy they are and how precarious their sobriety is, is not something I would care to find out first hand.

But I wouldn't want you to turn it down on the basis of a misconception.

Core blimey the bus is nice and full today.

Welcome to all the lovely new Brave Babes.

Luci - I have to say that I agree with others who say what have you got to lose by just trying an AA meeting or two?

Everything else that you've tried has so far failed.

Hi everyone !

I'm on day 7 and feeling full of energy, I think I'm in the euphoria period so I have to be careful !I'm saving money so I can attend the allen carr clinic next month in order to ditch the fag !

IsinDe

Yep, same here. DH doesn't smoke and I did. Simples really.

How are the girls?

You're right Mouse, nothing else has worked. And Indie, I am probably an alcoholic. I still can't quite get my head around the fact normal drinking seems beyond me.
How are the twins?

I mean most other people manage it. Why the hell can't I?

Leading me back to the realisation that I'm probably an alcoholic.

Isindebetterplace-thankk you ! I know I'm more positive, I have changed my evening routine and it works atm, I'm careful and I'm trying to do it what day at a time but I know it is difficult not to get exited and projecting in the furture !

You've done so so well Lady. I have never got beyond about 5 days. You have reason to feel positive. :)

Thank you luci, if I can do it (I know it is still early days) so can you. It is very hard at the beginning but it gets easier ! I feel already that I have more patience for the dcs and that I smile more ! I'm looking at booking holidays when I have the cash safely secured, reegular trip to the hairdresser, beautician...All the stuff I cant do now because I have spent a bit less than 400 pounds in wine and cigarettes .

But the main thing is to be healthier and to have a clear conscience which allows you to sleep well at night and not feeling guilty.

welcome to the new babes.
Another serial offender here but I've had a better month this january than in a long time. Still waiting for the glowing complexion - maybe you need a complete cut out for that one - but I have lost a few pounds, and my eyes are brighter, and the hangovers less.

Know what you mean Wasindie, although maybe because we are in the start/stop section of the bus, that could explain why the weight isn't falling off us

Hello Mousie Indie Luci Lady Milflaw and all new babes.
This is the place that works (for me, anyway)

Milflaw I love that prayer saying, and I am going to incorporate it into my nightime chat, that I do to say thanks for this day, and hopes for tomorrow (hope not too mawkish!).

Even though I'm in a better place myself, than I have been for a long time, AA does sound supportive and full of good advice (might be the way you write Milflaw), and still don't quite feel I'm good enough to go (not such a good person in myself, as most sound that they are).

Isindie the sleeping patterns do get better, although it took us about eight years some time to get it right
xxx

"Even though I'm in a better place myself, than I have been for a long time, AA does sound supportive and full of good advice (might be the way you write Milflaw), and still don't quite feel I'm good enough to go (not such a good person in myself, as most sound that they are)."

Rest assured, AA is full of shit-houses like me.

But, thanks to AA, we are REFORMED shit-houses, aware of our own shit-house-osity and trying to put things right, one day at a time.

To reiterate - AA is a club for drunks. Many of us come in drunk, sometimes literally, and we stay because we do not have a better idea. And, together, we get better. But that's because we were a long way from perfect to begin with.

"Long way from perfect" I can identify with.

I really don't think you are a shit-house (wash my mouth!)

Hi everyone,

thurso - you've heard of what I've done. To myself, to my DD, to the rest of my family. I am not saying you need to go to AA - just look what you've done without it - just that I felt like I was the worst person in the world before AA and they seem to love me anyway.

luci - I think you have to get there for yourself. You really do. I grieved for not being able to drink normally, I've heard a lot of alcoholics say they did even though that too is a kind of insanity too. People might talk about themselves but... actually they tell you about you.

isindie it's very hard to lose weight when your sleep is as deprived as yours is. I still get up on average 2-3 times a night with DD and sometimes hourly. It is a whole lot easier sober, I agree. Could you get to an AA meeting and try it. They are pretty good my side of the water ;) and I hear good things about yours - hope I've not misunderstood where you are :)

Lady well done, you sound really fabulous!!

I feel really well today. I kept it in the day. I neither want or need to drink. AA is working for me. Social Services are backing off a bit. My family are supporting me at the moment. I have a warm house and food in the slow cooker and my DD is well.
I am really grateful to have you ladies, and MIFLAW who is as on form today as he was at the height of my denial! (belated thank you if I haven't said it already for helping me get not so much sober as honest). I will be out at a meeting but hope you have happy peaceful sober evenings all.

MIFLAW - about that glass of champagne. Yes I agree it wouldnt just be one. Trying not to think that far ahead anyway. One day at time.

Welcome to all the newbies. Keep reading this thread and the ones before. I'm now on week 4 and this really has been a great source of help!

Where is venus of late? Have I missed her posting?

DH is at a funeral, well, the wake now. He's just called. Sounds a bit squiffy. He said he's only had a glass and a half of wine.

I absolutely cringed at hearing him and thought back to all the times that I have been a lot little drunk and tried to pass it off as tiredness.

How ridiculous was I?

Hi I'm BBwannaB and I am an alcoholic, but thanks to this thread I am not drinking at the moment. Welcome to all the newcomers, make yourself at home. You will get loads of support here and whether you try AA or not sobriety is within your grasp, one day at a time.
Mouse Venus said she would be away for few days, so don't worry about her.

indie the fact that i have lost a couple of pounds does NOT make me thin!! Believe me - the laptop is balanced on my bellylegs as i type
I am going to have to start exercising - shudder