Chin Up and Tits Out for the Recently Ditched No. 12

[KateonMN]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

Stay a while and tell your story and when you are ready we are sure you will make the move to being a Dumpling no more!

Congratulations LC and to your DD and her partner too xx

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Rom, fantastic news for you also, big pat on the back for you :o xx

Tea, nothing wrong with that meal, miners used to feed on the likes of that glad things are sorted with school too

tea-that sounds like a fine meal to me.
hope everyone is ok.Iam alive and thats as good as it gets,cant wait for these tablets to kick in,this pain is sometimes nearly unbearable,such a heavy heart and can hardly breathe sometimes,just wish i could fast forwad my life till i feel some kind of normal

Big hugs fairy ,thinking of u x

Fairy - those are the same feelings I went through and on a bad day still feel, I must admit I thought I was still wallowing but I can see that I am gradually getting stronger. It is such a painful process and really does take time. I still am living one day at a time but with the help of my rl friends and the other dumplings I will survive and one day thrive again! He does not deserve all my energy, he threw that away when he left for the OW!

its awful isnt it romney,i just feel so sick,cant believe how much he has changed and how horrible he is being to me.also feel so sorry for my dc not have they lost a full time dad they have now got an excuse for a mother as i am not the mum i was.

Fairy, of course this will change you. But the fact remains that HE has walked out on your dc's and YOU are still there for them. That legacy will be with them forever, I promise you; that mum is their rock, that when things go badly wrong mum won't let them down. Just being there is enough for them right now. In fact, it is the most important thing you can do for them.

Fairy - my children have seen me go through this twice, they were much younger when it first happened and they survived to be lovely children and this time round they have been amazing help to me. As LC says they just need you to be there.

Evening all. Nice to be back on here. Everything is manic and not getting much sleep with kids so haven't been able to keep up but I've thought about you all and missed you. Feel a bit down today after such a long time of feeling good. Exbf has been texting and it just unsettles me. Horrible to get a text with no kiss, even though I know it's over and wouldn't take him back. Think he's got a new woman and that makes me feel like shit but heigh ho!
Going to have to catch up tomorrow evening if I can. Love to you all. I will read all your posts and send a proper post soon. Just didn't want you all to think I'd upped and left x

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missed you guys

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Bloody hell just fell off my chair WQ LOL !

i know i have been a baaaaaaaaad dumpling ..... will you all still have me?

Wow WQ I thought you had left the country, lovely to see your back, is this a flying visit? or are you here to stay with some of your excellent advice. Hope you are well and you had a good Christmas and New Year.

i am back to stay ladies sorry i have been so rubbish

all is well with me ... still moving forward
divorce is filed and should be a few months until it is sorted.

trying to work out the best way to catch up with you lot ---- last thread i was on was number 9 i think

might just jump in here if that is ok???

Yes catch up as u go along ,how r the dcs

Yes catch up as u go alo ng ,how r the dcs

Your welcome WQ, you dont need to ask! Dont know if you have seen, all the older dumplings and I dont mean age wise, have got a new thread of their own, hope you dont vacate as well, if you do please come back and visit.

Hi all and welcome back WQ, we've missed you .

the dcs are fine, settled really well thanks

exh has gone abroad to pick up his gf who he left me for (he met her on his hols ) she comes back friday to live with him - they were a holiday romance... so that is this weekend (should be fun ) and they are having the dcs for the weekend as it is his weekend

i am going to meet her as i thought it would be a good idea - although rethinking that at the moment - she is 22.

i have found out loads about him recently he is not a nice man. i am well rid, i have found out he is cheating on this new gf with someone else already ( i have no words)

how are you patience - how are you finding the new place?

oooooo confusing 2 threads !!!!!

Welcome back WQ, so lovely to see you :o

@ XH cheating on new GF, especially since she's moving country for him, your right you are definately well rid!!

Last time you were on you were emailing a blast from the past, how's that going?

Mostly I was doing alright,odd couple of crashes in Jan but probably needed to happen,anyway hoping this year will be better than last ,dcs are cool x

Hi WQ. How lovely to see you. So pleased things are going well for you. Just give me a year and I'll be where you are, I hope. You've come a long way and I hope you are very proud of yourself.

XP has continued to lie and lie and lie to me, ds and to everyone else. And of course he's rewriting history now by saying we split because I kicked him out. Yeah, same old script that they all follow . It's really got me down, never thought he'd do this to us. But I have to stay strong for ds so I'm concentrating everything on him atm.

So good to hear how strong and confident you sound .

Ohh googoo my lovely I'd delete his texts without reading or replying if it helps with the pain.

Fairy - I was like a bear with a sore head when I first separated from H and I shouted at the kids too much and struggled in so many ways and to make it worse every night I felt guilty for not being a perfect parent, as I was the only full time one and I should be the best I could be to help with the transition for the children to single parent life etc etc Constantly felt guilty to begin with, horrid time. But a year on the kids are being totally gorgeous and I feel so much better and you will too. I'm hoping my children do not remember much of that time when it first all went wrong. Wise words from Rom and LC for you, sending you big ((hugs))

Hi WQ

Great your back!

And I do have words for your STBX - but I think it better not to write them here :)

Fairy - we've all struggled at the beginning. It is so hard. Try to get as much as you can and breathe, eat, take the kids out if you can. It will get better

And Googoo - go no contact. - why not?