Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Just going to experiment with this high expectations thing mumfun,never tried it b4 LOL x

"I want trips to Barcelona not trips to the STD clinic!"

"I want trips to Paris next time not trips to alanon."

Absolutely love these statements. Love these posts on here today.

Getting - I hope the pamper trip with DD is a success.

Do you all remember when I did the divorce course myself there was a very attractive gentlemen there? I keep thinking how much I'd like to send him a Valentine's card. Is that childish and pathetic as a grown woman? I'd actually have to ask someone for his address though

Kate - woop woop about the snog! Yaayyyyyyy!

Think that's lovely tea,
Do u sign UR name though,not much point otherwise,but nice to get a card and see what happens .

Oh cripes, not sure I'm brave enough to sign my name. Eek! I'd probably say I met him on the course or something instead. A vague hint who I am and no more.

Tea, would be a lovely idea but do sign your name . Could be the beginning of a new friendship if nothing more.

I am loving "I want trips to Barcelona not trips to the STD clinic!"

"I want trips to Paris next time not trips to alanon."

I'll give my vote to both of those statements!

Just got a really good vibe going on at the moment,its just natural progression isn't it.I think its the whole do what u like ,like what u do.thinking less about my old life and more about my new life.

Kick boxing
Crystals
Vitamins and ginseng
New business
My kids school/sports and fun.
Walking my dog on a Sunday afternoon after church.

That's a good life and I am blessed .I am blessed to be a member of this life changing gang x

Loving the statements too !

Tea its a DIY pedicure at home but I have a Foot Spa and all the gear so I will do my best

Well cousin tells me she has 2 neighbours on mobile phone alert and texted him to tell him some of her friends were worried about this set up and so she had safeguards in place !! He apparently said he was worried too in case she is a nutter. Not the same thing though is it really but I have voiced my concerns.

Tea yes send it sign it Carpe Diem (afternoon Offschool )

Occurs to me I will be in the minority being single at this rate

Hi All

WQ, did not know your new beau was from?in? another counrty and @ STBX, good for you telling him where to go politely, i wouldnt have been so polite :o

Starting, so glad things are going well with XH, how are DC dealing with it?

Patience, Looks like your teaching DD the right things re assertiveness :) and @ no night out for 3 years, you must correct that with a brilliant night out with maybee and goo

Getting, Hope your dumpling cousins date goes well for her and she feels ok afterwards, is she going to keep checking in with you so you know she is ok? as inviting a stranger to her house is risky. Hope afterschool treat with DD goes well, i cant wait to be able to do that with my DD :o

Kate, yay for snog, how was date overall?

Tea, sending a valentines card sounds like a great idea actually, i think you should go for it and definately sign your name and include your number :o

Waves to Mumfun, Pinksmarties, Happy, Offschool and everyone else

X post Getting, glad your cousin had put safegaurds in place and hope things go well for her

I think Getting he's taken though, but there was this moment on the final week he was there where he tried to talk to me, but was meant to be catching a lift with someone and got called back to the car. I thought he'd be there the final week but he wasn't. But I'll look a plonker asking for his address from someone else non?

What's Carpe Diem? I've thought about him off and on for weeks though now.

Think its sieze the day but my Latin gets a bit rusty past puella sub arbore cantat

I know nothing about Latin, I went to a plain comprehensive school

Seize the day, very apt.

Me too tea but they had a classics dept ,best dept in the school actually

Blimey - Spring is having an effect on us all I think!
Lord, you're not being a prude Tea. Hope your cousin is ok. It's all very well talking about having sex on first meeting but I reckon both of them will be more nervous in reality! Men in Uniform - eh?!!!
So kate - haway as we say up here. Need more details pet! Stop being coy. Was he as gorgeous in real life? Good snog? First time I had one of those after my divorce I had to go home and clean me teeth!

Top Marks Patience !

The thing is Tea who cares if for the 4.8 seconds it takes to ask for an address you feel awkward ?

DD looked so chuffed when I greeted her and made a fuss of showing her to her pedicure chair and really enjoyed her pampering

We all sat and watched a film while ds made a cake just hanging out nobody coming in and breaking up the party

Glad you had fun Kate

Fab getting
the power of the pamper x

That sounds lovely Getting.

Wonder what uniform it will be......Tesco..British Gas..Rentokill??

Rather her than me.

Lol Pink.
Got two ill boys now. Poor 4 year old burning up and keeps having awful nose bleeds :(
Getting - yes! Good for you on the pampering
Patience - night out in Glasgow :) When is a good time to arrive? Not sure where Maybee lives - I'll pm her :)

And Tea - love the idea of card. I think that's very romantic. Just go for it kid :) We must shape our own destinies...
Can't go out for meal with CDman on Saturday - wouldn't leave the boys when they're ill

He was lovely, looked like his photo - we went to a bar in Picadilly, where he had a good influence on me and I only had 2 small wines!

We have spoken quite a lot on the phone - so conversation flowed...I missed my train, so he offered to drive me home. Very nice car! I had not asked what he drove...had told him how unmaterialistic I was..but was secretly a bit impressed.

Came in, had a coffee and chatted some more...then a hug turned into a big kiss...and then I had to show some self restraint (as it's been a while) and I bade him goodnight! lol

We are back out tomorrow though!

Ooh Kate - you were brave! Sounds lush...well done on restraint!
Back out tomorrow - you both sound like "smitten kittens" (love that phrase!)
Good on you girl. You bloody deserve it x

Sent u a txt ggm

Kate sounds lovely ......enjoy x

Waves to smartie.

Well X has outdone himself again with insults,he will never accept that the consequences he is feeling now are the results of him living the life of an inconsiderate wanker for the last 2 yrs or so.

Always someone else's fault ,always the victim.I really think this time I may have broken free.all I know is I haven't cried this week at all ,I'm beginning to find it boring and juvenile.I think before I found it painful and juvenile.

Just texted you Patience. So glad you're geeting over it. You're right - when I feel bad about exbf I start to get bored now - I just think why am I spending so much time thinking about what he's thinking? He doesn't know himself :)

Waves back to Patience,...how's the business going ?

Exactly I really think what wwifn said one day really hits the nail on the head.
Once they start down the road of self destruction it snowballs and gets darker and darker ,the lies get bigger and more complex and their behaviour plunges the depths deeper than they ever imagined.
(Apolgies to wwifn for paraphrasing)
That imo is why X changed in my eyes so rapidly ,he admitted early on about being cruel to me but he never explained why.then I think the guilt and shame ate him up .but the addiction to his new life meant he couldn't ever give it up.