The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

If it was me I would definately talk to him or show him the thread whichever you feel most comfortable with. I think when someone knows that you acknowledge you have a problem, whether its alcohol or something else and that you are actively trying to get help/support with it then they will hopefull be supportive and not as mad. Has he ever mentioned your drinking to you.

Tes - yes, you may well need DH's support but first of all you need to stop drinking. And only you can do that.

I should imagine that he's a bit 'annoyed' with you over last night which is why you are dreading him coming home.

Just start at the beginning. Tell him how you feel.

Let it all out, tell him about the thread or you seeking advice/help etc and take it from there.

Small steps make huge changes when you add them all up.

He drinks too much too but doesn't seem to feel the effects like me. I'm sure he'd love it if I stopped being a complete embarrasment to him.

I will show him this, I think he will be supportive.

Tes - I have no doubt he'll be supportive. My DH was a little slow to start but supports me no end in my quest to stay sober.

One thing you need to do is get plenty of soft drinks in, nice soft drinks that you will enjoy sipping of an evening.

And something sugary!! Your sugar levels will go through the floor.

But, I bet having read all the threads, you'll know this by now!

Hello Tes, I've also just joined the thread because of the problems I'm having with alcohol. I'm sick of making a fool of myself.

Hi all just to let you know, I did go out last night but had one small drink, drank water and came home. It was fab to remember coming home and to feel fine this morning. I'm so pleased that I managed that. Just got to keep focused.

Well done Ruby that was a great acheivement, i know you were worried about it, you must be proud of yourself.
Welcome Tes i have done what you did last night so many times. I can vouch for the help this thread offers, I came on here with a hangover 2 months ago and haven't had an alcoholic drink since. I feel GREAT and so hopeful, so hop on the bus and stay with us.

Nice positive posts Ruby and BBB!

Lovely to read you are both doing well.

Well done Ruby

Anyone know where Red is, is she OK

Thank you Ruby and BBB! You both sound like you've been through it and emerged victorious. Can't wait until I'm there too .

I will remind you that hangovers are so awful, I am sipping water, drink too much and it just comes back up again. I am physically shaking and feel very cold despite the heating on full blast. My boys are being fab playing Harry Potter on the Wii and any minute they are being collected by GPs and taken to Nativity.

I have a good feeling about this bus

Hello TES,

I'm thurso, which is a name I picked off of a map, on the morning two months ago, when I felt, and realised that I desperately needed help, or perhaps most importantly wanted help to stop drinking. Stopping altogether is the only thing that works for me.

I have had a couple of slips, as you will have seen on here, I haven't been as great as some, JWN, Venus, Bwanna who have never stepped backwards, to name only a few, but my mindset has changed radically. I am terribly ashamed of those slips, which only goes to prove my problem, (a normal person wouldn't care).

This thread is so brilliant, or should I say the people on here are, and I am so grateful to have found it. This has been just the thing that I needed. You may find other ways, AA or external help other than that, but we are here as well whatever, and whenever .

I have just hung up my dress, got out my shoes, and tights, and am so looking forward to going out without half a bottle of white wine inside me already, whoops projecting, we'll see if it happens first.xx

Zany - she has been signed off work this week, she's grand though, had a text from her this morning.

Hi Campers

Went to see my friend - it was a very mild stroke so he is ok - he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, eats healthily - just goes to show - you never know.

Then I went to go a lunchtime meeting - couldn't find the venue, found it, couldn't find the way in to the car-park, while looking man reversed into my car at traffic lights (no damage), found car park, legged it in, place full of mothers and toddlers, saw vicar and asked where meeting was, she looked blank, checked my list and it was yesterday - duuuur

Ah well I'll go tonight - was hoping to get 2 meetings in today!!

Welcome Tes - here's your open ticket - grab the special 'hangover' seat - sit back and relax.

Shit - school run - gotta go x

Silver - glad your friends not too bad. Sorry you missed you meeting and had your car hit.

JWN - Red sends you her best birthday wishes xx

Hi Thurso and Silver

DSs just left with GPs and I pretended I had a cold and thats why I look terrible and shaky - probably will get flu now as punishment for lying

Going to lie on sofa watch something Christmassy and pray (not literally) that I never ever feel this terrible again. Oooooooooooooooo I think snow is arriving.........I live on South Coast and get excited by snow, I do appreciate that some of you guys have probably had enough!

Had lovely text from DH so I don't think he is as cross with me as I thought

Have top night out Thurso - are you going dancing?

Tes - I'm not South bound but I never tire of the snow!!

Water and stodge is what you need. And your sofa, a great film (Elf, Miracle on 34th Street, It's A Wonderful Life, Home Alone) fire lit or heating on and a snooze until DH get's home.

Maybe set an alarm for a half hour before he comes in to make sure you are awake when he gets there!

No point pouring fuel on the fire if you think he's going to annoyed about last night.

Where is everyone? Christmas partaaaaying?

I am here wonering if you are all okay? Friday night being notoriously wibbley for some.

Stay Brave Babes.

(Sorry for any typos, I'm flagging)

Just you and me then Mousie, shall we give Gerald a spring clean and put some decs up?

Yes please BBB!!

I have already put a tree up on the dash board.

Tinsel and some baubles would be good?

So tired tonight!

I'm here too. I've got a christmas CD. Does Gerald have a CD player or do I need to look through my tape collection?

Nope Ruby - he has a CD player. Slot it in and we'll get started on making this bus festive!!

Lovely to see you here BTW

We could book a brass band and gospel choir if the tape deck doesn't work. (Better make it the Sally Army, as all the other bands I know don't half like a drink!)

Nice to see you both Mouse and BB. Have you finished the decs or do you need some help?

I've just eated 4 packets of Ds's mini choc buttons so I'm not gonna lose 1/2 stone before Xmas as hoped. Oh well!

eated? eaten of course

You will lose some weight by not drinking, but if you need that sugar to get through, just go for it. I ate a ton of chocolate in the first few weeks, have managed to cut it to a more acceptable amount now