The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

oh, and the other thing is to do my profile thing on here!

In 2011 I am going to -

1. Get strong and make my leg work properly again so I can start to exercise and lose weight.

2. Start decorating the house inside

3. Enjoy my family even more

4. Continue to do my best for Nemo, fight his corner and help him as much as I can to get the right treatment.

5. Explore more of the beautiful area that I live in.

6. Draw again.

I'm sure that there are more things and I'll type them as and when.

Hello all.

Felt truly awful this morning, and still actually!

Said some horrid things to DP. Was trying to be helpful, and these were things we needed to talk about, but ended up being clumsy and hurtful to him. That's what happens when you try and make/talk sense 2 bottles of wine the worse for wear He's been lovely today but is now starting to get p'd off with my apologies

I'm determined to have a different year next year. Your plans sound great JWN!

Once I've stopped drinking for a bit, I'm going to the docs to get checked and I'm going to Stop. Blinking. Worrying.

Venus, Thurso and anyone else who drank over Christmas, don't lose sight of how well you've done. You've hit a blip but can get back on track. I personally think you're amazing!

Today I probably will be drinking, and tomorrow, but the New Year is going to be my New Start.

Hope you are all having a lovely day
x

what sort of thing do you like to draw mouse? - dh is a very good figure drawer (if that is the right expression! frin!) he does a day course once a month and now curates at a local museum as well, i think if his upbringing had been different he would have gone down the art route instead of the academic!

In 2011 I am going to get sober and stay sober one day at a time [frin]

hi everyone and happy christmas xxx
been mia for a while - not in a drinking way but just getting life sorted. Dh has (you'll all laugh loudly at this one...) decided to do something about the drinking which is great news. We managed to get through the whole of the holiday period, being away with heavily drinking friends, and christmas without a meltdown. so far...

but it means that we are supporting each other in being controlled and got from sunday to wednesday without a drink this week. then shared a bottle of wine last night. not too bad for us. better than a bottle each. no booze tonight, and then a lovely dinner in on friday.

and from then on it's nothing during the week and then controlled when we do. long may it last.

mouse has nemo been wearing his booties???

Hi everyone.
Me too - with thurso and venus but probably far worse.
Lots of self loathing and wondering how I will ever beat this.
A day at a time I guess but I feel really lonely. I am definitely an alcoholic, and I want to stop drinking, and I try not to post here when I have had a drink. I agree that honesty is for me - painful but so necessary.
If I could achieve some sobriety in 2011 that would be wonderful but I am not ready to make yearly resolutions, just daily ones.

Hi everyone, had been thinking about New Years resolutions myself Noteven and I think you have it right in a way about making daily ones but why not have some bigger resolutions and each day work towards those? e.g. if you want to lose weight then plan to walk for 20 mins a day etc etc

Hi everyone - a bus full of remorse and regret today . Please don't, i think you are all brilliant and you have helped me a lot. made it through Day 2 and now face the dreaded day 3 which is my killer one. I start to feel smug and think that I;m ok because I've done two days so i have a small glass or two.......
I have prepared for battle - bought in some nice soft drinks, going to colour my hair and have a bath with a Lush bathbomb and keeping popping on here in the hope my fellow travellers can get me past this hurdle.
Wasindie, three, Thurso et al - do it with me, there's safety in numbers.
noteven - hang in there and keep posting.

good on you demented, sounds like you have your plans in place

I'll be out this evening at my mum's for her birthday, but will send virtual positive vibes!

Ah, New Year's Resolution: have ordered 30-day shred. It may be, if alcohol doesn't kill me, that this might!

Noteven

Why would you refrain from posting if you have been drinking?

Surely that's when you most need encouragement and support?

and positive vibes to you tonight wasindie, and to everyone else not drinking and/or cutting down...
x

noteven - it's better to post as MILFLAW says if you are drinking.

I hope you know by now that we don't do judging here.

As faar as I know, we have ALL been in your shoes, some still are, some no longer, but the one thing we ALL share, is experience of an abusive relationship with alcohol.

bianca - he has thank you SO VERY MUCH for sending them to him. He looks adorable in them!

Plus he's not a shoe/sock fan but he is happy to wear these.

Thank you xx

Hi all, just checking in, hope you had good Christmases or, if you didn't, that life is more peaceful now it's over ...

There has been a fair amount of booze around over the past weeks and I can sympathize with everyone who has been tempted. I've come to the conclusion now that I'm just to scared to risk it - I can see so clearly the way it would end up. But it's not courage that keeps me away from drinking, it's the utter fear of everything falling apart. So nothing brave about that, really - just a sense of self preservation that I cling onto. Didn't have that before - didn't care enough about myself to bother.

Anyway, hope you're all well and surviving.

Hi everyone

Please don't beat yourself up if you've had a drink after not having anything for ages. Dust yourself down, hold your head high, feel proud of the number of sober days you have done so far and tell yourself today/tomorrow is another day.

Crikey, you make me laugh wasindie, can you come to my house, and bring the twins, as I am one man down

Keep thinking of the feeling Wasindie of waking up tomorrow morning without feeling ill/hungover and the self loathing feeling that you had a drink (you may not feel like this but I know I wake up most mornings like this)

Oh, sorry didn't explain...

I have just dropped DC1 at the station to go back to shared house, and host New Year party.

He has been such fantastic company, and so in tune with me, which Dh doesn't seem to want to be anymore.

So... have too few children in the house, which is fairly rattling empty now.

Can I just thank you to everyone for being so lovely to me today, unfortunately Milflaw I feel like I should be an example to you as I am 13 years older, and feel the blush coming on !!.

xxxx