The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

CJ many congratulations.
Day 4 here and tonight i will not be drinking.

Thanks for all your lovely messages.

If it helps at all, I found the added boost of 'new year fresh start' really helped. Also, I told myself it was finite - I was going to give up for three months, then drink again. That made it more bearable! Then so much shit hit me in those three months, and I coped with it without drinking, somehow. By the end of March, I realised I didn't want to go back to that life. So I went to AA and got some help ...

What I'm trying to say is New Year's Eve, a classic big boozy night, can also be an inspiration and a boost into something better .

Hello all

Hope it's OK if I hop back on the bus? I posted a few times (under a different name) back in the summer, however I've lurked on and off since then.

I am on day 5 here and I really doubt I'd even have had the courage to tackle my problem with drink had it not been for JWN's original thread.

Off the back of this thread I've been able to at least attempt to give up the booze and bought myself the Alan Carr Easyway book which I'm halfway through. The book itself is helping me recognise why I drink and the bullshit that comes with it (such as trying to 'justify' why I drink and hamming up the 'benefits' so to speak.

However, the truth is there are no benefits to be had if I drink - one can easily turn into 6, 7 8. The fear and self-loathing should have been enough over the years for me to stop poisoning myself but as you all well know, if it were that easy none of us would ever pick up that first drink!

So, day 5 it is and I'm starting to feel the benefits already. Still feel lethargic and slow but figure that my poor body is ridding itself of all the crap that's slowly been taking over my body and brain for years.

I realise I'm a newbie but feel that I know you all in a bit having followed your journies (albeit on and off) so far - I have so much admiration for you all and wish you a happy and healthy new year.

Hope it's OK to stick around?

Please excuse typos

I used to post as NeedsTo but felt that even my nickname was 'projecting' so changed it to an old school nickname!

Thanks for the welcome

Hey Chuss welcome aboard and congrats on Day 5. I'm on day 4 for the first time in years - literally!
Tonight is going to be a challenge but we'll see how it goes....

Hello all, and welcome Chuss,

I'm fairly new as well, and this thread, and the people on here, have been truly a lifeline for me. The support and understanding that I have found on here has
been, and is, very humbling.

Wasindie, have you made your plans yet?, I was thinking about your post...

This is from personal experience, and may not apply to you, but, have you ever been mean to DP when you have been drinking, or the next day with a hangover?

I know that I am nastier, with self hatred, certainly, but nasty all the same, the day after. If you have, then Dp will understand that you don't want to drink, and possibly spoil the lovely evening that she has planned.

Or maybe, you could have a couple of G & Ts, and not open wine?

I have sat and read my second Christmas present book this afternoon, and feel all snuggly now. I so do not feel like getting dressed up, and going out to a party where I don't know anyone. I would love to have a nice meal at home with DH, especially as it's the very first New Years Eve that we have been on our own since we had the children. How can they have got so grown up that they are both out at parties .

CJ your post was very uplifting. I do feel like tonight will be a good night not to drink, and have decided not to. Phew, so much easier than the "Oh, just a couple" "well it doesn't matter now" one sided conversation going round and round in my head.

Mouse I hope your journey is going well, sweets.

Aaaargh, Dh is lovely, lovely, but wonder if he hasn't quite grasped the situation....

Has just come home and handed me a bottle of pink champagne, and said "I thought we could have a drink together, before we go out"

Now I know how you feel Wasindie

thurso! hang on in there girl!, i dont think he is being thoughtless, from what you have posted lately he is proberbly floundering and wondering how to 'handle' you! and cant do right for wrong!, you be good to you and the rest will follow!

im now off to get ready for the party, i plumped for the black velvet in the end in sky high silver sparkly sandals and im going to use my new hair volumiser brush thing (which i put my boots vouchers towards, thank you very much!) - i usually have my hair in big rollers all day ready for a party like this one so i hope it works!

just to say brave babes - thank you all so much for being here, i wish you all safe and sober evenings with maybe a bit of dancing thrown in!

much love

lesley xxxxxxxxxxxx

jwn YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY SPOT ON!

That is exactly what Dh said to me yesterday, and so today, I vowed that I would be nicer to him. He really does want the best for me, and, bearing in mind that he just patted me on the bottom as he was taking DC to the station, and I am wearing big, pink, fluffy slippers, my nightie (because I get too hot getting ready), and my hair in huge rollers, I think he really does love me!

I want to be nice and kind to him tomorrow, not witchy and hungover.

I have a pink silk dress with chiffony bits, and my black patent heels, that I want to be able to balance in later .

Have a lovely evening everyone, and THANK YOU for being such good friends.

Much, much love. xxxx

Hi everyone

Getting ready at the mo, my family are all coming to mine (although I bet my DS won't come) for food and drinks and then we are walking to my parents who live very close.

MY wish for 2011 is to continue to cut down on drinking and to hopefully hook up with my neighbour who I have seen quite a bit of recently but still as friends. I want my divorce to be finalised after too bloody long years and be more sorted financially.

Not too much to ask is it

JUst wanted to say a big thankyou to everyone on here for your support, postings, honesty and for making me laugh. So glad I found the bus.

looks like I'm the only boring stay at home tonight - no change there then.
Mum came round for dinner and brought a bottle of champagne which nearly did for me but am still resolutely on the elderflower. christ, it's boring!
looks like boredom is my trigger - or one of them!
4 more days before i can go back to work - hope I don't lose the plot before then
Enjoy your parties y'all, and be good.

Hey Ma - I'm staying in too. actually I can't wait to go to bed and wake up tomorrow, get up and sorted and go to an AA meeting.

my prick lovely brother has managed to corrupt the hard drive on my lap top in - what - oh 3 days home - but i'm not angry because all that shit doesn't matter -

for me - getting and staying sober is ALL that matters...

so i shall be enjoying suffering my last night of being pissed tonight.

I wish all of you a lovely New Year (no way I'll still be up at midnight).

And I sincerely hope that I can do this

ONE DAY AT A TIME

[FRIN] XXXXX

hey wasindie - dinner sounds good and well done on the apple juice. looks like we made it through another teetotal day - day 5 tomorrow for me!
Silver - you CAN do this. Gerald needs a sober driver

Just a quick message to those not drinking tonight - if you can do New Year's Eve, you can do anything! Be really proud of that ...

And good luck to all those drinking for the last time. Sounds as though some of you are actually looking forward to some sobriety. It really is ok. Dare I say - better?!

Have a good night, everyone.

HAPPY NEW YEAR, LOVELY ONES!

I did it ....am so happy that I won't have a hangover tomorrow, but mindful of those who may have a hangover, will whisper in the morning.

Thank you all so much. I love you. xxxx

P.s wasindie ma and silver I hope your nights in went well. It was a real eye opener for me being out tonight, without a drink, but still good fun, who'd have thought it!!

Happy New Year to you Thurso, just in from a lovely evening where yes I did drink but strangely enough I feel like I had no drink, must be some kind of instinct because my youngest daughter was supposed to be staying in her friends house but lo and behold there I am getting a lift home from my cousin when I spot her and three of her friends heading down the road and yes they had been drinking, she is 15 for God's sake, this is a small town and young people drink from a very early age (not trying to excuse my own drinking) and this she feels is the norm, she is mad with me for forcing them into the car and says I should be grateful that all they did was drink and not act like all the friends in their year (school), by this she meant that these others are having sex.

Desire

I'm glad that you had a good time.

Actually, one of the reasons I was so determined tonight, is that it's the first time DC2 has gone to an all nighter on New Year, and I wanted to be ok, if we had to go and pick them up.

Dh usually does the night time pick ups, but I wanted to know that I would be ok too.

Funnily, Dh is a one or two beers a week man, but tonight he had four bottles, and has gone straight to bed, a wee bit tipsy!

Thank goodness you saw your daughter, crikey, the pressures on them to grow up so fast these days (thanks mum )
xxx

Happy New Year Brave Babes!

Just got back from my first everSOBER New Year Party . Mind you I had to half carry DH to the car, he is now face down on the sofa, I'll be buggered if I'm carrying him upstairs!

As CJ said earlier, New Year, New Start and I am starting as I mean to go on. I'm sick of this drinking lark! Party was great, loads of food and dancing, could have stayed longer but for my lightweight hubby .

I hope you all had a wonderful evening, drinking or not and I wish all of you the very best for 2011 xx

Thanks Thurso,
Munkymaz congrats on your first ever sober New Years Eve party.

Happy New Year everyone.

I have been drinking but not too much altough I got a midnight phone call from my emotionally abusive ex at 12.15 offering the world and saying he missed me and loved me so got upset and went into my parents living room which was empty until I was joined by my Dad and DD so feel bad now that they saw me upset. Just feel that he sucks all the life out of me when I am trying to move on!

Well done to those who haven't drunk tonight

Big hugs to all you babes