The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

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Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Great post Venus, and I wish the same to you.
Day 4 had dawned and I am a tad cheated that i still feel like boiled shite. No alcohol in the evenings mean the brain won't switch off and so I don't sleep, so still staggered out of bed bleary-eyed and headachy.When will i feel all boingy and Tiggerish and horribly healthy?
New Year's Eve in Scotland is not a good time to be off the piss when it doesn't seem to be having any immediate effect

Nah demented, hogmanay is a great time to be off the piss - I have seen so many awful parties (or good parties ruined) - too much drink too early, not enough to eat. Do it the proper Scottish way - spend the evening clearing out your hearth, nowt to drink 'till after the bells - then easy, peasy off to bed at 10 past midnight [ironic 'oh yeah?' grin at the easy-peasy comment]

I'll be in ma bed way before the bells, no worries about that one. I hate bloody Hogmanay and will be fighting the black dog of depression for the next few days.
The only difference this year is I'll be trying to do it withour booze as my crutch.

A friend just sent me this blessing for the new year:

If, like a Cherokee warrior, I can look at the new year as an opportunity to stand on new ground, then strength and courage are on my side. I will remember that things do work out, bodies do heal, relationships mend - not because I said it, but because I believe it.

But it is time to make things right, to stay on the path. As water runs fresh and free from the woodland spring, so new life and meaning will bubble up from my inner source. I will be still and steady, because there is nothing to be gained by showing fear in a chaotic world.

morning all!! am irritatingly boingy here! - i finished work at 3 yesterday and hit the sales, i now have a choice of 2 new dresses to wear this evening! - a lovley pale pink silk shift with see through sleeves or a body-con black off the shoulder number, oh decisions decisions! im looking forward to tonight, we have a lovley party to go to, im driving so drink is simply not an option and then im cooking dinner tomorrow - this is a change, we always go out new years day as im always far too 'ill' to face doing anything in the kitchen!

back in a bit babes - have to get on with a few jobs!

Morning everyone and Happy last day of 2010, hope 2011 brings you all everything your heart desires:)

Dear Venus

your country house get-away sounds lovely, when are you off? I thought your post was wonderful, and I, too wish everyone a New Year filled with hopes coming true, and glorious surprises.

Ma I felt rotten for about two weeks when I stopped the wine altogether, I felt like I was hungover many mornings, and I got really spotty. After that I did start to feel much more bouncy, and some of that came from liking myself more ( so why...... ).

Anyway, I have promised myself that I am not going to self-flagellate, just get on and do something about it, which is actually more positive than I used to feel, before I stopped last time, so those couple of months did do some good.

Dc2 wants to go to the sales today, yuck, and then is off to a party, so we are Darby and Joan tonight. I miss DC1 so much already, and he's not been gone 24 hours yet!

We are going to a party at Dh's club, and I will not be drinking.

Is there a Mouse in the house?

Venus I am printing out the blessing. It is beautiful.

There is indeed a Mouse in the house thurso

I'm packing as we are away for a few days. I'm stressing out big time at the car joueny. I hate travelling. 1) because of the pain it causes me and 2) because I am a very nervous passenger.

EEEEeeekk!!

I'm taking my Netbook so will pop on later and say hello to any of you that will be around.

Venus that is a beautiful blessing which I most definitely will print out when I get back to work next week (no printer at home)
Mouse enjoy your couple of days away (are you meeting up with Red?)

Morning everyone, and Happy New Year. Loved that blessing, Venus.

Today it is three years since my last drink. I can't get to a meeting so I'm sharing it here, because I don't have anyone in RL to say it to who will really, really understand.

Much love to you all x

Venus that is a beautiful blessing which I most definitely will print out when I get back to work next week (no printer at home)
Mouse enjoy your couple of days away (are you meeting up with Red?)

Venus that is a beautiful blessing which I most definitely will print out when I get back to work next week (no printer at home)
Mouse enjoy your couple of days away (are you meeting up with Red?)

Ooops stupid computer playing up, message sent twice , been thinking about things I want to achieve in 2011 and among them is sobriety (haven't had a drink in 3 days but when I did have a drink I had way way too much) so am going to take it hour by hour, day by day. . .

CJ Very Heartfelt Congratulations

cj - much love right back at yer! when i hear about someone who is living a long term sober life i feel so grateful that you are prepared to share your story with us - i never thought it possible to live without drink, didnt really enter my head that life could be infinatly better without it and sometimes i need reminding!

thank you!

L XXXXXXX

Good morning all,

WELL DONE all those of you who got through last night without a drink

Demented, it took me about 2 weeks before I really started to feel the benefits. The main relief for me was not waking up with the guilt. Thurso, I got really spotty too, but that passed, thank god!

Although I've only tended to post in sporadic bursts, I have read and lurked for much of this year and just wanted to thank everyone one of you for being here. It's such a huge help to read your experiences. MIFLAW, your posts in particular make me take a step back and think about my actions and challenge what I'm doing. (I had just 3 glasses of wine last night, which was a big surprise to myself!)

I'm off shortly to see friends for New Year but just wanted to send you all my love and wish you all the best for the New Year

Three xx

desire - If I get chance yes, but I have spoken via text with her and she's ok

Bye for now Babes xxxx

everyone one one one of you, I feel a song coming on, do do ron ron ron

Re Russian

No, drinking is not a prerequisite ...

But (serious hat on here) I was thinking about this last night at a meeting. I think we all forget sometimes that NORMAL people go through phases sometimes of drinking massive amounts. When I was in Russia we had a Christmas party for 12 of us. I put myself in charge of the drinks ... We were meant to get the beer delivered BY LORRY, and then there were spirits, wine, bubbly ... With the possible exception of my ex and one other bloke I'd be surprised if anyone else there is an alkie now. We all drank a lot because we were students and it was cheap and we were bored and - well, because we could.

When we left uni and started to think about work, the others' drinking became affected by circumstances. They cut it out in the week. They didn't drink if they had an early start. They didn't drink when they were broke. In my case? Less so ...

In other words, it's not quantity alone that makes you a problem drinker; it's the context of your drinking.

A student drinking two bottles of wine in a night? Refreshingly bohemian.

A father? Or a forty-five year old? Or someone on the dole? Or someone with a job interview the next day? Maybe more problematic.

Wasindie

See if you can guess my adivce.

MILFLAW I do love the way that you write.

Refreshingly bohemian and studenty is exactly how I feel half way down the first bottle. Of course the reality is somewhat different, but I am not going to go there today.

I completely agree with you about the context of ones drinking being the important thing, and I, for one know that my drinking is wrong, for me.