The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

never be sorry for posting - its when we are vulnerable that we are at our most vulnerable iyswim? (sorry, i have brain flu!), im glad you felt you could let it out here! - dont forget, christmas is only ever 'perfect' in flims! - btw, im certain that black patent four inch heels make ANYONE braver! (im hoping that pale pink satin with diamante and ribbons ward off the flu! fgrin])

thurso - I second JWN. NEVER apologise for lettting it all out.

And where better than here? It's not like we 'know' you as such. You are a name to us IYSWIM and so you can say whatever you need to.

Yes, that's it...... you can say as much as you need to, whenever you like.

We all can. I think that's why it helps so much.

Black four inch heels and pink satin? I feel Jeff Banks with you too talking fasion!

'fashion' even.

Maybe fasion is how posh pissed folk say it??

Hi Thurso a, pleased you posted what you did, I often think I you don't tell people how you feel/how things are honestly going then how do you get the support! This is coming from someone who is far too emotional Seriously though 2 of my closest friends suffer very badly from depression so PM me if you want to talk more.

Feeling very pleased with myself as I have had about 25% less over the last 5/6 days than I have ever had. Just seen XP though and found that very tough and upsetting.

Hope your OK noteven I know you may feel crap about break up but I'll bet things will seem so much better once you've got though these difficult times sober - if not I'll eat my hat (and I love my hat at the mo) [fgrin}

Sorry to hear you are poorly JWN I think you should lie back and let others wait on you.

Hope some of you will be around the next few days as even though this is supposed to be 'perfect times' it is also 'bloody difficult, draining, emotional, rollercoaster times' or is that just me!

thurso

{{{{{{{hugs hugs hugs}}}}}}}}

YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. xx

FFS I am now officially sick of being the better person. At my parents with my sister and family (don't get on with my sister AT
ALL) and have invited my XH seen as he wants to see the DC's but am now sick of the way my family are falling over him to be nice (sorry really upset), this is the guy who was violent towards me and yet my sister will blank me at school and yet is now Mrs Friendly towards him. And my Dad is just as bad!

Zany - Deep breaths. Don't get drunk, it'll only get worse.

Families eh? Never easy at the best of times. My mother used to fall over XP (DD's father) and my skin would crawl.

Behind his back it was all 'he's a loser' etc but tea and biscuits were wheeled out each time he was there seeing DD.

I feel your pain Zany. Keep venting!!!

Looks like it could be a night for venting on here!

Off to sort the last few bits out now Brave Babes.

Merry Christmas to you all wherever you are.

Take good care and stay safe. xxxx

Just do frustrating when parys of my own family blank me and yet are all over my xh. I know i will have this all Xmas and new year. Just feel i bring in on myself by asking xh to be here here for the kids sake!!. my sister is pretending to be allergic to my dog so that i can't be with family at new year. Anyone else and i would believe them
sorry to moan. X

Brave Babes and milflaw,

HAPPY CHRISTMAS

I wish you peace and happiness all year through.

Much, much love xxxxx

Night everyone. 'See' you tomorrow. x

Thank you Mouse and Wasindie

HAPPY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!

just a really quick post - i have so much to say to you all and so little time, the thing is, i think you all know how grateful i am to have met you all!, i am priviliged (sp) to have you all as my friends and i thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the love and support you have given me!, i wish us all a very happy, sober and safe christmas!!

much love

L XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

MERRY CHRISTMAS BRAVE BABES!!

Wishing you all a wonderful day and sending much love and strength to those who are struggling today.

One hour at a time. xxxx

Phew! Presents and lunch done. Parents safely dispatched home. Dsis's family squabbling over which dvd to wathc, and who gets the most comfortable chair. I've sneaked a few moments peace to wish everyone a very, very happy christmas and to thank you all for every bit of support you have given me during this year, and to let you all know how much I care for you all. Love Jane xx

morning all!! , hope you all had a super day! - my first sober christmas in over 30 years! - we had a lovely time, i remember every bit and now im looking forward to a day with our best friends and our children and their partners - couldnt be better!!

love to you all!

L XXXXXXXXXXX

morning all
had a lovely day yesterday - some fizz and a glass of two of wine, but soft drinks in the evenign and early bed!
Hope you all had a great day too

Good Morning lovelies

I didn't get a chance to post yesterday.

Quite big meltdown on Christmas Eve, as you could probably imagine. 1 and a half bottles in about two hours, just lost it what with one thing and another, and more importantly, I wasn't happy about it even when I was doing it. Luckily, I had started and stopped reasonably early, so had sobered right up before I went to bed. I realised then that I had, had a bit of a massive over-reaction to things (who would have thought wine could do that ), although I'm still glad I talked about some of the things that I was keeping down.

Anyway, lovely day yesterday, nothing to drink at all, which is a bit of a first, and woke up very jollity jolly this morning. I do still feel that my mindset has changed a lot, but, obviously not as much as I thought. I do need to watch myself, before I start thinking every weekend would be ok, and so forth, ad infinitum.

THANK YOU ALL, SO VERY MUCH, FOR THE SUPPORT, COMFORT, ADVICE AND WONDERFUL FRIENDS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN TO ME SINCE OCTOBER 28th.
I Love you all (if that isn't too Kenny Everett )

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Morning all.

thurso - I was thinking about you yesterday, hoping that you were okay.

No huge suprise re the meltdown. At least you drank and didn't 'like' what you were doing. That in itself is a step in the right direction!

I'm so glad that the bus has helped you so much xx

JWN - best Christmas and birthday ever? Big year for you. Glad you had a wonderful day.

Ma - glad you had a great day too! Nice and controlled by the sound of it.

I had some fizz with dinner and then 2 small Irish Creams whilst watching tv with DH. We had a truly wonderful day apart from a small hic-cup with the turkey.

DH put it in the oven upside down. Which is fine, except he didn't know he had!

So I come to carve it and have a meltdown at there being no meat!!!

Anyway, he decided to have a go at 'finding some meat' and realised what he'd done!!

Phew! Disaster over. Muppet!

Chilling here with a steady stream of nibbles, turkey butties, pork pies etc.

I'll be the size of a horse by the end of Christmas, never mind a Mouse!!

Lots of love to you all xxxxx

Hi everyone,

Stressful time this it seems for so many of us.
I was ok on Christmas Eve, DD had a great birthday, mum was not only not obnoxious but actually supportive and proud of us and nice to be around.

Yesterday started ok, and was ok for most of the day - but then the fact that I have hardly slept for 10 days, split up with my DP, am full of this viral thing that's going round, organised a Christmas and birthday, after just moving house, etc,etc, you ladies know how tough it's been... hit me. And I was falling asleep. So I went to bed at 6:30 and my mum put DD in bed with me an hour later.
And today she is cross. Plus I've had the runs since yesterday lunchtime, and now have greeny-black diarrhoea and terrible nose bleeds. So I asked not to go to my aunt's for lunch today. She is taking DD after much passive-aggressive-ness. And my aunt was off with me too. And I am sure it'll be grim later. Might go up and collect DD in a bit. Just feel so rubbish and, once I have conquered the alcohol (day 8!!!) my self-esteem is the next thing, right?
I just want them to go away and leave DD and I alone - who needs enemies when you can have family?!