The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Hi Christi - I'd thaw the duck for at least 24 hours (sometimes 48 hours if it is in the fridge). My ham was cooked in ginger beer (non-alcoholic) and oranges. And for Christmas lunch we are having stuffed boned turkey breast (easy to carve) which is stuffed with smoked ham, and a lemon and sausage meat stuffing. Also accompanied by confit turkey legs (cooked slowly in the oven in duck fat).

Mmmmm. get hungry thinking of it.

I just boned my turkey this evening as well, stuffed with butcher's sausagemeat and the thigh meat. just hoping DD gets home OK, she has to work til 4 tomorrow and then do a couple of hours travel home.

OMG venus

You are a whizz in the kitchen. Please do a book, we all should.

I could contribute oven chips and chicken nuggets?!

Na, not really.

Hey Christi - I agree, take it out now and start the defrost process. It's going to -12 here tomorrow night, -6 tonight so in a garage like BB suggests will be fine.

We're getting our turkey tomorrow and it's off to the log cabin for a night!

Lucky bugger!

hanging on [frin] x

we have a turkey crown which i cook on Christmas Eve to save hassle on Christmas day. my friends have a fit at the very thought of it but everythign else is served hot so cold turkey is fine [frin]
means i only have the veggies to do so easy peasy.....

eeeek, I "frind"

DH home now, so I tell him about my earlier struggle, he says oh dear and pours himself a beer! I don't think he 'gets' it do you?

Thanks for the advice venus and BB

oh and mouse thank you too, i didn't see your post

If it is currently -8 or whatever, will the duck defrost at all in the garage?! It is probably +3 in the fridge... Maybe I should put it in there

Hi everyone.
I am being really selfish and not replying to so much, I'm sorry , I will do tmw. My lovely DD is 4 tomorrow.

I'm not drinking but really sad. Split up with DP tonight.

Was necessary - I think he was saying for a few weeks/ months about a girl from work "we're just friends" and pushing me away all the time with the "better that we are just friends" logic. But he is going away for 4 nights next week with that someone from work.

We could maybe "wait and see, but if it's all or nothing... it's nothing". Other things too. Posted in relationships. OF to bed now. Birthday and Christmas... are vital here. I will do my best for her - not drinking - then will sort out me.

morning!! - im ill!, spent the whole day in bed yesterday, stil feel bloody rough but ive got loads to do - just picture a faded, jaded glamour puss dragging herself about in the 'poorly dressing gown', manky hair, chipped nail varnish and a spotty chin! oh, i think im dying!!

noteven hope your dd has a wonderful birthday today, and a great Christmas. The best gifts you can give her are a sober Mum. Just focus, focus, focus every moment on her delight. You will get through today.

And alcohol does not mend a broken heart, it only breaks your spirit more. Take care sweetheart x

And poor JWN! I bet you make a dramatic ill person. Can you swoon - with the back of your hand pressed against your forehead.

Good morning to all the ret of the Babes - whether you drank last night or not, if you look back of these Christmas party pages you will see that our average consumption has massively, massively decreased compared to last year. Come on babes, today we can make it a special day together - Today I will not be drinking! Join me for a Christmas eve celebration of our health and sobriety.

Morning everyone, quick note to Wasindie and Noteven, my daughter arrived home safely on Tuesday, although the normal one hour journey took her nearly 4.
Will join you Venus in a Christmas eve celebration of our sobriety, don't want to rub it in about the healthy bit with JWN suffering

hi all, just a quick drop in to say hello and wish you all a very merry christmas. The BB bus is a part of my life now and I thank you all for it.
Hope all the passengers - those visible and those lurking - have a wonderful festive season.
x

Afternoon Brave Babes.

Just putting the finishing touches to Christmas in the Mouse house. Feeling very in control and actually happy this year.

Christmas feels right. I feel ready to smile this year.

I hope that you are all okay. I know that this time of year can be really rather shite for some of you.

DH brought home a little Christmas tree when he came back earlier. We are going to plant it in the garden for the triplets once the ground thaws.

Maybe that's why I am happy this year? I kind of feel at ease in my own skin for a change.

Long may it last.

hey Mouse - so glad you are feeling positive and things are better for you this year. You deserve it.
have a good one and give wee Nemo a squeeze from me

Hey Ma - thank you lovely lady. I'm hoping that the New Year brings much happiness on the bus for all the Brave Babes.

I shall pass your squeeze on when little man wakes up from finally giving in to a nap!

xx

Merry Christmas Eve

Hi Mouse glad your physio went well yesterday and things are all looking positive this Xmas. Like the thought of the warm water and floating stuff - I remember years ago when the "Floatation tanks" were all the rage and could hypnotise you at same time - I think

Noteven Happy Birthday to your DD and so sorry to hear about split with DP - you do sound strong (I seem to use this word a lot describing us babes on the bus )

I have brother and his family due any minute with their freshly washed and groomed dog - a black russian terrier - its huge and v cuddly.

JWM sorry to hear you are still feeling rubbish, on radio they were talking about medicinal properties of honey - do you have any?

Wishing you all a v happy and sober / or relatively sober Christmas.

Tes x

Tes - I can't stand being in enclosed spaces so the thought of getting into a tank would FREAK me out!!

Hydro is bliss though.

Happy Christmas Brave Babes

Here's hoping you all have a lovely time.

I start my 90 days again on Monday.

And quite frankly it can't come soon enough.

My brother is home after 4 years and I am so happy about that

Love to you all xxxx

Happy Christmas to all the lovely babes.

My tenth sober weekend, THANK YOU, I would never be this content without you all.

XX

Hey Babes,

Haven't posted in the last couple of days, because I've been a bit down (I just cope, not telling anyone, bad idea, I know).

I haven't told you before, but Dh has had crippling depressive episodes since I met him (we didn't realise what it was, for years!), and I have been wondering in the last few weeks.

All this going to sleep really early and waking early, massive amount of sport all leads to it, and I made him promise last time, that he would tell me if he felt it creeping up again, but, head in the sand he didn't want to confront it.

He has assured me that it is all work related, and he does have a mega job, but time and time again, I asked if it was me, he says not .

I am so, so, glad, that I had it out with him this morning. I said that last time he promised to tell me at the first instance that things were getting him down in work, but, he said that he didn't want to ruin Christmas , as if I hadn't known something was wrong?

Anyway, all out in the open now, and so is much better....... but, for quite long periods, mant times, I have been the parent of what feels like three children...and here I go again .

very, very, bad thought, but this isn't what I signed up for [smack icon].

The children haven't known for about 10 years, but last year I had to say that Daddy wasn't very well, as he was in bed for about two weeks, they seemed to be ok about it, but DC1 looks a bit wary tonight.

Dh and Dc1 have just come in from a walk, and I mentioned before they went out that I might have a glass of wine tonight, Dc1 came in to the study just now and said "have a glass of wine, mum, but, not the whole bottle" Waah, can't have any now.

Sorry about this post, but do feel better, no don't, and probably am going to drink tonight. very much fool me

Jesus thurso!!!

Not at all a surprise that you feel the way that you do re not signing up for this.

Don't feel bad about that. It's a natural reaction. And let's be fair, almost grief like.

You lost the man you thought you were marrying. It must be so hard to keep your smile on the whole time.

Especially for your children and after everything you have just been through with the lump.

God, I wish I was nearer to you. You sound like you just need to pour it all out. Get it all out of your head and your heart.

I'm not going to tell you not to drink, I don't think it will make a difference. If that is how you can get through tonight/tomorrow etc..... then do what you have to.

You know that you have the support of any of us on the bus. No judging here.

I wish that I could take this away from you and wave a magic wand. God, what we'd all give for a magic wand.

Please please keep posting.

Drinking or not, no-one will think any less of you.

You know that drinking will NOT help to make this better. But, I can't make that decision for you. Do whatever it takes. xx

oh thurso!! - i echo every word mouse has said!, you poor thing! ive just sat staring at my keyboard for 5 minutes trying to think of some sort of 'wisdom' for you but im afaid im useless - all i can say is hang on in there - try not to drink as it wont help the situation and just try and trest yourself gently!

Thanks mouse

I really don't have the big problems that other people have, and do wish that I didn't have that glass of champers at 5.30

I have had a mega long chat with my sister, who does understand, so maybe tomorrow will be fine.

You are right, I did need t get it out, no-one knows, you see.

I am very sorry for posting such a downer on Christmas Eve, Christmas hols, bring it all to the fore, I think!

Anyway, I have got black patent four inch heels to wear tomorrow, so I should feel braver

Aaaah, mizz is me1