The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Hi all. Babes seem to be in brighter moods despite the germs and viruses! Someone mentioned before that maybe us women are synchronising our low moods like women do with periods. Made me laugh. What a nightmare that would be, all of us with PMT at the same time . Think I'm premenstrual at the moment and trying to take it easy. I always feel like drinking shit loads when I feel like this so need to watch it tonight

Me too Ruby - I feel very 'fuck it' when I'm hormental!!

MIFLAW - not avoiding your question, giving it serious thought. Am trying to type with one hand as cat on knee and laptop precarious balanced scuse typos. I agree with Wasindie's response but also, for me, there is very little in the way of socialising in my life. We dont have a wide circle of friends, or even a small one come to that. DH has some personal issues including diagnosed paranoia, which makes it difficult for me to go out with girlfriends.he also works shifts and there is no-one to mind DS so we don't go out much. We are short of money so can't afford cinema, theatre, trips out etc. So drinking a glass or four of wine of an evening is my release. Otherwise i just sit in front of the TV or look at the 4 walls filled with resentment and ready to scream
I don't and won't get riotously pissed but I drink to forget what might have been had i chosen a different path in life. So now you know - good enough?

Mouse to hormental!
Hello Ma I admire your frankness to MILFLAW. Hope you're ok? Sounds like you have a tough time there.

I'm ok. It's the way it is. A lot of people have things a lot worse.

Hey Ma

Nice to see you. I'm an expert at one handed typing through having a feeding/sleeping Nemo on my knee!

Hey Mouse. Cat is just taking the piss, sitting on the paper so i can't read it and if i try and move him he will bite me. he is old and crabbit, like me. DD1 and DS are beginning the preparations for canpes for Christmas Eve. DD2 is out and about somewhere. My post to MIFLAW I am regretting already. Like I said, things could be worse. Guess the grass always seems greener elsewhere huh?

I'll stop drinking when it matters enough.

Ma - if that was how you felt at the time (your reply to MIFLAW) then leave it be.

I am a firm believer in saying what is in your heart (or your head) if it's a strong feeling.

You can't stop drinking until it matters ENOUGH!

You have to be ready. You have to want to stop.

But, you know this. Which hopefully is a good thing, and maybe, a sign of things to come.

Always here for you Ma xx

Off to watch TV with DH.

Night all xxxx

I'm ok Mouse. Going to bed in a mo. just had a nice pm from a lurker just shows that it is not only the visible babes who are "travelling" on Gerald.

Night night Mouse was so pleased to see you had a good night with Nemo last night, i hope he does the same for you tonight.
Ma I will be around for a while if you want to chat.

Night Mouse

Ma I'm a newbie but I get the impression that we should feel comfortable to record our feelings on this thread, even if we change our mind. Surely this helps us move through the confusion in our minds (or is that just me

Nice that you had a pm

Night Ma and BB. sleep well

Evening anyone!

how stupid is this? DC1 at uni for most of the year, but tonight I have waited up to make sure that they are safely back from the pub [nutcase icon].

Ah well, seen them safely, if wobbly! up the stairs, and now I am wide awake.

I was on my own tonight, and DH got in from sport, sat down and fell asleep, so am feeling really gorgeous again tonight .

Sleep tight babes.

Just dropping in and out before mum gets up and starts making me feel useless again.

I'm ok - not enjoying my houseguest - but not adding to it with alcohol. Last day at work today with a full on 8 hour clinic then need to food shop, get to the post office and wrap DD's birthday presents for tomorrow. Full of a streaming cold and still fed up but one dat at a time. Will be dropping in and out over Christmas - hang in there, everyone, and love to all.

morning all. Hope you all have good days. I'm lying in the bath with both kids throwing in various toys from the side. Not sure why I decided to have a bath now, I never have one (I do shower though in case you think I'm completely vile).
Wasindie Can we all go to a spa somewhere in Gerald? Fancy a full pamper.

Morning Babes.

What a night!!

No sleep for me, Nemo had an awful night with tummy ache. Ended up in our bed, DH slept through the bloody lot!

I have to drive today on thick snow and ice to get to physio and I'm shitting it.

Soooooooooooooooo tired but if I don't go, I won't be able to walk by the time Christmas Day gets here.

Sorry for moaning!

Wasindie - I did see your link, made me thank you so much.

Ma - how lovely! A PM from a lurker. That's why this thread is so great!

I think putting our feelings down here, in black and white, helps each other, ourselves and people who maybe don't want to post but are following our journeys.

Our Brave Babe Cheerleaders!

I'm up for somewhere lush too please - spa or a nice Thai massage please for my achey back.

noteven - sorry your house guest is grating on you.

Ma

If it's good enough for you it's good enough for me.

I'm just telling you my experience of trying what you're trying which is that, for me, it failed, and horribly so. I got to the position where my life was atrocious with a drink - but, at the same time, I thought drink was my salvation. If this was life WITH a drink, I reasoned, then how could I face a life WITHOUT a drink? I was trapped.

I didn't know then what I know now - that, no matter how bad my problems, there was still a little bit of "wriggle room" for drink to make it worse. Which it invariably did, one way or the other.

Thankfully, I eventually made a move towards sobriety and am happy to report that it is so much better than drinking that there is no real comparison.

Morning all. Well in anticipation of my dsis actually making it through the snow, I am off to brave the shops and get some food. After that a relaxig spa will be just the thing wasindie but tbh I was hoping for something a bit more luxurious than the 'tent-thing'

Do you think that tomorrow we could take Gerald on a flying trip to Thailand? My dd2 has moved on from India to Thailand, and I am really, really missing her. In this run-up to Christmas it feels very odd not to have her cheery face around, and the corner of the house that is her bedroom seems strangely quiet and empty (that will all change tonight when visitors arrive and fill every corner of the house). I would just like to pop in to meet her for a pineapple juice on the beach, each some seafood with her and give her a big hug. Anyone else want to keep me company?

Incidentally I fully concur with the others - if you have any sort of problem with drink AT ALL, the worst thing you can do is to be dishonest, either with others or yourself. If that's how you really feel, you're right to say it.

MOrning everyone

Well I was very good last night, only had 2 small glass's of wine so I have now drunk less over the last 5 days than I have done in years. Unfortunately my DD was poorly again in the night and although she didn't stay awake long each time I lay there worrying about pretty much everything most of the night so now knackered! Good news is though that I might get my car back today - yipeeeeeeeeeee

I can sympathise a bit with what you said last night Ma - my Mum said last night that for financial reasons I shouldn't drink during January but my reply was 'well its my only vice' I stay in on my own most of the time, dont very often smoke, buy designer clothes and sit watching TV with the dog most nights so why not have a glass or 2 of wine. (can already hear MIFLAW's reply asking why can't it be a juice to keep me company)

Poor Nemo - hope you get to Physion OK Mouse

Agree with taking Gerald to a spa - I bribed asked my DS for a shoulder massage last night and he is getting fed up of it.

Morning MIFLAW, venus and Zany

Mainlining coffee as I type this and have to get DH to dig the car out and de-ice/snow it.

Zany - I hope you do get your car back today. I know you folks have been great but I bet you'll feel better for not having to rely on them.

'My only vice' - funny, my mother says that about smoking. She has MS and varisou other health worries. She refuses to quit smoking though.

Even though she has been told to on numerous occasions, to help improve her health. She doesn't drink, or anything else.

Not sure why I'm posting that, maybe because your post reminded me of how annoyed I get with her - not that I'm annoyed with you .

My dad smokes too, they smoke very heavily and it scares me. I guess if they smoked in moderation (is there such a thing?) or socially, I'd be less worried.

If they drank alcohol in the same manner that they smoke, I have no doubt that they wouldn't be here today.