The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Hey Ruby

Sorry you are poorly.

Nemo's feed sets have just arrived! I nearly kissed the delivery guy!!

Wasindie - we had Tesco deliver two hours late on Sunday. But at least they got here!!

Will send all the spare fairy magic I can muster your way lovely lady. xx

At last! at last! my toilet and sink got delivered (delayed by snow for 3 weeks - arrived in Hull last Wednesday). The plumber eventually went to the warehouse himself to collect it because they said it couldn't be delivered till after christmas.

I am now off for a shower in my sparkling new bathroom with fantastic shimmering mosaic tiles and [frin]

I gave the plumbers some Christmas money, and a card. I thought I was being very clever - I went on a translation site an wrote in Polish, thanking them for their hard work. Now dp tells me that 'hard work' is an idiom in the English language and won't necessarily translate with the same meaning. I am now slightly at what I may have written - I may have accused them of being 'difficult' or I may even have thanked them for 'having an erection' in my bathroom

Where is that linguist MIFLAW when you need him?

lmao at venus thanking men for being hard in her bathroom....
Tes - glad I brightened your day. your intervention sure brightened mine!
I know I'm one of the repeat offenders on this bus, can never seem to get past day 2 and i sometimes feel a bit of a failure and guilty for being here when you are all doing so well, but it really does help to be here.
thanks Babes.

To all on Gerald or popping on and off or reading - sending best wishes to all BBs for the Christmas festivities - hope they all are the best they can be. I shall miss catching up on the day's postings over the next week but will remember all of you when asked 'glass of wine?' over the next few days. And I will be saying 'no thank you' one glass, hour, day at a time - that's the plan and the reward will be a sober but happy Christmas and I am looking forward to it. Love to all.

thanks Wasindie - that's my plan too. i can drink reasonably, I just do it too often, if that makes sense. i mean i don't get shite faced but a steady intake on a daily basis is way, way too much to be good for me. I just like the damn stuff too much, but not how it makes me feel!!

I'd always thank someone for "good work" if I wasn't sure about the language thing (and, after all, that's what you're actually thanking them for, isn't it) - I'd rather risk being patronising than risk talking about their sexual prowess!

Wasindie and Demented

Interesting to see your decisions re drinking. Without challenging that decision (which is yours to make, I do understand that) can I ask you why you do not feel abstinence is right for you?

No, not aggressive, and entirely your decision anyway.

But ...

As I was just saying to someone else, I went to AA in a November. I went for a bit, then decided to drink again and go back after Christmas.

Christmas was horrific.

I finally made it back to AA some time towards the end of January after a particularly unpleasant meeting with my employer.

I can't tell you what to do but you need to know what you're taking on in making this decision.

im back! , i still feel awful!, you are so right wasindi, divas really shouldnt get ill like mere mortals! and yes, dh brings me tissues and lemsips and nose cream and magazines and cups of tea and peeled grapes, well he will do, he has just rung to say he will be late home tonight , cant think why he dosent want to come home now! (ever get the impression im a bit 'demanding'? frin!)

anyway, good meeting, all focused on gratitude - i was thinking about it as i walked home - im actually grateful that i got to my 'meltdown' moment - if i hadnt, i would proberbly still be drinking, still be living that kind of half life, forever making deals with myself that were doomed to failure - im so grateful to be here i cant tell you how much!

just got a super picture in my head of a load of polish builders and their bathroom erections!!

Great news Mouse and Venus !!

Glad your meeting went well Jesus sounds interesting focusing on gratitude - often when I am down I think how about how much I have in comparison to lots of people. Always feel v grateful after reading some of the TTC threads - two of my close friends have been trying for a baby for years, going for IVF next year.

I think you have serious determination Jesus to go to meeting when you are feeling so crap - you v much deserved to be waited on by DH!

Indie I have asked DH to maybe moderate his drinking but he seems to think that unnecessary and this chat can often leads to a disagreement or two.

Have lovely evenings one and all .

Do you know, Christmas and New Year were always times of the year for my family and friends to get wasted. We were 'allowed'.

If someone didn't drink, they were thought to be mad to 'miss out' on the opportunity!

(pregnancy and illness aside)

Every Christmas Eve or sooner, the drinking would start in the early afternoon and finish God knows when.

I'd spend money I didn't have, drinking with people I didn't always get on with, or in crowded, smokey pubs, eat half a dead kebabed something, throw up, walk home alone or get in a car to get a lift from someone who'd 'only had a few'.

And then do it all again a week later at New Year. And of course drink in between to stave off the hangovers.

I'd drive to work the next day. Stupid stupid Mouse.

Or I'd stay in with my boyfriend and get smashed with frineds over, then row all night long.

This is all pre DC/DH but when I think back to how reckless I was, it makes me cringe.

What a waste.

So, this Christmas, I know that I will be having a drink. I am planning it. I have bought 1 bottle of fizz for Christmas and another New Years Day and that's it.

DH has a shit load of Guinness from Tesco - they have an offer on - so that will keep him happy.

And other than that, I plan to enjoy my family, maybe have a glass or two and be me.

I've also got loads of yummy soft drinks in, some non alcoholic mulled wine from M&S, cranberry juice, sparkling water etc.....

I won't be risking death by driving, or dodgy kebab. I won't be getting pushed over in a crowded bar, rowing with anyone, getting charged a fortune to get into a club, not getting home and generally crying into my dinner because I had made such a mess of things.

I suppose my point is this, this year, I will be in control of what and how I drink. Who knows, I may even choose not to.

But if I do, at least I know what won't happen.

Hi Babes

Just checking in to let you know I am OK - been mad busy as I am sure you all have. Will be dipping in and out over the festive period but have to spend majority of time at mother's house with family.

Hope you are all good and happy [frin] xxxx

Hey Mouse
Love your plan, sounds familiar to mine I also have champagne for Christmas Eve and NYE. The rest of the time I shall be on Diet Coke which is actually pretty much my most fav drink anyway!

Have happy Christmas Silver - enjoy your family time

I'm not going anywhere till Christmas Day so will be here waffling on about bits and bobs and offering any support I can and calling on some too - thank you

Tes xxx

Silver - have a lovely time! The bus is not stopping it's service because of the festive season!

If anything, there may be more drivers!! [frin]

Tes - I love Diet Coke too! It's addictive!!

I've just glanced out of the window at the moon OMG it's a HUGE one here tonight!!!

Ooo-er!

What is with all my !!!!?