The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

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Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

nomore, no one's going to judge you either way. I know how you feel, though - my drinking wasn't nearly as bad as some people's, but it had disastrous effects and I couldn't control it. Because for ages I thought of it as 'not that bad', I carried on drinking for far too long.

I remember hearing about a woman who went to AA because she drank a small glass of sherry every day. That was all she drank, but she had to have it. She was powerless over the urge to have it, and felt out of control.

Nobody considers doing something about their drinking unless they've got a problem of sorts. AA says 'the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking' - simple as that. If you want to stop, you stop, love!

Silver, I am ! I have no one to babysit so I can only go when exDH has the kids or during the day, but that requires a lot of travelling and I'm usually working. I would so love to go to a Christmas Day meeting.

Glad your DH is being so supportive, and that you're getting a lot out of it. I go to 'good' meetings and 'bad' ones - pretty unpredictable - but I always get something out of them. There is so much wisdom in the rooms. And some really annoying people, too - just like RL .

noteven and cj - I need to step back and think before I post - I am truly sorry. I think that because I've been to a few AA meetings - because I am so full of it all - God I am sorry - you are absolutely right - doesn't matter how much or how often - it's the emotional/mental impact - I shall bow out gracefully now.

And thank you - you have both just given me yet another thing to think about - and ffs my head is bursting as it is.

Anyway Babes

Love you all

Sweet dreams xxx

nomore you said 'I never want to think thats normal and I never want to do it again'.

That seems pretty clear, and makes perfect sense. In some ways you are not in 'early days' but seem to have accepted a very important truth. Some people take ages to get there (I took ten years!) So good for you.

Silver, you're full of positive energy, don't let this burst your bubble. Hope you sleep well - it is you that has been having trouble sleeping, isn't it? Sorry, it's hard to keep up and I'm not exactly a regular ...

noteven sent you a PM

off to bed now babes

sweet dreams x

Morning everyone, such inspirational stuff from yesterday I'm sorry I wasn't around to post, was sorting more Christmas things and out all day. Dh and I went out for dinner last night which was great, cozy and fun and sober.

Venus are you ok? Hope not stuck in travel hell, when are you due to fly back?

Silver you are mixing up me with nomore I think - I got very confused.

I feel really ill. It is my own fault. Today I won't be drinking. I really want to beat this. I am full of self loathing. I can't remember but I phoned AA yesterday - I am going to have to ring back this morning I think. I just feel so desperate and stupid and sad

Hey there noteven you are not stupid
Don't drink today, you can do it.

What happened yesterday?

My new name (late the party as usual... )

morning all!!

nomore - you are quite an inspiration!, i like reading your posts, you sound very deep and also very kind and thoughtful - i know what silver means - us 'everyday' drinkers would sometimes love to be able to have a real drinking day blow out, drink to our hearts content, behave as we like and generally be bloody awful, we simply cant understand that only doing it every few months is a problem for you - the thing is though, you feel it is a problem, its very real to you and the bit i really understand is the fact you dont want to do it again! - to my mind, you are in teh right place!, it really dosnet matter if you arnt a regular piss-head like the rest of us, the urge, when it hits, is just as bloody strong and any support is good! i hope you stay with us, we need you as much as you need us!

today im mostly helping my sil, (dh sister), she has 3 small boys, a bastard soon to be exh, a teaching degree she is trying to do and guess what?, she is knackered and emotional! (her ex left, in true soap opera style on christmas day! [fangy])

so, today im cooking and cleaning, sorting out her decs, doing the christmas food shop (oh fucking hell!!!) for her and getting her ready for christmas!, then tonight dh is taking me out for dinner!

JWN where do you get your energy? I am in bed, lolling, and thinking about moving to the sofa for more lolling
Supposed to be travelling to a party 1.5 hours away tonight, but think the snow might put us off. DH and I have discussed snow plan and how much food we have in the house. Have decided if stocks run low we will have to set student son free (not much meat on him, so not worth keeping).

bb, in truth i would love a 'loll'! , thing is, wrt this sil, i feel very maternal towards her (she is not much older than my dd) - dhs mum died 10 years ago when sil was quite young, sil is quite a vulnerable person and got hooked up with this total arse (i never liked him, always knew he was a liar etc), gets left with 3 kids (new mil totally useless)soo, long story short, i get to pick up the pieces - i dont mind )(to much!)

this snow is an absolute party pooper!!, we are supposed to be going to a lunch party tomorrow, its also an hour and a bit away, dh says he dosent fancy us driving home in the ice , i know, im shallow!, people are really begining to suffer and all im worried about is missing a few partys! , forgive me

OMG Wasandie - you poor thing - nightmare. Hope you've warmed up now x

Nomore - if you are reading please come back and post - I totally mixed things up last night and I am so sorry

Feking snow x

Noteven - try and get to a meeting if you can - know it's difficult with snow/dc and everything - but if you can - go - it will make you feel so much better x

Good afternoon

Just collected children from GPs they had a fantastic time and I managed to laze on the sofa dreaming about how great it will be never to be so pissed that I am actually too scared to ask DH what I did the night before or too pissed that I end up crying to MIL how sad I find it that she is so mean to FIL!!

The drunken stories I could recount from 20 years are full of shame, sick and fighting. The best nights out have always been when I have been sober - which was only when I was pregnant - I still remember clubbing when I was 8 months preganant with DS1, everyone was wasted and I just thought how bloody stupid they looked and sounded - must remind myself of this next time I feel like a drink

Hope everyone is safe and warm at home today I feel an affinity with you all already! One week today - hurrah........think I may namechange to Christmastesontherocks - but that does sound like an alcholic drink so maybe not appropiate .

Thank you again Mouse for great welcome yesterday, hope you all have a top day.

Afternoon Brave Babes.

Lesson number 1) do NOT wash your sleepers down with a lerge glass of red, after having a large glass of red with dinner.

STUPID MOUSE!

Off to catch up.

Or a 'large' glass

Good afternoon all

Silver interesting to hear about the meeting. You are doing so well you should be shouting it from the rooftops IMO.

Nomore I understand what you are saying, I too can go for sometime without drinking and don't find it hard but....when I start I don't stop until I crash. I also drink very fast. However I do tend to drink once a week and recently keep getting hammered and don't remember getting home. That is not right and makes me very very unhappy. No wonder I'm paranoid as hell.

Noteven How are you now? Have you had lots of water? Did you manage to ring AA?

JWN I too admire your energy and your social life

Tes You are sounding much more positive today. Maybe you should change your name to Christmasofftherocks!

WasIndie Hope you're feeling a bit better. You must be fit to walk 6 miles

Where's Mouse and Venus today? I'm used to them being around from my lurking days!

I'm going to change my name to Rubyrednose if I can remember how to do it

There you are Mouse. Did you sleep well?

I've changed it! More festive I hope

Hey Ruby - loving the new name! How are you holding up?

I passed out but I did sleep. I'd had a glass of red with dinner and thought as it was my night off, I'd wash my new sleep meds down with another.

Queue a hic-cup storm and a very cross DH so I ended up snuggled up on the sofa for about an hour before they stopped!

But yes, I slept and felt really refreshed this morning, I was expecting a hangover but didn't get one.

How are we all today?

Finally done Christmas shop online at Tesco - yey - wanted to go to a meeting at 11.00 today but TOO MUCH SNOW - bit annoyed cos someone said it was a good one but on the other hand my head is emotionally battered so maybe a rest is not such a bad thing - KEEP IT SIMPLE as they say.

Nomore - please come back - I got mixed up last night and confused noteven with nomore and wasn't as supportive as I should as been. I fel terrible about it and Nomore please don't let me put you off posting - please come back - we need your fairy lights babe x