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Original poster

this dad at the school gates - these things never end well, do they?

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 09:57

I've read enough of these kinds of threads to know that I should just run as quickly as i can in the opposite direction, possibly screaming to scare him away. And I will, I just need to get this thing (which is really nothing anyway) off my chest first.

So, there's this dad at the school gates, obviously, and it's fittingly teenage really because all he does is stare at me. That's all he does. I know i don't look great first thing in the morning, but it can't just be him wondering how anyone could leave the house looking so crap, because i'm sure he would have got bored of staring by now if that was the case.

I keep telling myself I can just go on ignoring him because I'm married, and he's married and we have two kids each and i'd never want to cause anyone's children pain, or anyone's partner for that matter, especially my own. I think i've just been thinking about this way too much because recently I can't seem to get him out of my head. He's hot, in the slightly eccentric looking way I've always had a weakness for. There's definitely a hint of Johnny Depp about him, which is like someone offering me my wildest fantasies on a plate...

It's all so massively inappropriate, and though i'm definitely not as attracted to dh as i used to be, and we've had quite a few problems, there's no way i could ever act on this.

I hadn't seen his OH before this weekend (although i'd wondered about her a fair bit) when there was this community event we all turned up to with the kids, it was quite a shock to find out she looks quite a bit like me (although i'm not sure why i find that surprising, most people have a type, i suppose). I was even more surprised to find that he was still staring at me. Insensitive prick. If he thinks i'm going to wreck two perfectly good families for the sake of sex then he's mistaken. if he's got issues with his marriage then he needs to work on them with his OH, and I know i need to do likewise. Right?

I can't believe I'm even contemplating any of this. If i was her I'd hate me, and from the look she gave me the other day she probably already does. Jeez, all this and I haven't even spoken to either of them; that's bored shitless village life for you, I suppose.

OP posts:
OhLittleTownOfShirley · 07/12/2010 09:58
Bonsoir · 07/12/2010 09:59

Carry on fantasising.

stickersarecurrency · 07/12/2010 10:00
Hmm
ChippyMinton · 07/12/2010 10:00

Maybe he is cross-eyed?

MistletoeAndWhineWithMe · 07/12/2010 10:00

I think you need Jeremy Kyle's number.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 07/12/2010 10:01
Hmm You sure you havent got a really big bogey permanantly stuck to your face or something?
Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:02

checked for bogies, they're mostly gone.

OP posts:
Theladyevenstar · 07/12/2010 10:03
Hmm
theresapotatoundermysink · 07/12/2010 10:03

hahahahaha.

joke right?

BooBooGlass · 07/12/2010 10:06

I like your Jeff inspired name. But your OP stinks.

Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:08

yes i'm a shit human being for feeling this way. you don't need to tell me.

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Limara · 07/12/2010 10:08

''If he thinks i'm going to wreck two perfectly good families for the sake of sex...''

You have your answer, it's SEX.

Have more with your DH.Xmas Smile

Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:09

why would it be a joke? don't shitty people think pointless crap all the time?

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Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:10

Limara - i know, it's that cliche of going through the motions and remembering what sex was like when we first got together...

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OhLittleTownOfShirley · 07/12/2010 10:10

Frankly, if someone is looking at you with their eyes then I am well shocked.

BelovedCunt · 07/12/2010 10:11

you have never spoken to each other but you already think both your marriages are in danger?

stickersarecurrency · 07/12/2010 10:11

Can I just get this straight ... All this is on the basis that he looks at you? From this you've constructed some sort of elaborate impending affair scenario? I'm sorry but you sound unhinged.

maktaitai · 07/12/2010 10:12

Send your oh to do the drop off for a couple of days.

Crushes happen, and as you clearly know they're usually a sign that you need to sort a few things out at home. Don't castigate yourself and don't spend ages posting about it.

[gavel]

Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:12

yes, of course they usually use their elbows

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HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 07/12/2010 10:14

So what you are really saying is that you fancy him?

Otherwise him staring wouldn't be an issue and you wouldn't be talking of not being prepared to wreck 2 families.

You'd just think "prick" and forget all about him.

Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:14

yes it probably does sound a bit unhinged. i'd probably think the same if i read this tbh

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HuwEdwards · 07/12/2010 10:15

Are you sure it's not your 'issue'?

CatPower · 07/12/2010 10:15

Give him a dirty look, and ask the other mum's if they get any creepy vibes from him. He sounds like a bit of an oddball, to be honest.

Original poster
MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:17

HecTheHalls - yeah probably. maybe i don't want to admit the fact to myself

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Limara · 07/12/2010 10:17

mystery, I'm kinda laughing as I'm typing! It's a crush/fantasy. Ignore the negative comments on here unless they know your a wind-up and I don't Confused. To put it bluntly, have a shag with your hubby that'll do it Grin

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