this dad at the school gates - these things never end well, do they?

[MysteryWhiteGirl]

I've read enough of these kinds of threads to know that I should just run as quickly as i can in the opposite direction, possibly screaming to scare him away. And I will, I just need to get this thing (which is really nothing anyway) off my chest first.

So, there's this dad at the school gates, obviously, and it's fittingly teenage really because all he does is stare at me. That's all he does. I know i don't look great first thing in the morning, but it can't just be him wondering how anyone could leave the house looking so crap, because i'm sure he would have got bored of staring by now if that was the case.

I keep telling myself I can just go on ignoring him because I'm married, and he's married and we have two kids each and i'd never want to cause anyone's children pain, or anyone's partner for that matter, especially my own. I think i've just been thinking about this way too much because recently I can't seem to get him out of my head. He's hot, in the slightly eccentric looking way I've always had a weakness for. There's definitely a hint of Johnny Depp about him, which is like someone offering me my wildest fantasies on a plate...

It's all so massively inappropriate, and though i'm definitely not as attracted to dh as i used to be, and we've had quite a few problems, there's no way i could ever act on this.

I hadn't seen his OH before this weekend (although i'd wondered about her a fair bit) when there was this community event we all turned up to with the kids, it was quite a shock to find out she looks quite a bit like me (although i'm not sure why i find that surprising, most people have a type, i suppose). I was even more surprised to find that he was still staring at me. Insensitive prick. If he thinks i'm going to wreck two perfectly good families for the sake of sex then he's mistaken. if he's got issues with his marriage then he needs to work on them with his OH, and I know i need to do likewise. Right?

I can't believe I'm even contemplating any of this. If i was her I'd hate me, and from the look she gave me the other day she probably already does. Jeez, all this and I haven't even spoken to either of them; that's bored shitless village life for you, I suppose.

Now back to business.

Limara, my "crackers-sounding OP" comment was nothing to do with the literary style of it, it was a fairly kind way to say "you are actually sounding quite mad"

AF you certainly do a cracking apology

Now go and hit yourself on the head a bit more, just for good measure...

ok, yes i probably could adjust my writing style and make it less crappy. Tbh though, when i wrote it i wasn't really thinking; I had just got back from the daily stareathon and it had made me feel a bit odd. Couldn't vent to anyone in RL so i just wrote and posted without really reading it through. If i read it back now i do cringe like anything.

I suppose I've contradicted myself a fair bit already; I'm only human.

The reason I brought up the madonna/whore thing which I think pervades MN as much as anywhere else, was that people assumed I was imagining things and was therefore barking. So basically I'm the little woman who, if she reacts to a man staring at her day after day, is mad, (what man would ever look at a woman other than his wife after all?) whereas he, the one actually doing all the weird staring is entitled to do so without anyone ever even commenting or wondering why he might be doing it. My job is to get the kids there and back, with blinkers on, good little wifey.

this is turning into more of a thread analysis than anything else...

and i also thought that the general consensus that i was out of my tree seemed to be based on even less than the assumptions i had not actually made, but merely postulated, myself. I don't want to turn into one of those 'but you weren't there! You didn't see him!' kinds of posters, but [frustrated emoticon]

Well, this is like a car crash and I cannot stay away. I unhid.

I think your starey guy and you with the crush both sound bonkers.

In my adult life, I could not tolerate anyone staring at me for that long without walking up and asking- "you keep looking at me, do i have a bogie on my face?"

I find it total madness that as an articultae woman you would allow this gaze to fall upon you without questioning it. Futhermore, I found your O.post assumptive and fantastical. I could not square your interpretation of the stare with the possible outcomes.

He really really just might need glasses.

Look it's not just the style, MWG, it's the content.

It just reads like total bollocks. Sorry.

It could be genuine for all I know but even if it is, it makes no sense and is completely pointless.

and if I'm not mistaken, you're a regular on here and all your threads start in a similar fashion.

There's nothing innately wrong I suppose about doing this sort of thing - whether it's researching for a book, making up delusional situations for a sociology paper or whatever - even just for fun. But you really need to write in a way that is believable, or else level with us and let us in on whatever it is you're up to.

I'm afraid I just don't buy your story. Others might, but I cannot suspend my own disbelief adequately.

I hope that didn't come across too harshly.

You haven't done anything wrong, and I don't mean to get at you. I am in a speak my mind mood tonight I'm afraid.

MysteryWhiteGirl, is it your eldest DC starting school for the first time? I mean, is it your first experience (term) of the school gates?

CTW, I do proper apologies, that is for sure