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this dad at the school gates - these things never end well, do they?

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 09:57

I've read enough of these kinds of threads to know that I should just run as quickly as i can in the opposite direction, possibly screaming to scare him away. And I will, I just need to get this thing (which is really nothing anyway) off my chest first.

So, there's this dad at the school gates, obviously, and it's fittingly teenage really because all he does is stare at me. That's all he does. I know i don't look great first thing in the morning, but it can't just be him wondering how anyone could leave the house looking so crap, because i'm sure he would have got bored of staring by now if that was the case.

I keep telling myself I can just go on ignoring him because I'm married, and he's married and we have two kids each and i'd never want to cause anyone's children pain, or anyone's partner for that matter, especially my own. I think i've just been thinking about this way too much because recently I can't seem to get him out of my head. He's hot, in the slightly eccentric looking way I've always had a weakness for. There's definitely a hint of Johnny Depp about him, which is like someone offering me my wildest fantasies on a plate...

It's all so massively inappropriate, and though i'm definitely not as attracted to dh as i used to be, and we've had quite a few problems, there's no way i could ever act on this.

I hadn't seen his OH before this weekend (although i'd wondered about her a fair bit) when there was this community event we all turned up to with the kids, it was quite a shock to find out she looks quite a bit like me (although i'm not sure why i find that surprising, most people have a type, i suppose). I was even more surprised to find that he was still staring at me. Insensitive prick. If he thinks i'm going to wreck two perfectly good families for the sake of sex then he's mistaken. if he's got issues with his marriage then he needs to work on them with his OH, and I know i need to do likewise. Right?

I can't believe I'm even contemplating any of this. If i was her I'd hate me, and from the look she gave me the other day she probably already does. Jeez, all this and I haven't even spoken to either of them; that's bored shitless village life for you, I suppose.

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LoudRowdyDuck · 07/12/2010 10:17

'all he does is stare at me. That's all he does.'

Phwoar! That gormless staring eh, always a favourite with the ladies.

You'd find me dead sexy before the first coffee of the morning, I stare like a zombie too. See if you can get human speech out if him if you wave a mug of Starbucks' finest under his nose.

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:18

CatPower - that was my first thought, when the very uneventful staring began months ago. I don't know what's happened to me between then and now tbh

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Chandon · 07/12/2010 10:19

there is a dad at the school gates who likes to make comments on my legs and how long they are, sometimes I catch him staring.

He has asked me to join a stall at the christmas fair Wink
. I said i was doing the cake stall this year. (yawwwwwnnn anyone asleep yet?)

But I do not think either of our marriages is in danger Grin

it does add a bit of sheen to my boring life though. A tiny tiny bit. I get more "sheen" out of my DC running towards me after school iykwim.

ChickensHaveNoMercyForTurkeys · 07/12/2010 10:19

He might have shit eyesight. I often appear to be staring at people. In reality I just happen to be facing in a certain direction and can't focus past my own nose. Perhaps he doesn't put his contacts in first thing or something. I do think you're getting rather carried away, considering he hasn't even spoken to you or anything. He might be looking at you thinking 'Cor, that woman over there keeps staring at me. She really looks like the missus'.

Limara · 07/12/2010 10:19

LoudRowdyDuck Xmas Grin

MabelMay · 07/12/2010 10:21

mysterywhitegirl - you don't sound unhinged at all. You sound like someone with a crush. Which, yes, I suppose can send one unhinged.

If you can just enjoy the looks and the mutual appreciation with this other guy then what's the harm? It sounds like it'll make the school run so much more enjoyable - and give you a reason to think about which angle you want to tip your woolly hat at, etc etc.

You've done nothing wrong; he's done nothing wrong. Enjoy the admiration. Absolutely no harm done and it might even get you feeling more sexy about yourself so you can bring that back to the bedroom with your DH.

Just DON'T take it anywhere else okay?? I'm a hypocrite because that's what I did and then you start down the slippery slope.

You're allowed to look and enjoy OP! As is he.

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:21

Limara - i know. I really can't imagine anyone would make up such a nothingy OP, even me. there's much more interesting things i could concoct if i put my mind to it.

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QuintessentialShadows · 07/12/2010 10:23

He sounds half asleep, or rude. It does not sound like he has the hots for you. I do however think that you must be very bored.

Do you work? If so, get busy.

If not, try run some laundry through. And sit on the machine.

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:24

MabelMay - i must be unhinged cos now i'm wondering how you knew about my woolly hat Grin then i remembered it's fucking freezing... Blush

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:25

QS - you get to work and get orf my thread if you're gonna be so scathing. haven't i been self deprecating enough?

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QuintessentialShadows · 07/12/2010 10:27

I was trying to be humorous, but seeing as you are getting pissy with posters whose replies you don't like, I think I will stick around. There may be a bun fight later on. Wink Wouldnt miss out on some midweek fun.

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:28

oh, ok you came off as rude, and i think you'll find you're the only person i've been in any way pissy with

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ChippyMinton · 07/12/2010 10:28

Quint - sit on the machine - LOL

ABird · 07/12/2010 10:28

Wow. A man who just stares at you, even when his OH is with him. Sounds quite a catch.

MabelMay · 07/12/2010 10:29

MysteryWhiteGirl, ignore the negative posts. You've done nowt wrong.

MabelMay · 07/12/2010 10:30

can i just ask why the bitchiness to the OP?

Limara · 07/12/2010 10:31

I used to get all giggly with a school dad. It was weird because I didn't really fancy him. Even now, I can't articulate what was going on in my noggin Xmas Grin

Nothing will come of this Mystery but as Mabel said enjoy it definately use it as an excuse to make an effort with DH.

Got dressed to kill this afternoon, have a chat because you'll be feeling mighty fine Xmas Grin and take the feeling you get from chat and go shag hubby ha ha ha [frgin]

I'm so WRONG aren't I !

LoudRowdyDuck · 07/12/2010 10:32

Sorry, if that's the case I expect I sounded rude too.

I didn't mean it nastily, just misjudged how you were feeling.

Limara · 07/12/2010 10:32

Got go

Eurostar · 07/12/2010 10:33

the devil makes work for idle hands....

look for the joy in what you have, not in what you don't have...

1234ThumbScrew · 07/12/2010 10:33

How do you know that the staring is attraction staring as opposed to something else?

Are his dc's in the same class as yours? Are you likely to ever speak to him? If you do, do you think that ripping clothes off and being taken against behind the playground bikesheds is likely?

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MysteryWhiteGirl · 07/12/2010 10:34

thanks Mabel, i think you have to expect it with this topic tbh; i'm a woman who thinks someone else's oh might fancy me and therefore i'm evil/deluded/insane. this is MN after all.

Limara - you are right, I do need to do some flame fanning (or dodging in the case of this thread).

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Limara · 07/12/2010 10:34

Oh Eurostar, lighten up will you Xmas Grin Devil my arse.

Limara · 07/12/2010 10:35

Mystery, go prep your bits Xmas Grin

Hullygully · 07/12/2010 10:39

You're just bored.

But be careful.

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