It's all about......ME! :)

[BibiBlocksberg]

Hello to all and a Medal for those of you that stayed over all 16 pages of the 'It's all about him' thread.

Since it has gotten so big and since I will most likely going to be droning on about this for a little while I thought it would be easier to just start a new thread.

Must say I prefer the new title

For those that didn't read the mammoth previous thread, in a nutshell it's about me dithering to leave partner of 8 years. No sex life for a year, he's very self centred and unmotivated etc, no future to speak of, fed up.

Finally told him I want to split up last night so am now using MN as my lifeline to ensure I really do get out of this excuse for a relationship.

Thank you all again for letting me do this and your support :)

I have had lots of support already and don't want to diminish that but you guys know me as well .

Hi Fab, can you link it?

Hi EAM.here though we have talked and I think we might be okay .

Sorry, I'm just responding to the bump as I've not seen your thread for a while, Bibi. Hope the and [freedom!] are still making you

Hmm, think I'll brave the gale to get some of my own ...

Hello all,

Sorry you've been having a hard time ImFab but I've had a peek into your thread and looks like you got plenty of the usual common sense and sympathic advice famous to MN :)

I've been busy this weekend for a change. Had my long awaited day out at Hampton Court yesterday and have been recovering from all that walking today :)

Nice to see you Grace, hope you're well and yes the and freedom are still making me extatically

Ooh love the although I'm not drinking any at the moment since I fell off the wall last week. Cuts are healing nicely. Public opinion is divided as to whether I was pissed or DH beat me up! Neither is true.

I moved into my new house this week. Now sitting watching Wallander and chilling.

Glad your day out went well Bibi and you are

Wow NoNames - moving day was today??

Congratulations, evidently it all went well since you are sitting watching TV :)

How does it feel in the new place so far? Do the kids like it? Any comments/trouble from husband? Why do I ask so many questions? Is the moon made of cheese?

V. excited for you and glad to hear your 'humpty dumpty' scars are healing :)

...sorry, not moving day today just read properly

Trying to wrestle new Hifi into it's new home atm as well as MN'etting. Not the best combination evidently :)

Yes all went well thanks. New washing machine delivered and broadband went in as planned on the day

Lots of friends turned up to help/bring flowers/champagne/chocolates

DC like it although it is further away from them (800 yards instead of 500!!) and downhill which is good coming on bikes and bad going home.

DH likes the house. No trouble there.

It feels open and out in the weather. I can watch dog walkers, sea gulls and boats from the window. There is a veranda for watching sunsets and drinking gin. It is lovely!

Now I have to plan a housewarming with lots of

ImFAB I just read your thread. You are amazing and FAB. Hearing of your struggle reminds me of when my DC were tiny and how hard it was to set boundaries and enforce them and how I felt like such a witch.

I remember when I picked them up from school the teacher would often say how good they were and then they would let rip all the way home. I think that is the sign of a good mother that they know how to behave in public but can take their frustrations out on you afterwards. Doesn't half hurt though!

Sorry NoNames was asking re DH as for some reason I thought it was only you and the DC moving to the new place.

Liking the sounds of sunsets and gin :)

New house new name! (Am slightly worried DH still stalks MN looking for me)

Night all

I cannot believe it - just sat down with a glass of something fizzy to have my own private valintines celebration and the phone rings.

It's the captain, thought I'd better answer it in case its anything about the car.

Wrong - he's phoning to wish me a happy valintines day. So far so weird.

Apparently he's got me a present but doesn't know if it's not too cheesy.

What the fucking fuck fuck??????????

Asked him if he phoned for any other reason but no. He's been trying to pluck up the courage to phone me for weeks and that interests me how?

Asked what I've been doing - couldn't resist, told him the truth - enjoying myself, re-arranging the house to my liking, generally pleasing myself and having a great time.

He didn't like that one bit and got all shirty telling me 'I get the impression you're happy you can dry your hair in peace now'

Yes, genius, that's why we split up, you've got it in one

Also had the gall to ask me if I'd changed my mind about us getting back together 'yet'

I put the phone down turned it off and disconnected the landline as well.

Cheeky git!! Who does he think he is????

Sorry for the ramble, am quite calm but a bit worried that after everything that's happened and two months between us he hasn't accepted it's over and just been sat at his mothers waiting for me to call and tell him all's forgiven.

Just more proof you made the right decision and he hasn't listened. It isn't your problem that he thinks it is a temporary break, just make sure he knows it is permanent if he rings again.

One of my exes used to ring when dh was there and it was very awkward. I was polite but cool and he soon got the message.

Thank you ImFab - didn't think anyone would be about tonight. Just letting off steam really.

Still quite angry though and also a bit 'hmmm'. I feel as if I 'push' it too much he could get really arsey.

He wants to come over at the weekend - no thanks!!!

Arrrrggghhhh - he sounded sooooo whiney and like it's all about him. Absolutely no thought has been wasted on me - AGAIN.

Well, as you say Fab, nothing I didn't know already. Just sounds even worse hearing the little boy act after the break i've been having.

Git......!!!'

Get call minder and then ignore his calls?

Yep if it's the landline I'll let the A/P catch it I think and ignore ignore ignore any calls received on the mobile.

Really, do you even need to talk to him anymore?

Well, I still have his car so next step will be him demanding that back I should think.

Have been desperately trying to raise some money to buy my own as can't get to work any other way but hitting a brick wall so far.

It's not good I know and he'll more than likely use that to string me along now.

He can't string you along unless you let him..

Yes, you're quite right, stringing along isn't the right term really. Playing on it, keeping up contact for as long as he can now is more what I was thinking.

Thank you for answering my posts tonight btw, bubbles from the fizz have gone straight to my head and will head off to bed I think [lightweight emoticon] :)

Sorry to be selfish, you must let me know how you're getting on now as well!

Good work tonight thinking/talking this through. He's a deluded bugger isn't he. He may never clock on that it's over for good, even if you get married to someone else and have 5 children :o

Hi Bibi and co
Any news on selling the special moped yet? Has the man found the garage key? You need that money for your car. Maybe you could tell the Cap'n that you can't give his car back till the moped is sold so he needs to help get a key.

Sleep well

No worries, happy to listen .

He hasn't changed. He won t accept it is really over but isn't trying to win you back, is he?

@ Elephants, 5 kids, snort!

"Maybe you could tell the Cap'n that you can't give his car back till the moped is sold so he needs to help get a key."

No news on the key LittleHouse but was thinking along the same lines as you re. tying the return of the car up with selling the bike.

Sigh, still feel a bit freaked out by the whole thing this morning.

Just can't understand how someone can so blatantly ignore everything they've been told and live in a total fantasy world.