It's all about him

[BibiBlocksberg]

Can't believe I'm going to even talk about this without namechange but need to know I'm not imagining things. So, dp and I were laughing at the cat who was all snuggled into him this morning and started purring loudly when started to stroke and fuss her. Cue us laughing about how much she's enjoying being fussed.

Dp turns round to me and says 'I haven't been fussed in ages (in little boy voice) meaning sex of course.

We haven't had sex coming on for about a year now which is my fault since I have totally gone off it. Any attempts to talk about it have failed since he refuses to take on board some of the things I don't like/reasons I feel I've gone off the idea completely.

Have talked to gp 4 times now re no libido but other than swapping brands of the pill they don't know what could be causing it so am now stuck for ideas.

Anyway am just absolutely livid since it always seems to be about him him him in the bedroom. That comment earlier just made me so angry. Not 'we haven't done anything for ages, do you feel like it etc, no just He hasn't had it for ages.

All topped off with a wobbling bottom lip face and lots of sighing when i went to make a cup of coffee.

Just so tired of it all being my fault really, thanks for reading this ramble.

I'm liking your attitude. And the fact that Mum's got an air bed!

You mean you are not even sure he has actually spoken to his mother about moving out ?

I thought she had offered ?

I thought you had spoken to his sister ?

He is pissing you around and you are letting him.

Well I was until last night. Yes spoke to his sister but she's not close to their mother and can't offer him any shelter either so not much use.

Mother is out at the moment so will call her again a bit later.

Lazarus got out of bed just as I came in through the door and is now tucking into thick peanut butter on toast. Not particularly sick then as suspected.

Hey Bibi, just checking in...stay strong

know exactly what you mean about not wanting to use up your 'real life friends', its hard isn't it? Don't worry though, we are all here because we want to be!!

You are not gullible, just very nice indeed and expecting areasonable response from some one who is behaving like a baby.

keep strong, keep repeating your message and you'll get there in the end.

Can you book a good holiday with a great mate?? Totally recommend that after man-blues!!!

you ok, bibi ?

Remember, any whining from him about trying again or asking you for justifications should be met with the broken record - 'This relationship is over. You need to move out. There's nothing to discuss.'
You do not have to explain yourself to him, you do not have to give any reasons, there is no need for any reason other than that you do not want the relationship to continue.
Best of luck, hope you've got rid.

Hi all, yes am fine, bit full of wine though as went to see my friend round the corner. Couldn't stand another night of sitting in this house with him.

Cap'n sorry and his mother both tell me that the bed is there and ready for him and he will move his stuff out tomorrow nIght.

I could be free of him by this time tomorrow! That'd be great! Just me and the cats :)

And my MN friends of course !!

(and us)

< twitch >

Am rofl at you AF one minute after i realised I'd left out the most important people!

I do mean that since you all saved me again last night.

Tbh I had started to give in to captain sorry's ideas about a rosy future when the questions and comments started up again on here.

I read your encouragement and told the cap'n I was very sorry but the surreal situation of us still living together led me to believing (falsely) that my future is with him when really what I need is for him to get the hell out of this house.

V. embarrassed to admit it but I nearly caved. Well am a human after all, that's my excuse.

Your prods and responses came just in time last night, without them i would have a foot back in hell.

Thank you so much, would not have got this far without you!!!

stop thanking us, you daft wine-sozzled mare

Hic! Am off to bed now anyway AF (said in mock hurt and dismayed tone)

Tune in tomorrow for another episode of 'will she won't she, tell the useless sod to finally sling his hook'

Goodbye to Captain Sorry, playing now at Bibi's local Plaza.

You'll be dandy now.

excellent x-post wrt screening of this sorry saga

the bed is there and ready for him and he will move his stuff out tomorrow night. I could be free of him by this time tomorrow!

yeee-haaaa!!!

Captain Sorry's got to go
Even though he says no no no.
Cap'n Sorry with his PS3
And his what about me? Me, me, me.
Poor Cap'n Sorry, can he survive
Without Bibi to let him skive, skive, skive.
No worries there mate, Sorry's not dumb,
If he can't leech off Bibi he'll leech off his mum.
The kindness of women, now ain't that a joke?
There's a wonderful woman for each selfish bloke
Now sweet Bibi, what about you?
What are you & your cats going to do?
Bibi & cats running free, free, free!
No PS3, no "what about me" ...
Oh wait, yes, Bibi says ME ME ME
MY life, MY home, MY time to be ME!
Supernoodles!
Sounds good.
(la la la la)

< tinkles the ivories >

< harmonises >

nice work there, AF

Yahoo! How about washing all your bedding and have clean everything--mattress cover, sheets, bedspread. Then you could clean the bathroom and have a nice hot bath when he is gone. What else? Call for takeaway as he goes out the door? Maybe that's not right......oh, I know, have it delivered as he is leaving! Congratulations from snowy Ohio!

Cake anyone?

Haha! I had one of those! The cake shop was so chuffed for me, they sent flowers

Lovely songsmithing there grace. Feel v honoured that songs are being written about the tale of Bibi :)

Kind of reminds me of the 'brave sir robin' songs in that Monty Python film

Please let today be the capn's last day in this house!

Today's the day Bibi had her house back!!

Not quite as good as Grace's but sing it to Today's the day the teddies had their picnic and it doesn't sound too bad. Best I can do at this time in the morning .

The wobbling is to be expected because we are all creatures of habit, and it seems easier not to change a situation than to make the effort to change it.

You will have mixed feelings for quite a while as your life will seem unfamiliar.

Keep re-reading the thread. And actively schedule stuff for yourself to begin the new life in earnest. Don't just live the same life but with him absent.

How's the house looking today? bloke-free, I hope!!

I used to have intense nightmares where I was back with ex-h without knowing how or when and that he was behaving totally as though nothing had happened. I think it was because I was so worried I would cave to his persuasion tactics and end up stuck back in dullsville.

Horrible!!