The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Vineyard.

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Welcome to the Bus!

I'm Mouse and you'll find me snuggled sat at the back where it's warmest!

If you're sober, drinking, or somewhere between the two, you are more than welcome on board.

No judging, no cliquey groups and no closed minds here, oh no! Chances are, no matter how bad you may be feeling right now, one of the Brave Babes will have been there too!

So, come say hi.

And, to read the last thread and other journeys so far, follow this link

Evening all - major success here...

after the phone caal from ex, I had pretty much decided that I was going to have some wine. There is a bottle of white in the fridge...which is stupid but that's a whole other story....

As I was pottering around the kitchen I got as far as geting the wine glass out busily justifying why it would be OK...

then thought, as well as feeling low, I was also really thirsty, so made a deal with myself that I would have a large glass of water, and if I still wanted wine I would have some.....and I didn't.

So, had more water with my tea, and the craving was gone.

The other thing is, water tastes really delicious now...it never used to.

Thanks for the amazing advice everyone....
x

Muttering to self.......must stop typos!!

Well done whitcheychicky

How are you doing zany

"Since then, have spoken to my DP, who I have been with for 15 months and had our first argument last night when he was over here. The reason for drinking? - maybe - though I think work stress is more likely which is a shame and a problem as that is less fix-able."

Do you think there is any chance that actually the drinking is the reason for the argument - i.e. that you engineered a row so you would have an excuse to drink?

You really wouldn't be the first ...

Or the last....

I'm doing OK, unfortunately had a few drinks tonight but definately less than I would have had a week ago.

Just spooked out now at the wind, not a good idea to see Paranormal Activity 2

Hi and thanks to everyone that welcomed me onto the bus! Hi mouse. I'm loving it here...I race to log on whenever I can!

Ex dh has been sending me weird texts tonight, the latest one detailing a dream of a sexual nature he had about me .He has clearly been drinking. (Not saying he has a problem like me, but it's just so obvious he's tipsy from the way he's texting as we're not really even at the amicable stage of our split. Civil for the kids, but that's about it.)

I am SO SO glad I am on day 2 and sober, because otherwise I would no doubt reply and say things that I would regret in the morning.

Ooooh zany was the film any good? For some crazy reason I really fancy seeing it!

Well done Embrace on day 2, like you say you would be tempted to text back things you may regret in the morning so good on you for not drinking tonight.

Night everyone, very windy on the bus tonight

MILFLAW good to hear from you x

Good morning babes, and well done witchety and well done embrace.

Things outside are a little calmer here this morning - hope everyone survived the stormy night.

MIFLAW - you are wise as ever. I really don't think so though because he behaved really out of character last night. Though I am sure I am capable of that sort of behaviour.
Anyway. Today I will not be drinking. Two glasses could have been worse. Off out for a busy day with an ok head but a guilty conscience. Work is a nightmare at the moment.

Can someone put the bloody heating on - it's freezing!

Good morning :)
WELL DONE witchety, although I haven't got wine in the house now, you did exactly what I've been doing, and poured a large glass of something non-alcoholic, I'm amazed, but it works. The wanting a drink goes away quite quickly.

Congrats embracing, and zany well done for stopping when you wanted to and not letting the drink take control.

I am having so much better sleeps these days, it's unbelievable. Day 16 :)

Have a lovely morning all xx

P.s I hope your face is better mouse, and that nemo is keeping his feeds down.(hug icon)

Good Morning BB's. Well I am having a shitty time! Long story involving ears, sinus's, possibly teeth, vats of Antibiotics, probably Thrush to look foreward to, a patronising Dentist who I want to stab with something pointy , and a Doctor who I love in an entirely inappropriate way So coping well and being a grown up! But today I will not be drinking. This will pass and things will look better.

Hi embracing maybe we could give our ex's each others phone numbers and they can pester each other rather than us!
I am still aiming to be civil...usually manage it in front of DC, but if it wasn't for them I would choose to never speak to him again.

Sounds horrible missP I once had an emergency dentist drill 3 of my teeth due to not being able to locate the source of my excruciating toothache, only to have my own dentist diagnose it 2 days later as sinusitis, which he treated with horse strength AB's.
Look after yourself today
x

morning all. failed last night but wasn't even up for the fight. Walked deliberately into the boxing ring with my hands by my sides and said "oh just hit me and have done with it".
Paracetamol for headache, nowt for the guilt

morning ladies!!!, nice to see you all!, missp, i was once laying on the chair at the mercy of the dentist when he said 'oh, you need some root canal work', i had heard about this and how dreadfully painful it was and the tears just trickled down my face!, honest to god though, i didnt feel a thing!! sending tooth fairy thoughts your way!!

im having a crisis of a different kind - the last few days I FEEL OLD!! , i have never worried about my age or the ageing process before but the last few days i have felt quite down about it - i feel like my wardrobe is full of inappropriate clothing, i feel lumpy and saggy and actually a bit of a misery - my dm has always been on at me to be 'classic', well (stamps feet!!), i dont fucking want to look like miss fucking marple, i want to look like me!! what is wrong with me at the moment?, what with bloody empty nest syndrome, wrinkle watch and the fact i feel like i need a 'frump alarm' everytime i get dressed i feel like im loosing me!!

Good morning all,

special hello to embracing again - well done for getting through the day.

MissP sounds like you are having a shit time of it at the moment. Hope things get better soon.

Still bloody windy here but at least there's no rain!

I had a nice chilled evening with FB. Met him in the pub, had a lime and soda(!!) Then we went back to his and watched TV. And yes, had 2 glasses of wine but left it there. Not ideal but not horrific.

Hope that everyone else achieved what they wanted.

Been going through a similar crisis JWN which explains why I am getting my hair cut and coloured tomorrow (coloured RED), feel like I have lost my own identity and want to stop fading into the background and kick-start a new and interesting me {grin]

ma well done for coming back and posting. Can you say what your trigger was and think of some strategies to avoid picking up again?

JWN I have never seen you but I bet you are NOT frumpy. In my mind you are some gorgeous, glam, flirty blonde! Get some of your beautiful heels on!

red!!! thank you my love!!!

MOrning everyone

The film was brilliant Embrace, definately need to see the first one as they are linked, not been so scared at a film for ages, still have trouble sleeping though.

Sorry to hear you are feeling down JWN why don't you try a mini makeover to give you a boost, you could get your makeup done at one of the big department stores.

I'm out tonight and although I know I'll have a few I'm determined not to go overboard otherwise that's tomorrow wasted

Red, I think the trigger for me is when things are getting on top of me and I start feeling depressed and hopeless. So then I give up as if it's, "fuck it, things are crap anyway, might as well make them crapper" which is not the slightest bit logical or sensible but there you go.
I'm just very down at the moment for a number of reasons, and finding the energy to just go through the motions is hard, let alone having the energy to fight the demon.