The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

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Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

Aa for me. Miflaw I always knew you were right. Jwn thank you from the bottom of myheart. Love and strength to the others I knew on here. Truth is yo yo doesn't cut it. A drop or two thinking you can control it doesn't cut it. If you, like me, have a problem not a habit look back over the early miflaw stuff he's on it! Love to my computer fairies xxxxxxxx

mouse (and all the other babes) Thank you, your post has hit the nail on the head.

There is a bottle of red in the house & I haven't opened it & because I haven't neither has DH. He went to bed at 10 as he is working long hours, we had a nice dinner & I have had one smirnoff but I also turned off my laptop - habit = getting pissed & talking bolloxs online instead of talking to DH. I have spent the night craving to log on & see how you are all doing instead of craving that bottle in the kitchen.
I have watched the little house & I am now ready for my bed.

I'm not ready to name change just yet as I am still flame faced at my recent behaviour & it's not something I can even type let alone say out loud but I know feel ready & able to try very hard.

Positive vibes to all the babes you have all dragged me into a positive place.

Night all x

Me too. Heading for bed and sober.

Just as we were about to eat dp said "shall I open some wine?" He was sort of talking to himself, but I answered him and said I didn't care either way. But inside i was half shouting 'don't tempt me' and half shouting 'give me an excuse'.

Anyway no wine consumed by either of us. he had a whiskey later on. Phew, made it through another day.

Lovely to see you around algee

Morning all, first post of the day :) Hope all the people who drank last night aren't feeling too bad this morning and are full of enthusiasm for the coming day!
Well, I still haven't drank, day 10, in double figures, woo. I ain't half tired though, Dd was not amused last night, would not settle, up every hour then finally settles in our bed at about 12 til 5, I have to get up at 6 though so I am a very tired pie indeed. I think you people who turn down booze when offered by oh are amazing, its one thing to avoid it but quite another to refuse it when offered and when someone else is drinking (thanks lucky stars dh has given up with me)

Morning Hubba bloody well done on double digits, Day 3 here for me and my aim at the minute is to reach double figures, often have a drink during the week but real danger point starts on Friday, can't honestly remember the last time I got through a weekend without booze. Fingers crossed this time next week I will be celebrating Day 10 as well!

Morning Hubba and all you other lovlies who either drank or didn't last night. Don't feel too bad this morning because I stopped in time last night but still really pissed off with myself. Just checked the fridge - didn't get through the whole bottle which is a miracle.

WTF do I do when I get the craving though? It started yesterday at 3pm whilst I was still at work and I was just counting down the hours until I could get to Tesco!

Hope all my computer fairies (love it Algee) have a good day, will report back ce soir.

Morning Dipso don't beat yourself up, as Mouse said yesterday we are all here for a reason, we all have a problem with alcohol. Stay away from Tesco today:)

thoroughly deserved hangover this morning - i wish I could bottle this crappy feeling and use it every time I feel the urge.
Today, Babes, I will not be drinking

desire i am sure that this time next week we shall be celebrating your double digits! And thank you to all for the congrats, I do feel very pleased with myself. As for the cravings Dipso, have you tried treating yourself to a big wedge of cake or treating yourself to something else not booze related? I substituted going to the pub with going to the cafe for a nice tea and some cake.
Oh dear wasindie, do your dts not sleep well or was it a one off? I'm going to get out in a minute and wander around for most of the day just so I dont veg on the sofa all day.

Dipso, I think that not finishing the bottle was a triumph, really. Almost harder than not drinking at all, that. Beating yourself up for drinking is SO counterproductive.

Wasindie lol at dts. Reading your dtwins as dts makes it read as though you are not serious about giving up because you are immersed in your own symptoms.

Saw this in the Observer at the weekend. I hadn't heard of the writer but it is an interesting <a class="break-all" href="//tale.www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/oct/31/once-upon-a-life-athol-fugard" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">tale.www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/oct/31/once-upon-a-life-athol-fugard

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Totally agree with Forthe, well done on not finishing the bottle Dipso, I know if it had been me who had opened the bottle there is no way it would have been left unfinished:(

Morning babes and blokes, hello to all the new peoples!

Apologies once again for ducking in and out, I have given up on trying to read what I have missed, I think I've missed this whole thread!

So, quick introduction I am MsGee and have a DD and have been sober for 10 and a half weeks. I tested have an odd glass of wine last week but its not for me. I prefer not drinking now. Much less grey area to worry about.

Something to think about ... When our DC learn to do something new it different for each child. For some, its not a linear process, they do it once, then struggle a bit, then do it sporadically before it becomes the norm. Others watch and wait till they are fully ready and then do it fine first time. My DD has to try things before she is ready, she has to do it for herself, she has to struggle because she can only learn from her own mistakes, she cannot learn from other people. My DN learns by watching others, she doesn't even try till she is 110% ready to do it perfectly. Perhaps there are similarities for some here. We all learn differently and we are all on different stages of our journey. Just a thought.

Anyway, that is my wisdom imparted for the day [hgrin]. I am very tired as DD was up in the night (although less tired than wasindie no doubt). I am full of a cold, feeling sorry for myself and for those of you who remember LittleMsGee and her poo traumas... the move has sent us right back there again.

But on the positive side, new house is shaping up and kitchen will be finished by the end of the week and my office will be done in a week or two (wasindie will ask you about filing systems again soon). I am also confident that chocolate buttons will prove to be a good bribe for DD to get through poo-traumas and although I forgot to do the new system to help her at nursery (so turned up and found out key worker off for the the day and DD unprepared) DD was a star and coped pretty well.

Big love to everyone, hope Mouse and Nemo are doing ok, wasindie get some coffee and hope everyone else doing well. x

If it helps anyone with the Tesco temptation, someone said that they started shopping at Asian supermarkets to avoid the wine aisle.

Demented, and anyone of a similarish age, do you remember the Punch and Judy guy in Hi-di-Hi?

Hi Forthevery, I remember Punch and Judy but not in Hi-di-Hi (I'm 38), I only seem to remember all the mad ladies!

Dipso that's an amazing feat to put the bottle back in the fridge unfinished! That just wouldn't happen in this house. Actually it might, but it would be the 2nd or 3rd bottle!

JWN hope you feel better today. When I'm drinking even a lurgy didn't stop me from trying to have a drink, reminds me of MIFLAW's comment that you need incredible willpower TO drink, not NOT to drink.

Hello to everyone else, Thoroughly well done last night

I'm on Day 3 without a drink (and I look like shit!)

have a good day all xx

Am with Threesteps here Forthe, I remember Hi-di-Hi but not Punch & Judy man

Hi Babes and guys,

Day 6 for me, can't remember the last time I didn't have a glass of wine for 6 days consecutively. Felt really down last night though, and my sleep seems to be getting worse, not better. The first few nights were ok, maybe because I was emotionally shattered!

Also (feel really disloyal here), as I've said Dh very supportive, and always been fab about helping me to cut down/stop the wine, and listened to me endlessly. But....have noticed in the last week, that unless he's out playing sport, he falls asleep in front of television at about 9.30, and doesn't talk to me.

I hadn't really noticed before, probably because I was a bottle down, reading my book, and then going to bed. He has always been so great when I've been tragically needy, and ashamed...mmmmm. This sober lark throws up (bad choice of words:)) other issues methinks.

I hope everyone is having a good day, and once again thank you.

Hi Thurso
The sleep disruption is a problem for me too. Last night had most of a bottle of red and slept like a log, didn't even hear DH getting up on his nightly trips to the loo. When sober, I sleep badly.
On another note - we had health checks in work today and I am truly horrified at my weight, wasit measurement, cholesterol and BMI. So much of this is alcohol related - if this doesn't act as a spur, nothing will!

Morning all, not given myself much time to catch up as I am trying to keep busy. Girls back at school today & I have somehow agreed to make everyone different dinners tonight so I am currently making slow cooked sticky ribs with sweetcorn fritters & hash browns for one lot & then slow cooked chicken casserole with roast potatoes, cabbage & a gint yorkie I never cook for them all seperatly so they must have noticed my good mood & jumped on it.

Sleep is dreadful & i look like crap, I think I finally fell asleep around 1am & then had some on & off wacky dreams before getting up at 6.30.

Not feeling great & have a bad tummy but I am so glad I didn't drink last night & I am planning on not drinking wine again tonight.

Hope you are all ok, I will shorten my post's soon I promise - to much to say right now!! x x

I know what you mean THURSO I havenoone that I trust enough to tell how I feel & noone I don't trust to interupt & tell me what they think I should be doing!!

I am looking foward to springing out of bed or even shock horror getting up before the girls but at the minute I am sooo tired all the time. I suppose I have fallen into unconscious sleep for so long I now haveto teach myself to sleep all by myself - I wonder in Gina ford could right a contented mummy sleep book?

I'm going to google your fish when I get a minute thurso as I've never heard of it x