The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Offy!!

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Well, this is our tenth thread so we are throwing a little party!

Everyone is invited! No booze of course, soft drinks and mocktails only!

I'm Mouse, hello.

There are all kinds of drinkers on board the bus. Come and join the journey, whatever stage you are at, drinking, cutting down, wanting to stop or sober already.

Everyone is welcome to post here. Come say hi.

The journey so far is below.

JWN's original thread

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it is indeed a lot of ice-cream but I highly recommend it! I've made a pact with myself that I won't watch what I'm eating at the moment and icecream is sooo delicious.

It's poncy M&S maple and pecan, with even poncier Waitrose coffee flavour. I am justifying the expense based on how much I was spending on booze!

Ah. I always thought I typed like crap because I was pissed ... now I know I just can't type!

why thank you hammermouse - i do my best.

Hello babes, on unusually late here, am working most of the night, so I can have tmrw off.

Anyway, what are these hot choc chunks

you can see that I am focusing on the bigger picture here

I opened and swigged a massive gulp of DP's beer.
I tipped the rest down the sink.
I hope he doesn't notice that one missing.
He was pissed off with me drinking all of the bottle of rose.
Told him it was only 10%....he wasn't impressed.
Normal drinkers don't think as I do..do they?
Off to bed.
Any Halloween name suggestions gratefully recieved.
Goodnight brave babes.
Tomorrow is another day....

Luci

Sleep well sweetheart. Tomorrow is another day for sure.

I'll have a think of a name for you ok?

Stay strong xx

Luci,

sleep well, as Mouse said tmrw is another day.

its one day - you are doing so well, chin up in the morning and go forward.

xx

spider who knows how much your son's behaviour has some connection with how things have been at home, particularly regarding the effects of your drinking, and how much is just normal 8 year old, testing the boundaries behaviour.

The difference if you are not drinking is that you can make rational, balanced decisions about what to do about it, without the guilt that lurks in the background that things at home aren't as they should be.

You can't undo what is done (God, how often do we say that to each other), but as a rule kids are actually very forgiving - maybe not consciously, but they live much more in the moment than we do. Don't project your angst about what has gone before onto him, just get on with the job in hand.

Don't agonise over what has happened, just concentrate on supporting him, loving him and having clear and consistent bounderies....and go easy on yourself.
x

chocolate chunks added to my tesco basket...

Hello all,

I'm sitting here in tears, having just read JWN's original thread, and scanned the others.

You're all inspirational. I have many problems (not alcohol-related) and I wish I had a fraction of your courage, honesty and strength.

The comment that summed it up for me was someone (sorry, I can't remember who and I can't find it!) who said of JWN:

"When you speak about your days and things you are doing with your family/garden/the new group in AA, it makes me realise that it is much more than sobering up. You are providing a lot of content to your life. That is a great model to follow for many, alcoholic or not."

I couldn't agree more. And I wish there were meetings with sponsors and steps and sharing for issues other than alcohol...

Anyway, just wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories, and for being amazing. I'm genuinely overwhelmed by the kindness of the people who post on here. And particularly thank you to MIFLAW for being so uncompromising!

You've inspired me to make some changes in my life, starting tomorrow.

Right - back to lurking and best of luck all! One day at a time :)

From another cheerleader x

Hello there HumpMe, I think they have all gone to bed.

wasindie I feel like thats a big part of my problem too, If it's just me on my own I can resist but can't seem to turn down an offer of a drink by someone else.

Mind you I did yesterday. so that just goes to show I can do it.

I am going to try and have a totally dry weekend this week, (can't remember the last time I had one of those!) no matter who offers me a drink or asks if they can come round for a drink.

Hi everyone,
I had a full day with no drinks yesterday. So, here's to day 2. I am already starting to wonder if I could just have a drink tonight. I'm the other way round to wasindie and dichotomy that I can choose not to drink much more easily when I'm with people but not on my own. The "no-one will know" creeps in.
Well, need to be off to work shortly but will be checking in for my worst time, the first hour when I get home. Good luck today everyone.

Good Morning all
Just want to wish you all a happy, peaceful, sober Thursday.
Wasindie i'm sending you a hug x
Dich Good on you for yesterday. Have you got any nice bits planned for the weekend, just for you bits that feel like a reward instead of booze?

noteven try not to project. Don't worry about tonight. We will be here when you get home. x

fallen where are you?

morning to everyone else
Today I will not be frinking though I have to say I'm VERY grumpy!

I really feel I need a break. Obviously it can't be too expensive. I've seen there's soemthing called 'Ascension Meditation' offered by our yoga centre, it's a full weekend. Has anyone tried anything like that? Or maybe a yoga weekend? Or something. I'm in Scotland.

Hi
Are there any spare seats?
I've gone from only drinking thursday through sunday, to starting on wednesday evenings, then tuesdays then each night. I used to be able to sit and have one glass, but now dh and I have to finish the bottle - i'm better if it's red, drink slower, but I just chuck the white back really quickly. I end up having 2/3 of a bottle of white and d/p has 1/3 only. the worst was last friday when I finished 1/3 bottle before dh got home, then he had a bottle of red, while i ploughed through a bottle and a half of white.
I stopped drinking on monday this week. I'm not sure I'll be able to get through the weekend (we have 4 people coming to stay and they are all big drinkers).
Is it normal to have a stinking headache this far in? And to just cry at anything?

I've been lurking for a while but would like to join if that's ok.

Morning everyone,

wasindie big hug, hope you don't feel too horrible today. Get through it and stay on the bus, we can natter about your lovely babies.

lucil hope you are back to your positive self today.

Christi can you get a spa day? I know its only a day but some hotels do relatively cheap day passes and they are fairly quiet during the week. I had one at a relatively cheap chain hotel a couple of years back, will rummage through brain and find out.

I am off into the big smoke today. Very scary for me. Deep breaths. Massage booked and meeting up with friend who wants to drink. Haven't seen her for years as she lives overseas but need to be strong.

I will not turn up at the nursery to pick up DD smelling of booze. Wanting fun is not an excuse. Being tired is not an excuse. My washing machine breaking is not an excuse. Not exchanging on the house yesterday will not be an excuse.

Gee will not be frinking today. Anyone care to join me?

Msgee I'm sorry about your washing machine and your house. Life can be a bitch sometimes. I hope you enjoy seeing your friend, I know what you mean about being a bit scared of going up to the big smoke. I would be the same. You will feel so proud and happy if you resist drinking. I am sending you big positive hugs packed with bravery!

daddywill
Hello and welcome aboard! Your story sounds very familiar. Yes I think it is normal to feel shitty in varying degrees for the first few days, but stick with it things do get much much better.

Have fun MsGee - I am very envious of the massage. Try to focus on turning up at the nursey smelling of lovely oils - not stale booze.

Hi daddy good tohave you on board. Do you know what you are aiming for with your drinking or are you just wanting to see how it goes?

daddywill Well done for drinking since Monday. It's sods law that you have house guests this weekend, it might be a bit challenging. But hey if you can get through this weekend without a drink, think what a huge milestone that will be.

morning everyone!! a very big hello to daddy and hump!!, very nice to meet you!

luciloo, you soppy tart!, i would understand you drinking if you came on here pissed and happy, but you sound so fucking miserable on it! - STOP DOING IT!!

wasindie, im so cross with you i have no words! for an intelligent woman you can be very stupid at times! , ooh i could shake you!

must go and get ready for work, im late again, msgeepers, i lurve going up west!, its my hunting ground of choice!, dh and i are working towards retiring there!

btw, hump, you are very welcome to sit on the bus with us!, it might do us good to have the company of a 'normal' person!