The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Venus, the inlaws ae moving out in November. We'll remain here paying just the bills until we can scrape together enough money to rent our own place.
There is no hurry to do this as MIL/FIL indent to do a cruise then spend their time in their holiday home in Cyprus.
That said, although I am grateful, I hate living in their house and long to be at least a proper homemaker (with my own home) whilst I'm a SAHM to my kids. They are 3.5 and 2 yrs.
I probably sound like a selfish brat now. I am grateful but it's hard. The house is not mine, it's the MIL's and she makes sure I remember that!
I need to sleep. Night (again) X

Silver

SN = Special Needs.

Off to bed now. It's cool that you relate to me, glad someone does!!

Sleep well Braves Babes. xxxx

FFS - Special Needs - I am one of those people who is very intelligent but who can be so stupid at times

I spent all my life thinking that afternoon started at 2.00pm because that is when your lunch hour finishes not getting the BIG CLUE in the words AFTER NOON. My now DP explained it to me a couple of years ago............. I will say no more .. off to bed now - Mouse I cannot believe I have been so bloody stupid - I thought SN was the name of specific condition.

Duuur but what can I say - sleep as well as you can babes.

Sweet dreams.

mouse so sorry for being a gormless t**t.

Nite Nite xxxxxxxxxxx

fortheverylasttime, yes, and off the sofa.
Thanks for asking, means a lot.

You are all indeed a very brave bunch

Hi Gingerwig. I am up for a bit, if you want company.

When you said you were stuck on the sofa and Miflaw said (sarcastically, I now see) that you should call nhs direct, I took it at face value and felt awful that I had told you that you didn't sound as though you needed a detox. Not the first time that I seem to miss things like that. Durr.

(He was being sarcastic, wasn't he?)

For, yes I thought that too , for a fraction of a second When I realised it was sarcastic , I felt even worse.

Thing is, you can actually die from alcohol withdrawal, unlike any other kind. So that made me take him seriously for more than a fraction of a second. It took a few posts talking about sarcasm and I scrolled back and realised. How are you feeling now?

MUCH better,this being the end of the third alcohol free day. I was in the pub with friends tonight - drinking a nice glass of tonic water!
What's your alcohol story?

Used alcohol as pain relief.

pain from what?

break up of relationship. I pretended it didn't matter.

Then I became convinced that it would be impossible to give up. So that didn't help because that was too hard to contemplate.

That in itself was a worry.

Then, at the beginning of this year, things became a lot better and I remember walking along the road where I live with a bottle of wine that I had bought and I thought that (given that external circumstances had improved) I HAD to make some sort of acknowledgement. And that I didn't have an 'excuse' anymore.

So I just told myself that I was in charge of myself. And felt pretty shit for 4 days. (didn't drink said bottle of wine) And had three weeks not drinking anything at all.

Just realised that it was not as complicated as I had made it.

Still drink, but not much at all and don't keep any in the house.

I can't explain it very well. I had built up the worry about drinking into a problem in itself.

And now I think it is more simple, if you get past the first 4 days and then take one day at a time, keep doing that, and then you die.

So when I have a drink, I don't beat myself up and think I might as well finish the bottle.

And £5 now seems ridiculously expensive for a glass of wine in a pub.

So drink lime and soda (35p)

Thanks.
Broken relationship started it for me too.
Many many years ago - really have no excuse now.
You have a very interesting perspective. I think I relate to it a lot.
I need to go to bed now.
Again, I appreciate your support. I am too new in the game for sarcasm

Really, really felt as though I was drowning at the time.

Morning to all.

ginger, glad to see you back on here, and glad to hear that by today you will be on day 4 .

I read some of MIFLAW's posts about 2 years ago, I think, when he was challenging someone about their drinking and I remember thinking 'you rude, insensitive bastard. how dare you post like that. What do you know?' The thing is for me (as I have found out over that 2 years), he DOES know, and sometimes it is though he is looking right into my mind and challenging the alcoholic part of me that is finding a lovely excuse why I should feel sorry for myself, why I am finding it soooooo hard, and why maybe I should have a drink.

Keep on going ginger, and keep on posting. We're all here doing exactly the same as you, trying to take it one day at a time.

morning everyone - had a really good day yesterday, did a nice little bit of business, got a lovley little legally binding contract!! , should keep the wolf from teh door for a while!

right, down to business here!

luci - i do know the horrible gut-wrenching feeling you have right now regards your finances, i have been spectuarly poor when my dd was a baby - we were homeless, potless and my pride meant i didnt ask the parentals for help - when i look back i wonder how the buggery fuck i mananged (i even used to go round the market at the end and pick up the veg that was left on the floor!) thing is though, it didnt kill us!, i became quite resourceful, became quite strong actually, and being so poor didnt last forever - i guess im trying to say that you really will survive, carry-on bringing up your dcs and eventually life does kind of sort itself out! - of course you would like your own home, who wouldnt, point is though, so long as your dcs have you, a sober you!, thats all they really need! - hang it out, stay sober, get strong and everything else will follow! these days. im not frightened of being poor, im frightened of being drunk and poor, that i really couldnt cope with!

ginger! - yes, miflaw is a rude insentitive barstard!, the trouble with him is, he is always bloody right! - the longer i stay sober the more i 'get' him!, it is no bloody help at all to pussy-foot round the issues, we are drunks, and we can find ANY excuse to drink if we want to, i love the old sod! , i need someone to say it like it is sometimes!

Shoule be Wasindie's - sorry

Hi wasindie lovely to have you hanging around with us. Your dt's haven't yet realised that they've got so many alcoholic online 'aunties'

Thanks Wasnidie. Nemo is sleeping better at last. He goes through phases. Two good nights so we're due two bad!

Awww at your grizzly bears! Jabs are never nice for them. Do I have your email? Can you drop me a quick line today, I have a tip but can't put it on board, sorry, but you'll see why! [cryptic emoticon] [email protected]

DD is ok, she was a bit wobbley earlier in the week but she seems to have found her place in the pack now.

The ADs are settling down. Still sweating and anxious. I went out yesterday and I have lots of people here today so I'm 'forced' to interact. Which is good! I don't feel better as such yet. Only on day 10 so we'll see.

I am 46 days sober and feel so much better for it. I hate the smell of booze. Dh had a drink last night and the smell of it turned my stomache. Eeeeew.

Anyway, as I said, it's fab to have you back posting!! Missed your input!

Have a good day. xx

hi wasindie! nice to see you!

mouse, i am finding the smell of booze really horrible now!, cant believe it!

off out to lunch with the girls, see you later babes!

Quick hello, marking my seat and reporting four weeks today.

Hugs to all those struggling, wishing you much strength to get through the the tough minutes, hours and days. Cheers to those who've made it through another day. We're all in this together, one day at a time.

Sorry I haven't been around to post and support, I don't feel as if I'd be much use at the moment! Walking in a haze of tiredness today as up with DD most of the night. All ok but worrying about house sale and struggling at work. Not much change then! DD doing better though, seems to have turned a corner.