The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Feel free to correct me, but I believe it is a conical type plastic device that allows us ladies to wee standing up - or indeed in the car - it's one of those "this changed my life" devices that you can buy from the little gadget catelogues that come with the SUnday papers. (wish this thing had a spell check!!

Night night Charabanc Chicks

I have had the day from hell today but don't feel able to go into it tonight, but it involved the removal of (harmless I hope) growth (polyps) from my cervix which was pretty painful (no anisthetic), my partner finding empty half bottle of vodka in my bag and finding out that I have been smoking a bit of weed ( might as well have been crack cocaine or heroin the way he sees it) He left me this morning - took his bike so he's serious.............we will be talking tomorrow. The humiliation and shame is too horrible and painful and shit.

So tomorrow is a new day - the weed is in the bin and I will not drink.

Just for today/tomorrow.

Sweet dreams

So much to sort out but I will do it.

Love you all xxxxxxxxx

I'll just take a seat right at the back and observe and listen for now if that's ok?
No drinking again tonight. DP had a beer and I've been sipping my sparkling water.
One day at a time...

Silver!!!!

Do you want to talk more? God. You poor love. I'm here if you want to talk. xxx

Yes and No - just typed long message and lost it

Oh sweetheart. I was hoping giving you my last Rolo would cheer you up........

What happened? You can email me if you'd rather keep it off [email protected]

dd down again - have to go - but all round a pretty shit day. If I could get the privacy (from DD) I could talk all night long mouse.

I fucked up after about 6 weeks. Have to go - but so much more to say...............

sweet dreams chicks xxxxxxxx

will do Mouse - at work tomorrow gotta go x

Well, if you get chance in the night, email me at the address I gave you. Or post on here. Let it all out.

Someone will be around. I'm so sorry that you are having an awful time.

Have some water and go get into bed. Try and sleep. I'll be here tomorrow, as will the rest of us.

Just to listen. Just to help.

Goodnight Silver xxxx

serious post.
today s my first alcohol free day in weeks.
I feel sick and shaky

Silver hope you're ok.

ginger well done one day at a time ,first day is always rubbish

Waiting for bedtime with a very downturn mouth

hi ginger!, nice to meet you!, i promise that the sick and shaky feeling does go, and fairly quickly! well done on your first day!, its a big step isnt it?

silver - sounds like life is pretty shitty right now - i have no personal experience of drug problems, it wasnt my bag iyswim?, im more than happy to try and help if i can! how have you 'fucked up' btw?

getting - why the downturn mouth?

JWN - is gingerwig, not gingerroots with a name change? Sorry to talk about you as if you aren't here gingerwig.

getting - what's up lovely?

Hello ginger

sorry, have i got my gingers in a muddle? , now theres a leading question!

im just gingerwig, never been any other type of ginger!

Can you advise?
Have drunk off and on for 30 years. Too much at social occasions. However for the past few weeks /months with some days off I have drunk at least half a bottle of wine most nights, and up to a bottle. Always late at night when kids 'husband in bed.
More at weekends.

Hangovers about half of the mornings.
I've gained a stone in a month.
I tend to depression anyway and it's getting worse.
I dont know how much the drinking is contributing to a general feeling of sinking but it has to be worth trying to give up.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated

gingerwig

So sorry lovely but us non drinkers tend to crash earlier! Lightweights that we are!

Are you going to be around tomorrow? Can I respond to you then?

Can I suggest, if you are going to be up for a while, you read some of the other threads? They have a lot of posts that could help.

I've put the links in the opening post above.

Sorry to leave you like this but it's bed for me too.

xx

hi ginger - i do believe that alcohol and depression seem to go hand in hand, if you look back at the old threads it is astonishing to see how many of us are on ADs - as to the booze, just try and give up a day at a time - dont over think it, try not to think about future occasions when you might drink, just try and live in the day!, im 47 and have drunk all my adult life, not always a dangerous level but always fairly 'full-on' consumption, i have found it difficult at first, i needed to find a way to break the habit, for me, i found that finding ANYTHING else for my hands to do made a huge differance - i took up old interests that i had let slide, read more, chat on teh phone alot, cook loads, clean more!

the longer i am sober the better life is becoming, certainly i feel ready to wean myself off the ADs, which is a huge step and one i feel is a huge motivator.

i have found that honesty is the best way to tackle the question of why im giving up, im not assuming you are an alcoholic like me, but clearly you are unhappy with the hold the booze has over you - perhaps you could tell your dh/dcs how you feel and ask for their support, it dosent have to be a 'big announcement', more a statement, that you just want to give up and need a bit of encourgement, maybe?

hope that helps a bit!

sorry ginge - mouse is right, im dead on my feet here!, you may find wasindie will be about later, she is often up at silly 'o clock to feed her lovely twins!

good luck tonight, hang on in there, it really does get easier!

sleep well lovley babes!

L XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

btw ginge - i have lost over a stone in the last 3 months! , a lovley shallow thing that helps i find!

aw thanks girls. Yes I will be back tomorrow but in meantime wil look at old threads
Jesus I am 47 as well

Ginger, I am up for a bit if you want to chat. I wonder if you are getting into a habit of using alcohol to get to sleep? Could you take a sleeping tablet, or try to do something exhausting, like swimming, to wear yourself? Or do you have something upsetting going on in your life and you are using alcohol as 'pain relief'?

If you read the previous threads you will see that people who don't drink to excess anymore note that they sleep better now. It is true for me.

I think it takes 4 days for the alcohol to leave the body. A proper detox takes 4 days but it doesn't sound AT ALL that you need that. Why not have a go at what one poster is doing (SAF) and aim for not drinking during the week?

fortheverylasttime, yes, I am using alcohol to numb my feelings and avoid certain issues.
Also too help me sleep .

Right now I cant believe how bad I feel - nauseous, sweaty, shaky. LAst drink was midnight last night. 1/2 - one bottle a day for the last few weeks. is that enough to get withdrawal symptoms?

It does sound normal. I think that you may well feel rotten for a few days. Can you be nice to yourself by eating something nice and having a long bath?