The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

[Mouseface]

Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Luci gig hug x

Thanks MIFLAW - good advice .
And thanks Venus ,I'm not wanting to drink right now - just anticipating ,how crazy is that ?
Luci ,you might find you feel stronger the longer you're not drinking and that you'll feel stronger about seeing the GP .Is there only one GP in your practice ? Could you see another ?
Keep strong and keep posting .

Silver is a "gig hug" some kind of dancing and music thing?

DP videoed me last night at just before I passed out.
I can't bring myself to watch it.
I am going to look back through this thread and look for alternative help.

MIL - you are right. I have to totally stop drinking.
There is a feeling of relief mixed in with the terror in acknowledging this.

Oh luci

luci you'll be OK, you'll just take it one day at a time. An hour at a time.
Have you got some sugary drinks and food to keep your sugar levels up? Treat yoursefl to whatever you want, ice cream, coke, biscuits... cake... whatever...

DC I hope you managed to get through the day without the top up

luci at one point last year I had to admit to a GP that I was drinking too much due to relationship problems (always seem to have one excuse after another) and I found that she was very understanding and not judgemental. Many things are all about seeing the right doc.

On my second day now and doing ok, distracting myself and have got pjs on early to prevent myself from being able to walk to corner shop. I haven't kept booze in the house for a long time but that has never stopped me from buying it on an almost daily basis before.

SAF echoing the well dones on pouring the beer away I would have found that hard to do so you must have felt good about it.

big

luci have just thought, have you cancelled your do tomorrow night? or told them you're not drinking?

Luci - the same happenend to me many years ago - I was passed out and swearing in my sleep on bed and my lovely brother and DD filmed me - she was probably 5 at the time and just thought it was funny - I managed to get away with it but it makes you think doesn't it. at the age your DCs are it will not be long before they realise Mummy is not just having a nap.......

On a lighter note does anyone know how you can make this site alert you on PC when someone posts a new message? I don't like to keep it up on the screen for obvious reasons when family around and IT REALLY WINDS ME UP having to keep checking every few minutes..........maybe that's just me but I can't spell/type either!!!!

xxx

silver - no such luck re the alerts! If only.

Off to bed here, trying to get a head start on my baby owl!!

Night all. Sleep well and stay sober!!

evening everyone! , hello DC!! another babe on board!, lovley to have you here!

luci - i am about to be harsh!, i dont want to be but i think the time for hugs and kisses is over! - you are killing yourself!, you are ill, this disease has you right in its grip and it wont let you go until you make it!, if you dont give the it 'fuck the fucking hell right off' stance you will lose EVERYTHING!! you DO have a choice though but ONLY YOU can make that choice, no amount of doctors, AA meetings, whatever can stop you!, decide tonight if you want to live to a good old age, surrounded by family who love you or if you would rather end up a raddled old bag whose screwed up kids need therapy cos their mum is a drunk! - i know how hard it is, because that is exactly teh decision i had to make - my dd didnt deserve to see me drunk, ill, nasty, stupid, stinking and disgusting and nor do yours! - your dh deserves to spend time with the woman he loves, not the drunken old soak he saw last night! - YOU CAN DO THIS!!

ONE DAY AT A TIME!!

we will all support you here as much as we possibly can, but it is time for you to decide what you are going to do - FIGHT OR FLIGHT TIME LUCI!!

i am willing you with all my might to do this, you sound a nice woman who deserves a better life than the one that the booze is dictating for you!

i expect you will think i have a bloody nerve, after all, i am only a few weeks sober myself, the thing is, they have been such life changing weeks i want you and your family to experience how great it really can be to get up in the morning, decide that it will be a sober day and live that day to the full!

night night mouse! sleep well!

Luci, congratulations on staring the decision in the face -- are you feeling a little better? I have not had a drink today, just gallons of that slightly corrosive Sainsburys fizzy water and a ton of carbs. Sleep well and peacefully all.

Night mouse
Well done DoubleCrown

Straight talking there JWN, very good.

I am feeling so much better. Who could have thought one could have so much energy in the evening!

glad you are feeling better christi!, btw, must be a good sign that you are going in for a fourth interview! good luck!!

Luci, if your dp has filmed you, it seems like he is at the end of his tether - sounds like desperate measures to make you face up to things. I really do think you need extenal help - what do you have to lose if you accept help as opposed to what you will lose if you don't. I know you must feel that everything is conspiring against you, but it's the drink that is meaking you feel that way. You owe it to yourself and your family to take every chance on offer to get better. When I was drinking really heavily my DD was about the age of your older DD. I remember thinking at the time that she was too young to notice things. I now know that was completely wrong and children are extremley aware at an early age. My DS is the age of your younger DC. Since I stopped totally the difference has been immense. He was never very affectionate towards me and I assumed he was a daddy's boy. Now he is just as loving to me - the only difference i can think of is I a not drinking. He is only little but i really believe that he had been picking up on things. Please Luci, think of your DP as well. If things continue as they are at the moment and - please forbid - your DH decided he's had enough you would be at real rosk of losing your kids. I really am not looking to nag you unnecesarily. I think you should watch the video as it might do the job that your DP really intended. Hope you are ok x

Am going out tomorrow. Going to drive part of the way. I never ever drink when I'm driving.
Am a nervy driver and just wouldn't risk it.
Will be drinking sparkling water.

Still got a stonking headach but the extreme physical hangover effects are being replaced with the usual paranoia and shame.
I am not going to drink tomorrow.
Goodnight everyone.
I appreciate the tough words, hard as they are to read.
X

someone talk to me - I have 15 minutes till the shop shuts and I am nearly out of the door

OK - shop now shut - PHEW! was doing fine - watching Bouquet of Barbed Wire in bedroom - gets to the crucial crux of the story and DD comes in - FFS I love her but sometimes.......more annoyed with DP as he knew how much I wanted to watch it uninterrupted but "forgot". Argh men - so got angry with DD when not her fault (is okay made up now) BUT my first thought was can I get a bottle of wine - I could have done - but I didn't. Crisis averted - very irritable and know exactly why, I just wish he would use his BRAIN sometimes. Ah well. Now got to work out how to watch it on catch-up TV or failing that on PC.

Anyway Big well done to all of you today. Might post later...........

xxxxxx

silver well done!!

Thanks KAT - close call but pulled it back x

Excellent silver, I have found that even posting my 'help' cry on here has been the little step that has helped to avoid having a drink.

Sleep well everyone.