The Brave Babes Carry On The Charabanc Trip - Leaving The Booze Behind!

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Hello and welcome!

This is thread number eight!

The Brave Babes are all at different stages of quitting the booze. Some have stopped, some are thinking about it and some are just cutting down.

They are full of support and wisdom for those of you wishing to climb aboard the Bus or Charabanc!!

The Babes aren't an exclusive club, they never judge and they don't charge for advice either!

So, come meet them. I'm Mouse, by the way, and I've been sober since August 2nd 2010, something I would never have even considered without the support of these threads.

Here are the first seven threads, if you want a bit of history.

JWN's original thread

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Thread seven

Luci - you can try on your own but from my experience having someone(GP or Community Alcohol Team) keeping an eye on you is no bad thing. It will focus your mind and everytime you go to pick up a glass (and you will) , you will think twice if you know that you are going to see your 'mentor'. It works for me - what about DP - will he stop with you for support? Have you been honest with him or is it so apparent that you don't need to say anything - talk to him. He will only want to help. Take any support you can get - and of course The Babes are here for you day and night.

Make an appointment now

xxxxx

luci why don't you make an appointment wiht the doctor?

I'll do you a deal. If I go to tell my doc about my problem, will you go and tell yours?

"I think I can do it on my own."

What is it that gives you that impression?

SAF - it can take up to two months for AD's to really take affect - it's a real bore but you have to be patient and suddenly you will wake up one day thinking 'I feel a lot better'. (I have a long relationship with AD medication!!)

Luci and Christi PICK UP THE PHONE - DO IT NOW - I am cancelling plans to go shopping and will clean instead because I am not leaving this thread until you BOTH post that you have made an appointment - and If I don't go out - DD doesn't get birthday party tomorrow and it will be all your fault - Blackmail can work wonders...............and at the end of the day you can cancel it, if you so chose to.

No excuses - DO IT NOW

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MIFLAW - I don't think we have been introduced properly - those babes - so lacking in manners!

So, nice to meet you

Silver xxx

Silver66 I just tried to call! But the surgery is closed because it's a public holiday in edinburgh! i PROMISE you I'll call in the morning. I really promise.

I reckon 20 minutes to clean the bathroom - I hope to return at 1.10pm to find out you two have picked up the phone..............

Christi - I expect to see a post from you tomorrow telling us when you are going.

Silver - MIFLAW needs no introduction. You'll soon see why.

Hello there Silver and welcome aboard!

I think there is a general misconception abord the bus that I am here to help others.

I am happy to report that my motives for being here are entirely selfish. By offering the "benefit" of my experience to others, it helps ME to stay sober - and today my sobriety is very precious to me because without it I am nothing. As the saying goes, "life isn't fair - because if life was fair, I'd be dead." I have been lucky so far in my drinking "adventures" but REALLY don't want to push my luck any further and, one day at a time, I don't have to.

Of course, if anyone else can get something from what I say or do, then that makes me even happier. Again, MY happiness - it's all about me, me, me.

Hello there Christi we've missed you.

That is great to hear about your interview. You KNOW that the managers you'd work for really liked you, they had NO doubt that you could do the job. Go back and look at your cv and the job description stuff, and really picture yourself working with those people, wowing them, remember the kind of questions that they asked when you gave really positive responses, the answers you gave that had them nodding their heads and talking abut the role as though were already doing it. And knock their bloddy socks off.

After all, they're not the only ones who are interested, as soon as you went for a chat with the other company (a couple of weeks ago?) they could see that you had talent.

You are one clever lady, and they know it.

I have an appointment at the docs on Wednesday. Overdue smear and vaccinations.

I know that I will be asked all the usual questions. What will I say about drinking? How many units a week - NONE. Or do I say that I am not drinking because I think I am an alcoholic? (they will be surprised because all my records say that I only drink about 6 - 12 units per week )

Christi FUCKING WELL DONE GIRL!! Try again first thing. Am so proud of you.

Luci ?

Top Tip - use fabric conditioner to get the scum off your shower door using scratchy type cloth - works a treat for no effort - then just rinse - da dah sparkly shower.

I'm waiting Luci...............

'my sobriety is very precious to me because without it I am nothing'

I 2nd this MIFLAW, Hello BTW, I would be back to zero in a heartbeat if I start that sh*t again and today, just for today, I don't want to. I'm 4 years sober one day at a time and I still refuse to say 'never again' because that's terrifying - I just plod on in my happy way 1DAAT.

I haven't been around for a few days so hello to old and new (and new that are old). I just wanted to say if I could have stopped on my own I would have done it years ago but the truth is I needed people to help me to see the severity of my problem, I had no clue. Please don't underestimate outside help whether it be GP, AA, or a real life confidante. Once the walls of secrecy start to come down, it's easier to admit to yourself had bad the situation is x

venus thank you. I think I love you! Do you know what, when I received that bloody case of wine, I thought I should call you and you could tell me what to do, tell me not to drink it. I should have made excuses to my mum and DH and just phoned you and asked you for your advice. I thought of you, straight away. I wish I'd acted on it.

Thank you for all that advice. Am putting it into practice right now.

MILFLAW

No worries I gathered from your posts that you are a self centred, egotistical, selfish, sometimes amusing, harsh, don't sit on the fence, tell it like it is, kind of person. Am I looking at my reflection????

Total respect for 7 years sober. and I bet you don't have to clean the bathroom.......!

Am I right?!!!

silver i've put a reminder in my phone to call first thing tomorrow.

Luci - I'll back off now, but leave you with this thought.

Can you imagine how delighted your Dp will be if he comes home to find that you have made an appointment........I have been on the other side of this fence (ex-husband alcoholic - now dead) and I know that if he had done that, the relief I would have felt would have been immense and I would have done anything in my power to support him - sadly he never did.

Good Luck and keep talking - we are all here to help whatever you decide honey.

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I rarely clean the bathroom, you are right.

However, I have more than a nodding acquaintance with cat litter, dustbins and shit-filled nappies.

We each have our cross to bear.

venus - you know what to tell the doc. What would you tell me to say, or anyone else?

What have you got to lose by being honest? You owe the doc nothing but you owe yourself a life with no more lies about alcohol, surely?

eeeew - give me the bathroom any day!

But nobody has asked me why I am having vaccinations [petulant emoticon]. Go on, ask me why.....

DO you know, I was wondering... WHERE are you going?

Where are you going venus?