Help me leave H right now.

[RespectTheDoughnut]

I tried yet a-fucking-gain & now there's more porn. I need to get out of here now, before he gets home from work. DS is asleep. What do I need to pack? I'll go to my parents' until he finds somewhere new to live. Help me sort out the practical things please. Sorry I didn't listen to you all before. Total waste of my time & everyone else's.

Thank you Hermya :)

I'm still here lurking respect.

You seem to be so strong, getting on with things. I know you can do well on your course, and your ds will grow to be glad of what you've done for him :)

Did you get your English lit books sorted out?

RTD, no reason why you should know about my ex at all, I've never really shared on MN fully . I don't think it's that interesting or unusual sadly and not a million miles from your situation.
I too started back at Uni this week and had a meltdown on a lecturer and a bit of a cry. I feel very silly and I hope you're doing better than that .How's it all going?

:( Tippy. If you want to talk, I'm here (fwiw)

Bless you MOSP, I feel like someone at AA waiting to share . One fine day I may have the whole story out and I will certainly come here to do it - it's by far the most supportive, friendly and positive place on MN.

I agree! I found that out for myself after ages of lurking.

I'm only back on Monday (so scared!) but all of my books are sorted (bank of mum & dad ), but thank you so much to people who offered.

& Tippy, don't feel silly. It's difficult. & uni is intimidating! I'm constantly swinging between excitement & fear at the moment.

But - & this is a big but - I have my dishwasher now. & I bloody love it. Forget men, I'm marrying my dishwasher.

RTD, what can I say? Big ups to you. You have done the right thing. You have support. Your DC will thank you.

Wishing you hugs and luck. You made me smile. You are great.

mmmmmm dishwasher.
Slimline ones are £60 in my local paper. I am thinking this may count as an essential purchase

sob sob. I have neither man nor dishwasher. woe is me :(
And my kitchen is so small, I can't even fit the washing machine in it.

Me neither at the moment MOSP. I am looking at appliance-porn on the Curry's site instead.They do make very mini ones y'know.

Thank you Dione :) (It's so strange people coming on & saying how great I am Good for the ol' ego though )

& oh MOSP, it's the dishwasher I feel sorry for you about. Mine is running at the moment. I am here, MNing, whilst DS puts my phone down my top over & over & over, and the washing up is being done at the same time. Without it involving a whingy bloke in the corner like it used to. My life has been reformed.

My kitchen is teeny tiny & I've managed to squeeze it in (my washing machine is in a cupboard elsewhere in the flat), by putting it in the corner of the worksurface & balancing everything else around it. It's not ideal, but I have a dishwasher & this is the only concern!

How was your first day back at Uni respect?

Hope it went well x

Thanks for asking x

It's been a long day, but overall I enjoyed it. I helped out at a homework club thing afterwards, which was interesting. Some very rude, ungrateful children there

On the plus side, it seems like there may be some friends to be made there :)

It's nice to be back in a routine which doesn't revolve around naps. Although I could've done with one earlier! I have the place to myself tonight & for once I'm not sad that DS isn't here, but I'm just enjoying the chance to relax & flick through some uni books (& skive on MN).

Really pleased for you. You sound like you're doing so well.

Were the homework club kids there out of choice, or obligation? How old were they? (just curious)

Have a really relaxing evening. Enjoy your solitude. :)

The homework clubs kids are there, in theory, out of choice. How much of that is true in practise, I don't know - if some of them were my children, I'd want them out the house too

There's a range of ages there, but today I helped year 7 - 10. I even learnt about Zeus' siblings

Respect. Are you still around on mumsnet these days?

How are things now? Have you settled into a routine? Is ds doing alright? How is the contact with H working out?

Thinking of you.

MOSP - only just saw this, sorry! I'm still here, drifting on & off. Obviously very busy now. The main new project is that I'm going to attempt my driving test at some point before Christmas. So those lessons are taking 6 hours a week on top of DS & uni. When I pass (whenever that may be) life will become infinitely easier - & those 6 hours a week back will be a happy bonus! That's the last step in the replacement of H thing - second only to the dishwasher

Generally I'm okay. Tired, working really hard at uni & still not feeling that I'm doing enough, but hopefully keeping on top of it in reality.

DS is great. He's absolutely lovely. I have him this weekend & I'm so pleased - he learns new things every day, as they all do at this age, & it's horrible having to miss so much of it.

H is doing well with the contact so far as I can tell. The arrangement works well for everyone (as well as it can) & DS gets a lot more daddy time now he's not taken for granted & ignored in favour of H's laptop.

Interestingly, H is doing some Relate email counselling for himself. From what I gather he hasn't used porn since my discovery. He's actually becoming (or seeming to become!) a nicer person. But it's not enough. I suppose it potentially could be, in theory, one day, but not for a long time yet. & I think that 'in theory' is very different to 'in practice'. On the plus side, he's not nagging me about coming back (he's not even asked) so it's not an immediate issue of me having to fend him off, if it ever will be. It just drives me mad that he couldn't 'fix' himself before.

How are you? x

Well, I'm better for knowing that you're OK. I'm glad that life is taking off for you and you're feeling happy with yourself and your son. It's good to know that your intelligent decision making has prompted and encouraged something similar in your Ex.

So proud for you. You have done something amazing and it has had a positive effect on everyone. If your Ex puts in the work and brings himself up to your standard then good luck to you both.

Your post has brought a great big [hgrin] to my face. Thank you.[hgrin]

Hi respect! Glad you spotted my message, and that you seem to be dealing with life well. I wish you all the best with the driving. That is something I don't think I'll ever be able to do!! You seem to be such a strong and proactive person :)

Personally, I'm wavering between good days and bad. Ok at the moment though (or I probably wouldn't even be able to post on any other thread than my one I started).

Take care, and keep posting if you need to. I am always pleased to hear how you're doing.