The Braves Babes Battle Bus - NOT stopping at the pub!!

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Hello

I'm Mouse. I've been sober for over a month now, thanks to the support of posters on this and previous threads.

No matter where you are up to with your sobriety, you'll find someone here who has been in your shoes!

Come and meet the other Brave Babes........

And here are the other threads for those who want to read them.

JWN's original thread (and the reason we are all here!)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

I just like clean plugholes but yes, odd!!

Am v northern at heart. Loved mouse's peter Kaye tale - love him!

Red hope to see you over weekend

To you all, tha k you for beig there - gotta go DD awake

sorry crap spelling on phone

Hope to catch you all tomorrow!
Have lovely, sober, safe, serene weekends! x

Bye Red and MsGee, obviously not together!

MsGee - I have photos from that Peter Kay night. Oh the shame!!!

Thank you Wasindie, that was wonderful.

Half five on a friday and I'm still sober!

Sorry all but WELLTHEFUCKDONE lowenergy!!

28 lengths of a short pool - ten minutes in the sauna and I am so relaxed - costing me a pound a day - had to put the full amount on credit card but IT IS SO WORTH IT. Might not be the thing for everyone but if you can, you should really give it a go.

Have a lovely relaxed sober evening everybody. Just think how good it will feel to wake up on a Saturday morning raring to get stuff done.

I've had 24 years of feeling shite every morning. And now I know how it feels to be free and alive, I never want to let that go.

It's just another day of the week but I know how hard Fridays are.

so good luck everyone and here's to another day without poison in our bodies

Thanks Mouseface

Twenty minutes later and still sober despite DP asking me if I wanted him to buy a bottle of wine for this evening!!!

I said no.

I'm past the danger zone now this evening, thanks everyone!

Well done lightbulb. And well done for resisting in the face of temptation.

Have been hovering around wondering whether I'm brave enough to hop on the bus and slip into a seat.
I'm not. Am going to follow the thread for now and hopefully find it in me to grow some balls and address and deal with my alcohol problem. If I don't it will wreck my life and destroy all the most important relationships that matter most in the world to me.
I just don't have it in me to do it now.
Good luck you brave, fiesty women (and men)...I wish you all the best for the future.

Luci, I posted some alternatives to AA either further up this thread or a previous one. And an online AA site, if you don't feel you want to go to meetings. I don't drink much these days, but if I had to live with my inlaws, even if they were the nicest people in the world, I would feel under pressure and drink would be very attractive. I think you said that you were moving out in November? Just don't feel bad.

Mrs McGee, I was praying for you in an agnostic sort of way when you had to spend the bank holiday with your in laws. If you can cope with that, you can cope with the neighbours' wedding. It's quite nice that your husband feels the same. You can just treat it as a date for each other and catch up and do lots and lots of people watching.

SAF Nothing unusual about what you are describing (certainly not up here in Jock-land!). The difference for me (and it may be very different for you) is that I know I have always found it very, very hard to go out for an evening like that and not get really drunk. Not because it was a choice, just for that evening, but because it was, for me, part of an ongoing habit where I was finding a reason to drink every evening, and that over-time I was drinking more and more. I know that it was at great risk of spiralling out of control.

From your posts it sounds as though you might have got into some unhealthy habits with your drinking, and maybe you can use a bit of determination and change thoses habits for the better, then settle into a more 'normal' pattern. (it takes about 3 weeks to change a habit). The difference for me is that I have not yet been able to do 'normal' drinking. I can't take it or leave it. So for the moment I am leaving it.

So - tomorrow, start armed with as many strategies as you can think of to achieve what you set out to do; once you have your list of strategies, stop stressing about it; deal with it as it happens; most importantly do not guilt yourself out about it. Whatever you do, it is an experiment - drinking after enjoying being sober all week, or controlling you drinking, or not drinking at all. Just observe what happens and how you feel, it is all good learning. And come and tell us, so we can share whatever you have learnt.

Have a lovely evening with your friend .

Hi Luci, you know that nothing any of us say can make any difference to what you do, you are the only one in control of that. Please take care of yourself, you're living in a tough place just now.

Post whenever you want, and post whatever you want to. keep lurking and reading and any time you want to join us, whether it is delaying picking up a drink for an hour, or not drinking just for today (which ever today that might be), you know you will find undertanding, support and encouragement here.

You know that you are drinking in a way that you don't want to and there may be some tough words on here too, but it all comes with the very best of intentions from our hearts.

SAF - 'girls nights out are really not such a strange thing. two single mum's wanting to go out - not so strange.'

I was still going out as a single mum, even once I'd met DH, then DP. Every 2 months or so. Me and my friend, both 'single' mums, going to a bar to have a few drinks and enjoy a night off.

Luci

Take good care of yourself sweetheart. My nickname used to be Luci Lastic, my very gay friend said my drawers must be made of loose elastic, due to the number of men sending me flowers at work. So the name stuck!! Needless to say, I had very tight elastic in said drawers!!!

Anyway, we're here for you when you are ready. And if you want to talk off board, you can reach me at [email protected] xx

How are the rest of you Brave Babes holding out?

SAF - I meant to say that I was 30+ at the time!!

Thank you. I am humbled by your kind, wise words. I hope to join you soon with my head in the right place to kick this addiction into touch and start living life as I should be.
I know I am in a grim social situation...tiny terraced house with inlaws and 4 kids (2 step-sons half of the week) and two little ones all of the week but really I used to drink excessively when I lived on my own in a flat in central London. I kidded myself it was because I was stressed at work/had broken up with a guy/was sick of being single/a bit bored/no plans for the weekend.
Until I face up to the fact I am an alcoholic I will always have an excuse to drink.
I've worked that much out so far.
Goodnight people. This is a fantastic thread full of wonderful individuals.
Take care,
Luci x

Luci - "Until I face up to the fact I am an alcoholic I will always have an excuse to drink."

I think you just have. xx

Luci - November is not really that far away. Just notice how dark it is getting in the evenings and how chilly. Every autumn leave that drops takes you one step closer to having a place of your own.

But you are right, if you want it there is always an excuse to drink. Own home or MILs.

But this cranky old bus stops all over the place - whenever you want to hop on for a ride, it will appear like magic

Hi mouse how is your Friday evening? I am home alone and trying to finish off editing a long, long report so that I have the weekend free.

Evening Babes, just thought I'd check in and see how you're all doing on this damp and miserable Fri night.

Lowenergy you go girl, Fri is a tough one but if you can do it once.......

MsGee - what a shitty day you've had, stay strong, things can only get better.

Silver - sounds like you have got it sorted, I wish I was an gym type but I hate all that - I'm just too lazy

Luci - I hope you do keep lurking and sort this out in your head, you know we will all be here if/when you decide to go for it.

SAF - please don't be worrying about tomorrow. Venus summed it up better that I could but whatever will be, will be and it will tell you something one way or the other.

Just got back from my mum's as it is her and my dad's birthday today. Plenty of family round so loads of wine & vodka flowing (family are Polish). I have drunk so much diet coke I think I'm gonna pop. If it were this time 2 weeks ago I would have had a glass or two, even when driving, and picked up a bottle or two of wine on the way home. I have to say, tonight, I wasn't even remotely interested, didn't feel like I was missing out, nothing.

And, for the record, I too am a northern lass (I live on the right side of the Penines and work on the other)

just hopping aboard to say goodnight!

luci - we will be here if you need us!, just pop along now and again and tell us your news!

msgee, mouse, silver, saf, venus, moomin, munky (in fact, any of you northeners!), have a lovley long peaceful sleep, see you all in teh morning!

sorry, bound to have forgotten loads of names, my only excuse is old age!, (must have pickled me brain years ago!)