The Braves Babes Battle Bus - NOT stopping at the pub!!

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Hello

I'm Mouse. I've been sober for over a month now, thanks to the support of posters on this and previous threads.

No matter where you are up to with your sobriety, you'll find someone here who has been in your shoes!

Come and meet the other Brave Babes........

And here are the other threads for those who want to read them.

JWN's original thread (and the reason we are all here!)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

Thread five

Thread six

Christi - little sips of apple juice with cold fizzy soda water and ice cubes. Then when you feel a little better, nibble some TUC biscuits (will replace salts), then a bit or raw carrot.

If you can't face food at all - do you have 'sea-bands' elasticated bands for travel sickness? You put them on your wrists and they have little knobble that stimlulates the inside of your wrist and reduces nuasea.

Then when you are better some toast and a boiled egg (we used to have 'eggy-peggy' when we were little - boiled agg, mashed in a cup with a little butter and salt and pepper.

Good ideas venus

Thanks. What a fantastic mine of information you lot are!

err.. hmmm... this feels a bit stalkerish, but I've just read on another thread that Trinity's girls are no longer on the register . Trin looks very happy (and I think is likely to have wee celebration....)

I just thought you'd like to know.

If you read this Trin, BLOODY FANTASTIC (and keep coming back)

I am going to the cinema this evening.

Got a text from the friend I am going with saying come up for a couple of glasses of wine beforehand. I texted back saying I am driving tonight.

Sitting drinking coffee and am meeting them there. Major step in the right direction for me and first big challenge I can tick off !!

Sorry not much support to anyone at the moment also feeling a bit overwhelmed (yet encouraged)by the number of people on this thread !

Wish me luck with the glass of wine they will have at the bar there and then back to the friends 2 minutes from mine for more afterwards.

Sigh

SAF I think MIFLAW would say something about seeing the hangover through right to the end - normally we recover a little and then start drinking again the next evening.

If you've drunk a lot over a long time there's a fair bit of detoxing going on to rid you body of the alcohol and all its breakdown metabolites. I think most people feel pretty crap for 4 - 5 days, then it can just get better and better.

Don't worry, it just your body doing what it does best, and taking the chance to deal with the toxins.

WELL DONE getting

Now what have you got in that you will ENJOY drinking when you get back? (apart from the knowledge that you will wake up clear headed).

And you do know that for any serious drinkers that is a crap evening - getting half pissed beforehand, having to sit through a film with a headache approaching, then trying to get rapidly pissed afterwards. Not that I have ever been in a situation like that.

You're doing well SAF, and it does get easier.

Having said that, I've just made tuna pasta bake, and forgotten to put any tuna in it . Off to do some recovery cookery and pretend that it was supposed to be like that.

Evening all,
Spent all day refreshing my page wondering why no-one was posting then realised about 10 minutes ago that I was still on page 17 and we are now upto page 21. Oops!

MIFLAW,
Afer reading your post I feel about 2 inches tall. I know you are absoluely right of course, but that is how I was feeling last night, and this is certainly the only place where I can voice those kind of thoughts.

So, I am not drinking tonight. I have decided to give myself over the weekend and depending on how I ge on I may ring the doc on Monday.
Going to make a cup of tea and find something useful to do

venus - you are on a roll girl!! (thanks for the uplifting post, btw! )

MsGee I just read your longer post above about yrou self worth being tied up in your career or men... and that like Mouse you are always after the next high...

I am like this too. I didn't really think anyone could understand this. But you all do.

Why am I projecting? I am now thinking about my DH's 40th. In a MONTH's time. It will be alcohol fuelled. What can I do? We are going to stay the weekend with heavy drinkers to celebrate the big day. Why am I projecting?

Well I fucked up (again) deliberately. DP was an hour late getting in from work after collecting the step-sons. I was irritated at being left on my own till 1945 with both the kids and the inlaws.
I couldn't face another second of "full on reality" so I drank a beer and a double of whiskey from PIL's bottle - he will never notice but that's not the point is it?
Why can't I cope with the normal day to day irritations? 3 yr olds yacking on and on and on and inlaws tutting about the state we've left the house in (again)...I do try.

How am I going to sort myself out (without anyone knowing as DP is convinced I don't have a problem) and get through social events, holidays etc without feeling out of control and helpless or completely resentful and pissed off as I see everyone else getting hammered?

Meant to add ashamed, anxious and paranoid to the list of "symptoms" of drinking too much and waking up the morning after.

I know exactly what you both mean (Christi and Lucilasic)about worrying about how on earth to get through future events. I don't have the answer - I keep reading on here not to worry about the future and do one day at a time, which sounds like very sensible advice, but it is definitely easier said than done. I failed when we went on holiday in August,because I told myslef tha I'd ruin everyone's holiday if I was sober and miserable, I'm still not sure how much that was an excuse and how much was fear.

Evening babes! Just checking in and catching up, been a bit busy and having early nights so not had chance to post much.

Christi - the not projecting thing is really hard, you really do have to do it a day at a time and not worry about 'whenever' further down the line. I am having this problem with my own 40th coming up in about a month. DH has organised a massive party and I can't imagine not drinking - so I am not thinking about it if I can help it at all. I did howver, have a dream last night wher I walked in and asked for a mocktail, much to the horro of my mated who were gluggung champagne - wander if it's a premonition

SAF - Day 6 for me and I know exactly what you are talking about. I feel like I'm coming to the end of a very long hangover - tired, achy, dull headache. I can however say that I am sleeping better, no heart burn, no griping guts and no ghandi's flip-flop mouth

My typing is shit....sorry!

I imagine it might be possible to get through future parties/weddings/holidays etc sober but I know how much of a miserable cow I am without even a couple of drinks.
Yes, I know I never stop at a couple (ok 3 or 4) but if I could I'd have a release from the daily stress.drudgery of life.
I'm not helping anyone here right now with my posts.
Will come back when I can help.

Luci, you must stay here posting. You don't need to help anyone.

I think Jesus, MIFLAW, Mouse and Venus, - who I would call the bus driver and conductors of this merry charabanc - would say that fine, drink if you want to.

But can you STOP at that beer and the double whiskey?

And Luci, do you think people, if they could see the true extent of your drinking, would look at you admiringly 'getting hammered'? I am trying to think about this. If people really KNEW how alcohol affected me they would NOT want me to drink.

It is YOUR problem, no-one elses. We will get nowhere feeling resentful. I am not resentful of Hussein Bolt being able to run 100m in less than 9.6 seconds! There is no point!

There is so much more to life for you than this Luci. Don't use your DH or your DC or your PILs as an EXCUSE to drink. Let's value ourselves more.

We are being selfindulgent - the worst circle of hell according to Dante. I am not much of a believer, but there is something in that thought that not respecting ourselves is the worst sin against God, given that we were given these bodies and minds to do better things.

Luci - I feel you should use this thread as you need to, even of it just to offload and have a bit of a vent. If you can gain anything from these loverly people then please keep coming back, nobody expects anything from you, god knows there's enough pressure IRL. I often feel I don't 'help', I don't have the wise words that some of the others have but when it comes down to it, we are just a bunch of folk brought together by a common cause and with a common goal

Great post Christi

thanks munky you too

We haven't 'met' yet, I've been away for a few days (not really AWAY, just very busy). Anyhoo, hello

DH boiling me some potatoes, it is all I can stomach... fingers crossed I don't throw up!

Hello back!

Mashed spuds are always a winner when you're feeling crap......hope they do the job and you're feeling better soon

Yes! to what Christi and Munky say.

Anyone can and should post on here, anytime, and in any state. I've posted on here when I've been feeling awful. In fact I posted once when Algee was in the middle of a difficult time and I just cut right across the convos, and shouted, help ME, help ME.

If there is any good and any power in a thread like this, it is that we are genuinely all in the same boat (or bus). However crap you are feeling, I am literally once one glass away from being there with you.