All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

miflaw - i particuarly like an N&T, it is sharp and fairly thirst quenching, i do have a few bottles of becks blue in the fridge, they taste very nice, but like you, i am quite wary of them, i dont go anywhere near them if i am 'having a moment' so to speak, i think that could be very dangerous for me! my dear friend found some non-alcoholic fizzy white wine for me in sainsburys (i did check the label, no alcohol at all!), it was quite nice and the evening i had it everyone else was on the champers so it really felt like i was joining in! right now i am enjoying a very cold cranberry and slimline tonic, really refreshing!!!

saffy, its scary isnt it, the amount of money we have wasted on booze over the years , i have noticed my weekly shopping bill has gone down loads, so i too have a few treats - i have also gone back to a few hobbies that i had given up on, makes a day feel really worthwhile and enjoyable!

There you are - everyone's different.

The nearest I have ever come to drinking non-alcoholic beer/wine etc while sober is Supermalt!

Which, incidentally, also has shit loads of sugar and so takes the edge off the craving a treat.

I posted on the first thread as I found it really inspiring and have been lurking since. I'm 8 months sober now and wanted to share re drinking on holiday and envy. I've just spent a week in a large and very hard drinking group. Not once did I want to join them. 90% of it was 'normal' holiday binge drinking, but there were a couple of 'family' and I just felt incredibly grateful that I know that I'm an alcoholic.

Also agree re. pretend alcoholic drinks; although I've never slipped on them, the few times I've had a alcohol free beer it didn't sit well and I felt closer to picking up.

Can I butt right in (sorry) and ask how you feel about sex is sober?
The majority of my sexual encounters over the past 10 years (who am I kidding, 20 years) have been when I've been at least tipsy.
I have managed to drink only one can of cider and one can of beer last night and tonight after the usual weekend binge.
I am still convinced I am more interesting, witty and better company pissed or more truthfully, tipsy.
I know I am a lot more sexually uninhibited.

hello lucy, long time no see!

sober sex is lovley, over the last few years, i have to be honest and say that i have almost 'used' it as a way of convincing my self that when dh makes love to me, then he must have forgiven my crap behaviour/means he still loves me etc etc, it often has not been about mutual pleasure, just me trying to dull the feelings of guilt i have about the fact that i have been spoiling my marriage - after my 'meltdown weekend', dh and i have really talked about this, he has said that very often he has felt that he has 'gone through the motions', just for a quiet life

since i have been sober, we have properly 'connected' again, our love life is just that, loving, it feels almost brand new!, when i kiss him now, he knows it is because i love him and want to kiss him, not because i have just been a bitch and need to try and make amends - he is responding in a very positive manor

gosh, i feel very writing all that down, the thing is, sex is very important to us, it does give us a bond and it was yet another thing that my drinking was spoiling!

lucy, i am assuming you are single - ime/o (many years ago), drunken, casual sex is only going to cause heartache in the long term - you are putting yourself in terrible danger! please dont do it! (thats the mother in me coming out! )

ps - sex is now offically called 'sheet shuffling' - ask venus about it! she has very recent experience!

Pretty much the same as everything else luc. Thought it was all helped by drinking when in reality nothing is helped by being drunk.

oohhhhh, now you really DO know everything about me!!!

helpmenow - am very impressed with your 8 months - i am hoping that i will find the same strentgh as you when we next go away - not projecting, just hoping!!

OOh JWN, you're giving all my secrets away!

Funny what people are saying this evening about 'pretend' drinks. I certainly enjoy a N&T (it is refreshing, not too sweet, cold and lovely), but I have a bottle of alcohol-free wine in the rack and I am not at all tempted by it, not one little bit. As MIFLAW says, why bother?

Being drunk might decrease your inhibitions and make it more possible and more likely that you will have/initiate sex (and may even have sex with someone unsuitable), but it also disinhibits all the wonderful things that go on alongside a wonderful, close, intimate activity. Things like the endorphin rush that makes you feel wonderfully in love, things like the tenderness and closeness, things like the exquisiteness of orgasm.

oi venus, i fort you was goin on oliday?

Yeahrr, and then I see you is talkin' 'bout sex 'n stuff

yeah but no but, its like dirti talk init!

oh bloody hell, just realised miflaw will see my latest postings! ohhh

Aye, sure is hen (can't really do estuary talk)

MIFLAW's a boy - he won't understand any of this stuff . More alien to him than the shoes and hiar dye convos

ere' oo you callin esturay (wheres that then)

venus - you are right!!, thank god! , he is a man and will have no understanding of our previous posts and i am sure will never mention them!

venus, i imagine you to have a sweet scottish burr, in a very looooow tone!

Lovely to 'chat' to you JWN, off to spend some quality time with dp before dd gets home. May see you briefly in the morning before I disappear to the land of serenity and calm.

unfortuantly i sound horribly like peggy mitchell (git owtta my pub!)

Hmm, think prime of miss jean brodie. or as we say in this corner of Scotland "Fur coat and nae knickers"

quality time my arse!!! you dirty dirty girl!!

if i dont see you in the morning, have a super time!, see you soon and take very good care of yourself, we need you!! you are the voice of reason and sanity!!