All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

I chose to tackle the garage rather than the huge food cupboard

that speaks volumes doesn't it

Well done for getting the garage done - that's a truly awful job!! But a real sense of achievement when you see it coming together.

it was hideous

I was attacked form above by dead spiders

ran AT by huge living spiders

I broke a fourescent tuube and scared the crap out of myself

I dropped a big mushroom wooden garden thing on my foot

found some things that made me cry

BUT

oops I pressed too early lol

I meant BUT
I can now fit my car in the garage

well I could if I could open either of the garage doors

Trinity

Thank fuck for that - for a minute I thought you'd drunk again and had the DTs!

Weirdly I dreamt a lot about spiders last night - but luckily I have not been faced with any today. Living or dead!

Well babes, I faced the fear of the bank and went in and made my appointment for tomorrow - so I will definitely need your good wishes then. To be honest things are pretty bad so I am not really sure what they can do for me. But at least I have stopped being an ostrich!!

Hope everyone is well.

OK babes, I hope that my financial woes have not scared anyone off! I am feeling quite proud of myself because no matter what happens I am dealing with it rather than living in an alcoholic fantasy world! (Upcoming lottery win etc.)

Redmoomin WELL DONE sometimes its taking that first step that is oh so scary! You are being proactive now and taking control by facing it head on. Big computer fairy hug (neatly ironed} hurtling towards you

Thanks for the ironed hug MissP

How are you? Have you recovered from the property programme rage yet !

MIFLAW it all makes sense. Thank you

Yes I am feeling much more zen like, I think the huge Tuna/mayo sarnie has helped

Sorry again if I appear as a nag or a know-it-all.

I only talk about what I know.

And I wouldn't like any of you to have to find it out first-hand if you can help it.

Hi you wonderful babes! Is it ok if I join in? I have followed these threads with awe at all your strength and especially the way you all support each other in such a non judgemental way. I drink way too much. Usually a bottle of wine a night. I feel that I should give up, for my health, and because I just have this inner voice nagging me all the time when I am drinking, so I don't really enjoy it, because I feel guilty. So tonight, for the first time in years, I'm determined to stick to fizzy water instead of Cava. I have a problem in that I don't get hangovers, so I never have that "never again" feeling the morning after because I can honestly say I feel absolutely fine. I know it's time for me to stop drinking though, because I spend all day looking forward to my evening drinking, and can relate to those who feel they "deserve" a drink after a hard day. Thanks for reading.

I too need to stop being an ostrich and take my head out of the sand:( Reality sucks but at the moment reality is all there is and if I want to change it, then it's going to be much harder with my head under 6ft of sand:)

miflaw - am having a bit of a day of it here, had a very strange feeling earlier, like i was just going to run to the pub and order a large glass of merlot - i dont want to, but i do iyswim? think i am just feeling resentful, why cant i be normal like everyone else? - i wont drink, just a pissed off i guess, just having a bit of a 'princess' moment i suppose!

Welcome to you Saffysmum! It's great to keep having new people join us all. You will only get support and kind words from everyone - no judgements.

desire - I am glad that you get what I mean about the whole ostrich thing!

JWN - God, I so know what you mean. I have felt like that LOADS of times. It's just so bloody annoying to be an alcoholic at times! Definitely makes me feel sorry for myself - bring on the self-pity! It's a scary place to be though as, for me, it brings me closer to a drink. Just remember you are not alone. Keep posting if you are wobbly!

hi saffy, please join us!! you will find that a great many of us are in the 'bottle of wine a night' club! - even if you are not alcoholic, that amount cannot be healthy.

thanks moomin - thats just what i need! i really am on the pity pot right now, dont worry, i will get over it in a while!
i know whats caused it, its that bloody programme last night and the fact my bf and her family are off on holiday today, i can just picture them on teh plane, nice glass of 'holiday bubbly' in hand , i just want to be like them i suppose - my sensible head is reminding me of the chaos i have caused in foriegn parts that my dh has had to clear up!

off to find my sense of humour, i think i must have put it down somewhere!

Thankyou Red and JWN for the welcome. Because I don't feel rough the next day, I think it's doing me no harm, but I realise this is me kidding myself - I'm so used to it that I've built up a resistance, which is not good. I last gave up a couple of years ago for three weeks, and felt very proud of myself, got a real buzz out of being in control, then I just started again, without a second thought - decided I could control it and would only drink Friday and Saturdays, and then before I knew it was back to a bottle a night. A slippery slope.

saffy - we have all been there. It's a typical problem drinker response, "See I gave up for 3 weeks with no problem. I'm OK!" etc etc. The best piece of advice I can give you is not to worry about whether you are going to drink tomorrow or at the weekend or at Christmas or whatever. Just decide that for today you are not going to drink. You can worry about tomorrow when it comes. You're in the right place.

JWN - it's like a jealousy or something isn't it?! Or a tantrum, I want to be normal! Me! Madness anyway!

Yes, I'm going to try and do the day at a time thing. What I find really sad is that I want to be a "take it or leave it" person - you know, not know when I last had a drink, enjoy myself without a drink, not get peed off if it's my turn to drive, not mind if we run out of wine...and I hate that I can't be like this - it's all or nothing, and I hate nothing. I know how you feel JWN - it's like all the "normal" people are in their own secret club, and we don't have the password. Still, I'm not going to drink tonight, and that's all I'm focussed on!

saffy, i was just like you at one point, the trouble is, that slippery slope just carries on down - ime, most people cant just carry on indefinatly drinking at a certain level, it just rises and becomes a bigger and bigger problem - at my worst i was easily getting through 3 bottles of wine a day, god knows how that would have spirialed if i had carried on.

saffy, a day at a time is all you can do! today in all honesty it is an hour at a time for me , just having a bad day, most days are much easier!