Fab & Glam 11 - A New Chapter

[Tanee58]

I figure that the reason I haven't been able to post all day, is because we've run out of thread - again!! Hope you all find this, my fellow Teabags. Are contenders for the longest-running MN thread?

Anyhoo, TFM, I have a tent, and an inflatable mattress. And I quite fancy a trip oop north!

HOORAY - he made the train. And then it was delayed! . Am off now to make my famous spicy pancake rolls and Delia's red cabbage for tomorrow.

God Bless us, every one!

Hope everyone had a good Christmas? All good here, had a great time with DD and my mad family, a couple of days with DP's mad family and now looking forward to New Year's Eve with DP.

Happy New Year to all the Teabags!

Sounds great, Tanee. Christmas was fine, thanks; we sort of had two as DS1 and DIL came round a couple of days later for a second dinner! We're planning a quietish NY at home, probably including a slug or two of Bailey's. Wine is more appropriate but I'm not sure I can be bothered to buy any. It's the sort of area where people get well into fireworks etc, so I hope the kitties aren't too bothered. They coped with November 5th ok.

I had a nice, quiet, uneventful time. It was great. No arguments, no drunkness (except me on new years eve ) and far too much food!
Not a peep from swampy although I have seen him drive past a few times.
I'm looking forward to getting back to normal life now.

Glad you enjoyed it Tannee and Annie. Hope everyone else did too!

Glad to hear it, Ginnny - life without Swampy sounds a huge improvement!

Annie, hope you enjoyed your two Christmas dinners!

Am really hoping this will be a better year for all of us. We're both feeling so much more positive about 'us'.

Yes thank you

God, I really hope so, Tanee. There's a fabulous guy somewhere under the heaving mass of demons, and no-one could wish for a warmer or wiser life partner than yourself. If only the self-destructive idiot stops being afraid of happiness!

I'll drink to that Tannee!!
I have a good feeling about this year too.

How is everyone else? TFM, Baffy, Dior, HW etc - Are you out there?????

Hi everyone - gosh, it's gone quiet again! Must be the gloomy weather sending us all into hibernation.

Hope things are going well with you all? Things still improving here. Had another good session with the therapist last night - this time, broached the subject of the lack of s.e.x. !!! Something to work on, there . DD popped round last Sunday, briefly, and DP and she managed to say hallo again (this time, without her grunting). Who knows, eventually they may manage some sort of conversation. He said it felt more relaxed. He really is turning back into the man I love, step by tiny step.

Thats nice to hear Tannee - a good start to the New Year.
I haven't been on here much because I don't really have much to say (for a change ). Life is bumping along nicely. DP and I are settling into a routine, both sets of dc are happy, Swampy is keeping his distance and I'm just enjoying the peace for now. For the first time in years I don't have anything much to worry about!!
The court case is on February 24th and I'm dreading that but its far enough away that I can put it out of my mind for the time being.

That's fantastic to hear, Ginnny. I am SO pleased for you1 I've been thinking that the fact that we're quiet, is a good thing - though it's nice to hear the good news, too. I really hope we don't lose touch with each other. The Teabags have so helped me over recent years, I treasure you all.

Yes, don't worry about the court case. That's Swampy's problem, anyway. Good to know that you and DP are still going great guns. Happy endings all round, I hope.

Found you! After ages trawling! Marking my place - will be back tomorrow. Hope everyone is ok x

Hi Lush, how are you? everyone's gone very quiet. Must be the dull weather sending us into hibernation.

Hi Tanee Am fine thanks :-) And you? It's felt a bit hectic being back at work after the xmas break and I've been on mumsnet a bit but on other threads. Not spending as long on the pc either cos dh needs it for work. We're both very busy but trying to balance it with some time to ourselves. How are things with you and dp?

Hello!!!
I've been lurking about on here but not as much as usual. Things are good - DP was getting a bit full on so I've had to have a word. Things are going a bit fast. He's lovely but I feel a bit like we've fast tracked from just 'going out' with each other to full on domesticity and I'm not really ready for that yet.

Swampy has been piling on the abuse now the court case is getting close. He yelled at me in the street the other morning and he still peers in the window all the bloody time. He also left a note through my door making out the kids had been in an accident,when they were fine he's totally sick!!! I have told the police and they are going to arrest him again, but nothing seems to stop him. His DD told me he is so so bitter and full of hate he scares her. He has a new girlfriend now, but even that isn't calming him down.

I am really hoping that he gets sent down, at least then he can maybe get some help.

Oh, that sounds awful Ginnny. One has to wonder why some poor woman has got involved when it must be evident to anyone that he is in a very bad place indeed. I expect he tells her he drinks because his terrible ex dumped him (for another man, natch), as usual a mirror image of the truth.

Hi Annie and Lush, and Ginnny.

Ginnny ! Swampy has really lost it. Can't believe some poor woman has taken him on already. Bet she has to listen to lots of sad, drink-sodden 'poor me' rants. One would hope she doesn't get sucked in, but there's one born every minute. I agree - getting sent down might be the only way he'll get help - he's obviously seriously sick.

Sounds good to get DP to cool off a little bit. Slow and steady is what you need atm, especially with all the Swampy business going on.

Things here still good. Had a glitch last weekend, which we talked out a bit in counselling. DP had gone downhill a bit, I responded by being negative and he got into 'no hope, you'll be better off without me' mode, but at least we can talk it out in a safe space, with the counsellor there. She reminded him to think about WHY we were together, and how he'd felt when he was living alone (miserable). I LIKE our counsellor!

You won't be at all surprised to hear that the new woman could drink him under the table . Theres a recipe for disaster if ever I saw one.
Tannee - I think glitches are only to be expected, and its good that you have the counsellor to help you through them now.

Wow - now we have drinks

Anyone out there???

Recently found out dd probably has cerebral palsy This week I'm coping a lot better. Physio Therapist thinks it's a mild form of diplegia and that dd will be able to lead a near normal life so that is some comfort. It still feels so unfair when she sailed through all the tests after being born early.

Oh God Lush - I'm so sorry
You must have been to hell and back.
(((((huge hug)))))
x

Thanks Ginnny But not too many hugs as it will start me off again Yeah it's tough - but I've been on the SN board and am getting a lot of support and advice there.

Oh Lush - big hug to you - and especially a hug for little DD - I really hope it will remain the mildest form. But she's obviously a fighter - let us know how things go.

Ginnny, when did the s appear? That's all we need!! How are things with you?

AND WHERE IS EVERYBODY ELSE???

I tried arranging a birthday dinner for next week, and find that all my London friends are abroad for half term. Nice to know someone can afford hols, but I feel a bit abandoned, sulking around the place mumbling that I have no friends! I'm planning a weekend in Gloucester, staying with friends who haven't gorn off and left me - cheaper than a B&B. DP's been really sweet recently & I caught him on Amazon, perusing my wishlist - he's so much more his old, lovely self, long may it last!

Thanks Tanee - hope you enjoy your birthday. Might be nice to get away anyway? I do empathise - have a January birthday. People are miserable at this time of year and want to get away! Glad dp is being a dp. The counselling seems to have helped a lot eh. Is he still drinking a lot?

Hellooo!

This time of the morning I'll stick to the thanks. Given the number of posters who have problems with the booze (their own, their partners' or their ex-partners') and the news today about escalating liver disease, it may be the best choice. That's until we are reminded that tea and coffee are also terribly bad for us, all that caffeine etc... fruit juice will rot your teeth... and have you seen what they put in the water?!

So sorry to hear about your DD, LL. It's good that it's been diagnosed though, as you'll know what problems to look out for and where to get help if needed, without going through years of trying to get the health services to take notice first. (In theory at least.) A "near normal" life is the best most of us can hope for, whether or not we had an ideal birth.

Have been on the job hunt again since the beginning of the year (the shift one was only a temporary Christmas rush thing), and have actually started some work on that course I bought a year ago at vast expense. Trying to be pleased with myself for doing it at last rather than angry with myself for not doing it earlier, if that makes sense. Positive reinforcement 'n' all that.

Thanks Annie - and yes you are right. In fact I'm not sure I'm normal

Well done on starting your course

Didn't see the news this morning but it doesn't surprise me. Luckily, I drink for social reasons and when I'm feeling crap I tend to avoid it. It's not a conscious thing really, I just don't fancy it.