brave battling babes get even better without the booze!

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10 weeks ago i started a thread asking for help - i was in a very desperate place, totally dependent on alchohol, unhappy, lonely and floundering around trying to make sense of it all. i was in danger of losing everything i hold dear.

in those few short weeks, i have got my life back and picked up a few computer friends along the way - we help each other, support each other, and laugh and cry together - if you would like to join us, please feel free - no judging, preaching, sermonising or moralising - we are simply ordinary people with a bloody awful illness!

Morning Fairies I am feeling positively positive this am. Welcome Maddog and NeedsTo i'm not the new girl anymore Just read last nights' postings, once again I was able to identify with so much of what you were all saying.The honesty and warmth expressed on here never ceases to amaze and touch me, Keep on keeping on brave computer fairies. x

Hi Trinity i'm afraid I am very familiar with 2/3 day hangovers. Drink plenty of water/squash and be as kind to yourself as you can. Hope it wears off soon x

Trinity, I used to still feel bad in the early mornings, but it did wear off. Fresh air always helps e a bit. Can you take the dog for a nice slow walk?

I haven't ;ost any weight either

I'm fatter now than ever
I've never been this heavy before unless I was 6 months pregnant

I feel like shit about that

if I eat a small bowl of bran flakes with some raisins and a cut up banana for breakfast and then a jscket pot with no butter and some plain tuna or beans for lunch and then grilled chicken and huge amounts of veg or salmon aand huge amounts of veg for finner and snack on veg that would be ok wouldn't it?

I mean thats not too little to eat and not too much is it?

I've not lost weight either Trinty but would dieting as well as not drinking be a lot to try and do? How about going for a walk like Venus said?

weel I enjoy eating that sort of thing, I just gravitate to shit cause its quicker and I'm usually craving the sugar

its such a hassle to go out for a walk with all three girls

getting them ready, toilet forst, then they get bored or tired
grrrr

I know I'm giving up and making excuses

pft, twat

at enjoying eating healthily!

What you are eating sounds OK. Make sure you eat enough snacks (fruit / veg is good). I lost most weight when i followed a programme when I had to eat a big mid-morning snack and a big mid afternoon snack. I just was not so hungry at lunch time and tea time so ate less and was less tempted to nibble on cheese etc.

I haven't lost any weight either through not drinking - well a couple of pounds at the beginning I think, but nothing since then.

I think you have to deal with one thing at a time. My most serious problem just now i.e. the one that is most likiely to ruin my life, is my drinking. So that is what I have to sort first.

If I try to sort other things e.g. my weight, my pathalogical hatred of exercise, etc, then I run the risk of feeling like a failure, and then using that as an excuse to have a drink, or using drink as an way of creating oblivion so I didn't have to worry about failing to lose weight or exercise.

So one thing at a time Trinity: keep sober. I guess that by doing that you are more likely to remeber to take your tabs, and to keep on top of things in the house - both of which will help you to stay a bit brighter.

Trinity your new diet plan sounds really good

How about an exercise DVD at home? You can do in evening once the girls are asleep?
30 day shred, or Carmen Electra Fit to Strip (better than it sounds!, no stripping involved!), Davina, or Pilates or Yoga?

Trinity, can you dss and his gf look after one of your girls for a wee while? You don;t have to go for a long walk. A ten or fifteen minute amble is fine. Gets you out in the fresh air (and the rain) and gives you a break from being in the house.

Seriously, you are very impressive with the exercise and healty eating!

what IS a shred?

I have the wii fit
but we lost the sensor bar (sont ask, I have no idea how)

except we have been throwing so much out it could have got moved and chucked

and then rach bought one off ebay for us but didn't relise that it was wireless so eats batteries like they are going out of fashion (I didn't even realise they did wireless sensor bar, seems a silly idea)

so we gae up on that and I have ordered a wired one (only 3 quid off ebay)

I wil drink if I stay this fat

I feel disgusting and I know I've got kike this because I've drunk so much and ate disgusting wrong things constantly for the last year
I'm a stone and a half heavier than I am normally

everyone told me to keep eating when neil died or I'd waste away through grif
Hav these people ever heard of comfort eating!

I'm sorry I'm pooping all over ths thread

I just seem to be floundering around, I feel like I'm drowning
I didn't drink for nine days but I ate three tubs of flake ice cream in that time and I only had ice cream three times

yes I can and have eaten an entire tub of hugely fattening ice cream IN ONE Sitting

not to ention the kit kat chunky caramels and the bags and bags of crisps

pft

When I am finding it difficult to get out and do things (I am a bit agorophobic) I set myself a timetable e.g. 10.30 eat an apple and banana. 11.00 do the washing up, 11.30 go for walk to the post box at the end of the road, 12.00 make lunch etc. That sometimes stops me from just delaying doing things and not making lunch till I am too hingry and then just eating crap.

I am not OCD, so I don;t have a time table foe every minute of the day but sometimes just setting a plan for a couple of hours gets me ove the inertia. It also stops me inventing excuses for myself. So if I'm going to walk to the post box at 11.00, then that is what I will do, regardless of whether it is raining, or looks like it might rain, or there is something interesting just coming up on TV. The only way out is if I do my 'tasks' earlier.

morning all! trinity!, dont try too much too soon! you have a huge amount on at the moment and i think venus is right, staying sober, keeping your home in order and getting the girls into a routine will lift your mood tremendously! your menu idea looks great, and it certainly wouldnt do you any harm to eat a good healthy diet - just dont obsess about the scales right now!

Hi everyone.
I'm a serial lurker too and have been reading all the posts over the last few weeks and days.
I need to join you lovely babes for support...
I've lost count of the times that I have awoken with a raging hangover, only to promise myself I won't ever drink again..... then 2-3days later guess what?
I think/know that I have been a (functioning) alcoholic for years... but like many on here used a bench mark of other people's drinking to justify that 'I'm not that bad'... I am and can easily drink 2 bottles of wine of a friday night. ( BTW I'm 45 3 kids 10,13,13 and in the process of separating from H )
The words from everyone here give me strength and hope. Thank you all..
Last week I didn't drink for 4 evenings... although it went 'pear shaped' on the thursday and saturday.. but have made that decision to try to quit... my challenge is a wedding that I'm going to on Friday, it starts at 5pm, which is bad for me as I don't drink during the day, only on evenings...
I'm not going to drink this evening (today).
Have a great day everyone.... x

Hi all !!

I'm back ! And I'm on day 4 this time ! Thank you toclear to reinsure me regarding the headaches, its my second day with it and I have also a burning stomach Thank you so much for this thread !!!!

hi fluxy

very very welcome and good luck

morning fluxy! one day at a time!!! do not even think about the wedding until you gat there, thats called 'projecting' and we dont do it!! (we do, but we tell each other off for doing it!)

hello gloup!!!

I'm already thinking..."how am I going to 'cope' with everyone and not drinking".I can be and will be fine.

Ok.. note to self about projecting ( not heard of that in this context...). Very good idea...!

Shred is some tortuous exercise programme! I do not start things like that, it only gives me something else to fail at and feel crap.

Eating ice cream is fine. Nothing wrong with it, if it is a prop you need to deal with sugar cravings in the short term.

I find there is a big link between my drinking and my eating crap. I can have lots of lovely healthy food in the house (and I do really like cooking) but if I'm drinking, there I am surrounded by empty crisp bags, sweet packets, a plate from my bacon sandwich. I KNOW that I don't sit and each rubbish, and then think, oh I'll have a drink. It is always the other way round. I sit and drink, then start eating crap. And then of course need lots of sweet and salty things the next day to evercome the hangover.

Trinity, not drinking may not have made the pounds drop off, but you know that drinking is not going to do that either. And in fact, drinking will only make it worse.

Whay have you got in the house now that is healthy that you can eat? A banana? an apple? some orange juice?

apples

potatos

brocolli

milk

tuna

salmon

lean mince

runner beans

carrots

I haven't eaten yet and I feel sick now as I have taken my ad's wuthout food so need to eat to stop that

but dont want to end up eating the choclate bars in the drawrr caause I'm starving

Good morning all,

Hello to needsto, fluxy and maddog. Welcome!

Well, I am back to Day 1. Feeling like total shite, emotions all over the place and I am not sure if my marriage is going to survive. (Many problems not all connected to my drinking.) Only been married 21 months! Got a meeting tonight so I am looking forward to that. Feel incredibly stupid and low but I am trying not to dwell on it. All I can do is put it behind me and concentrate on staying sober one day at a time. Ugh ugh ugh.