ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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aah starting - that brought a tear to my eye thanks hope you find peace during your time away.

glad you found it pink

A big thanks to all my dumpling friends. After a long day I am finally coming back into myself! My dc's are v v excited about holl & xh robbed me of some of that joy today. I will not let myself be robbed of another second .

Its probably cos he still loves you he has to try to engage you starting.

When will we hear from you next ?

Getting, you will next hear from me in a few nights time when I will post a message that I have abandoned dc's to my mother & am having wild sex with some hot spanish waiter ..................tbc

Have a fab time Starting, we look forward to hearing about your exploits

Aww have a great tine Starting - glad fabulosity has been regained.

morning
(hoping starting has a cool time)

gosh happy were you up late or awake very early? (a 5.34 post eek!!)

hope the book proves useful beebers let us know won't you ?

waves at all dumplings

i was making my bed this morning and i got to thinking. don't know if this is a dangerous thought or nor so looking for opinions....

"i must keep up my fabulousity because i WANT h to start to regret dumping me" but ladies i thought about it and i just want him to come back to me and for me to be able to say "no thanks turns out you are a bit of a twunt"

i feel like i should be having a total makeover on the outside to go with how i am changing on the inside. i am 30 after xmas and want to celebrate in style with a brand new me, but i am stuck for inspiration. i have never really been one to do the whole girly thing with make up and clothes but i could get used to it i am sure !!!

any dumpling out there secret style gurus ?

armbow, what is it that you want to do. when i left my exhusband i went brunette am normally a dirty blonde (hair not sex). I changed it back about a year later.

Paul McKenna advises that you should make changes so that you no longer have associations that you have when you were a couple, I was reading it in bed last night. He says that you should change something around in your house. I was too comfortable to do it last night but this morning am going to push my bed into another part of the room. I still sleep on 'my side of the bed', this way I can change sides of the bed without really noticing.

Due to my lack of appetite and constant fag smoking, I have lost about half a stone. Two weeks ago I went to a wedding reception. ExP was babysitting at the house I deliberately wore a dress that he bought me at christmas but had never worn before. it was quite slutty main reason for not wearing it. i leant over to kiss the kids good nigt gave him full advantage of my cleavage and sashayed out. when i met up with my friends, i said there was nothing like leaving the person that has dumped you with a massive erection.

Anyhoo, this is not about me, its about you. Go on to ASOS they do really nice clothes to suit all shapes and some are really reasonable.

what sort of size/shape are you. i do enjoy dressing people its a sort of habit of mine.

ladies, i have just gone into full melt down mode in front of the children

The second one (DD 5) has been put on this earth to test the patience of saints, she has had non stop tantrums this morning, kicking and punching her brother and being mean to her three year old sister.

I am just at the end of my tether and was shouting at them to just leave me alone. I am sick of their behaviour, am dreading the holiday because I think its going to be a nightmare and I just can't cope with them.

My mother came over and said I had three very difficult children, I told her to take them then. They just fight bloody constnatly, I don't know where I am going wrong with it all.

I have made my mum take them to the park so I can just get a break from them. They make me feel so claustrophobic. The five year old thinks the sun shines out of her dad's arse, half of me wants to tell him to come and collect her and he can raise her by himself to see how easy it is. But that is an awful thing to think isn't it. I just wish the whole thing could get easier.

You are tall so no doubt you have fantastically long legs. I don't want to be all trinny and susannah and start grabbing at your tits but what sort of clothes do you wear at the moment, what colour hair do you have.

dark brown hair.
I wear jeans, jeans, errr jeans and t-shirts. I like fairly classic cut stuff like jeans and blazers but never really have the guts to ear them. I LOVE jennifer annistons dress style - classyic and simple. in fact i want her wardrobe.

Hi Armbow and BB sorry you are having a crap day.BB you have been sounding soooo much better last few posts you are doing really well. Its good you have parents nearby to help out a godsend with small dc.

Am tired have had DD up being sick most of the night and feeling poorly today. After 2 days of doing nothing I had all these grand plans of achievemet and action for today instead of which I am still sitting on the sofa feeling odd and depressed.

Someone began a thread yesterday saying how you do eventually get to true happiness after divorce in her case taken 20 months but now she is so different. Sort of cheering but also I want to forget about all this NOW !!

I am hoping after a good nights sleep and with all the holiday preparations over next couple of days I will be lifted out of this brooding fog

Loving the style thing going on Armbow you should put a couple of photos on your profile

If you have nice long legs and a flat tummy then why don't you go for a maxi dress? I do not have shares in ASOS but they have some nice ones in there.

I am a big fan of the dress over leggings type outfit, which you can wear with high heels to make a bit more dressy.

Ooh i like this:

www.asos.com/Warehouse/Warehouse-Nirvana-Rose-Halter-Maxi-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1079088&cid =8799&Rf95=1363&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=20&sort=3&clr=Multi

or this:

www.asos.com/Asos/Asos-Workwear-Linen-Tulip-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1007093&cid=8834&sh=0&pge =0&pgesize=200&sort=3&clr=Black

do you know what is nice as well flame me for being a twunt but if you have long straight hair, give it a wee bit of curling and put a flower behind your ear. that looks lovely and makes you look fresh faced and happy. do it, do it, do it.

am slightly mad today.

Waves to everyone ....out late tonight more business stuff but got to take kids ,not a problem

patience where do you live do you need some help?

Beebers if you fancy a bit reading to equip you for these pesky kids of ours this book is ace and this one. This one has some good ideas too.

I'm still swatting up but it all helps me to have new ideas and plans on dealing with tricky behaviour

Tomorrow is a new day and will be better.

I ordered the Lundy Bancroft book Inside the minds of angry men today which I hope arrives soon as I need a distraction from my thoughts.

Phase Eight have got a couple of gorgeous maxi dresses at the moment. I agree BB Armbow will look fab in one , I am not quite as tall at 5ft 9 but love wearing mine. When I come out of this funk will you style me BB ? I have looked exactly the same for my entire life . Its the curly hair. I bought some darn expensive straightners and quelle surprise they are in their box untouched

LC where are you ? I am missing the phrase "the Critter household " Hows the reconciliation going ?

Tea any luck with cbeebies thing ?

Patience . Now dont take this the wrong way but reading your posts I had you down as a strictly zen hippy chick and now you've gone all Alan Sugar on me .

Anyway waves to everyone and Happy I will be in touch re meet up. Assume WGC isnt a good venue for majority ? But are we all happy with 25th September ?

Heres to Starting finding a lovely hombre to cheer her up and take her mind off that stupid arse exh of hers

Yes I will happily style everyone and anyone who wants it. I get thoroughly over excited by shopping so its nice to pick out things for other people.

teaandcakes, i have heard about that sibling rivalry book and will order it definately. i need to do something before i end up running screaming from the house to get away from them.

the pisser is individually they are all lovely but when they get together my god they can try the patience of saints.

hellooooooo

oohhhhh Beebs i lurve the second dress... i like the idea of maxi dresses but i am always too tall for them if that makes sense.. they hover above my ankles and look like i have shrunk the dress might purchase the second one for a night out in a couple of weeks thanks xxxx

nnooooooooooooooooooooooo not photos you will see me at the meet up are we messaging each other privately about this yet?

I can do the 25th.

waves at getting and tea

check out this then armbow

www.longtallsally.com/dresses/maxi-dresses/fir-maxi-dress/black?category=f-013_dresses

will show off your nice boobs, skim over your curves and is long enough. nuff said.

or this reduced to £13!!! It's a crime not too.

www.newlook.com/shop/womens/tall/aztec-maxi-dress_197530619

hell, i'll buy it for you and send it on.

Hello from the critter household!
I've been lurking but have had an attack of serious lethargy which has prevented me from keeping my eyes open for any length of time. Seriously, I just can't stay awake. It's as if I've used up all this month's quota of adrenaline and I just need to crash.

I'm definitely up for a meet-up on the 25th. I'll be coming from Brum so if anyone needs a lift they are welcome. Please can it be a sitting-down gathering as I'm only 5'6"? I would so love to be taller.

I let XP stay on Mon and Tues night but only as a "guest". It was very awkward as my eldest ds (different father) now hates XP as he was with me when I discovered the affair (found a sloppy letter) and he feels very protective of me, having assumed the man-of-the-house role. I was quite glad when XP went back to his hotel yesterday as I had quickly forgotten about sky sports and how irritating he can be. Today, I don't want him back at all but I am aware that I keep changing my mind so I am going to keep my distance while I work out what I want. The other major stumbling block is that I think XP wants to come back for the wrong reasons - our ds, sky sports, laundry service, juicy bank account etc. I don't think he loves me enough. He certainly hasn't shown it.

Right, off to catch up on all the posts I've missed now. Hope you're all ok .

beebs you are good !!!! that dress is amazing from long tall sally and i like the new look one too !!
am going to order the asos black dress for my night out... and maybe the new look one too
.... you are gong to cost me a bloody fortune