ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Cant survive 5 minutes without this thread

getting - he may well have blown that chance and it was only really a little sniff of what a chance might feel like if I thought about lowering myself to let him lick my boots.

I just wish I didn't fancy him. My heart does a little flip when I see him. He can melt me with one look. I find him so hugely attractive. Even after 14 long years. Anniversary of our meeting on Monday.

Bet that's why the bugger thinks I'll let him move back in on Monday...

Your DS does feel loved though and not just dumped with his dad to be rid of him doesn't he?

Is there no way you can agree specific days for contact every week?

Nice one LC ,my positive thing this week was stopping working for somene that had a tantrum at me ,my emotional thing was selling something very much loved to raise a bit of cash ,i am truly heartbroken about that because its another consequence of Hs behaviour ,and i guess he doesnt want to support me thru this cause of some guilt ,detatching from me is easier for him,but sooooo painful and punishing for me its all abuse and i cant go thru this all again,just so much changing in my life dont know which road to take and startin to spin again ,early nite i think really upset ,no phonecalls to the kids or anything ,just slithers off again ......

X posted with you.

LC - did you say you'd said no to him moving back in?

Does this make me a double dumpling ?

Patience and like Getting too.

No. You just wanted to give him another chance Patience. But he's an alcoholic and I fear he will keep hurting you.

I dont think she's begging him to come home Tea ,and hope you were joking re "son feeling loved "No offence but just doesnt read well IMO

It wasn't a joke but it also wasn't meant to offend either. It's difficult to do tone of voice on here sometimes.

Tea he hasnt drank for weeks he wouldnt be home if he was drinking HUGE BOUNDARY this isnt about drink this is about day to day life but i will make up my own mind thanks ps i dont do

Sorry I thought he hadn't come home? And you didn't know where he was? So I thought he'd fallen off the wagon and gone awol.

I don't really understand your post about not doing ? However I don't mean to offend you, I think you're misunderstanding me but I shall bow out and go and do something else rather then make things worse or upset you

Tea - I did ask ds if he wanted to go and when I mentioned "barbeque" he couldn't get his shoes on quick enough . I know how to manipulate men .

And just for the record I told XP that there was a lot more talking to do before he moved back in. And by the time he's been on the end of my razor sharp tongue he'll be thinking twice about the merits of moving back with in me anyway.

I'm hatching a plan to humiliate him and OW as neither of them have actually faced up to the enormity of what they've done. It might just be illegal though and I don't want to be arrested for libel or harrassment.

I dont know what the jammy dodger means either i just meant i dont use the blue circle it justs symbolic i guess .Dont know what hes up to but you just have to get on with it,guess i just needed to write it down but maybe its the wrong place to do it ,never mind.Hope ur not offended

Hey, tea come back here! I need you!

This thread is meant to be a safe place to share. So I'm so sorry Patience if I made you feel worse. Please keep sharing and I shall keep schtum (sp?)

means no comment or sometimes have a instead.

Sorry the alternative meaning is:

have a "biscuit"

as you type biscuit to get the jammy dodger emoticon. IYSWIM?

I haven't got any jammie dodgers but I've got shedloads of chocolate. Will that do?

Actually, I don't understand the biscuit emoticon at all. I mean, I really don't. Have a biscuit is a polite thing with a cup of tea, is it not? Am I missing something?

If you're being silly on a thread you'd say have a

However most people just use it to say "no comment" on am I being unreasonable and things like that.

LC Urghh know what you mean about the attractive -H has always been really physically attractive to me.

But really really dont do the humiliation thing. It will backfire and hell be able to paint you as that mad b*h. Stay away from her and above it all. hard I know. Just damage them in your fantasies but try try try to move on from it.

Patience sorry you had to sell stuff. And hope he gets his arse in gear soon. Hope you get the right house for you.

Waves to all dumplings.

Forgot to say Dutchie -glad you are back and doggie being nearly bionic.

I know you are right about the humiliation thing, Mumfun. But what really hurts is that this is all still a secret. OW is a colleague of XP and a family friend. We have all been on holiday together, with dc's!!! And she is telling mutual friends that someone is spreading malicious rumours about XP having an affair and that I'm being silly for believing them. Meanwhile XP hasn't told a soul. Even his parents don't know that he's moved out. He's hoping to slither back in before anyone notices to save his reputation and salvage his guilty conscience.
I want to blow it all out of the water. I just want to honest. But in a very public way .

evening all.

patience - hang on in there, hope you are feeling ok. early night sounds like a good idea. you have soooo much going on in your life at the moment maybe time to step a while and think about the long game. if you planned as though you were going to be alone would h be bale to fit in with your plans if he was to shape up?

its sounds to me and please forgive me if i am speaking out of turn, but it sounds from your posts as though be is holding you back from making a very successful move into a new phase of your life. I heard someone say once that your partner should enhance your life. be true to yourself.

littlecritter - whilst your p is still prioritising himself over everything else you need to completely distance yourself and as for him thinking he can move back in FFS what is he thinking. he needs to know he does not have an automatic right to be with you...

right my tea is ready so going to eat and catch up on rest of thread

lc i am so on your behalf... by him not telling anyone he must assume that he will be back with you before long. this is bullsh*t, how would he feel if you had done this to him,
would he hush it all up ??? by keeping quiet you are doing as he wishes and smoothing the way for him to come home with as little fuss as possible.

TBH AB i think any couple who try over again after one person has hurt the other one,is going to come up against hurdles in the early days,I dont think I see myself as single as much as working towards an independence i havent had in my life before.I think we are so used to the co dependent fairytale bullshit of needing to be validated by the bloke that i didnt realise how unhealthy it was.I just think living with the consequences of the last 6 mths or so caught up with H this week .Its just a tough stage everything is fine then something triggers a memory ,then you have to make really hard decisions and i feel im on my own.Anyway patience obtains all things we will see if he gets back in touch tomorrow.But I wont get dragged down again , my freedom is huge now and my boundaries have changed so H has a different woman to deal with now...chances are hes gone fishing ....