ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 6

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Paignton is lovely, there's a great water park, zoo etc.

If this weblink works there's a list here

I stayed in Dartmouth 2 years ago and it was lovely. Go into Tourist information when you get there and grab loads of leaflets and take your pick as there is far more locally around Paignton. I went to a cave and that was fun but I cannot remember the name

Hi everyone

Tea hope the party goes well and you have a lovely day with your DD , your dcs look lovely

Armbow thats great about the cottage I am that you will be able to get out of the family home so fast -bet your exh is shocked ?

BB I grew up in that part of the world its lovely and theres lots to do

Pink any luck with your escapee ?

Patience how did it go ?

Starting yes you can put £2 coin into the meeting fund !!Thankyou for IT tips

Well after 48 hours of being lost in contemplation about how I have ended up here and reading a lot of stuff on MN I think I have processed a lot of valuable insights. I read a post by thumbwitch which blew me away as I saw that what she was saying was exactly what had happened to me but I had never put it together in my own mind so well.

Its a line though isnt it between cogitating usefully on past issues and brooding pointlessly . Today I want to something but dont know what think ds has picked up on my lethargy and hasnt dressed for 2 days and is snoozing on the sofa . DD gets back from camping mid afternoon and I cant wait to see her little face .

I agree with taking knowledge from your past and learning from it Getting but not letting the negatives stop you enjoying the rest of your life.

Update on business empire,

1.Turned down by factor re premises ,bit of a set back cos location was mega and it was small and cheap,but my dream book said this would happen at some point ,so i was prepared for it,all depends how much you want it ,apparantly you just have to be flexible and diversify

1. Last night worth doin but not done a deal yet but may be imminent [all about raising funds for start-up costs]seeing as premises not happening ATM gives me a bit of space .

All i know is i am too busy to really notice H is back home but look up at half 5pm to see he has got home not gone to pub.
All about me concentrating on my self esteem and independence .

AB i'm waiting to hear about lease re house so hope dumpling good fortune comes my way too

Have a great party tea ,

Hope toe pain is easin' BB

Glad dog is adapting to his MOTO GP wheels Dutchy,glad all goin well with ur "American Boy"

Waves to Happy and Startin' x

Party went really well.

I sent in a card to CBeebies for today and thought it wasn't shown, but it was and I missed it and didn't record it for her. A friend told me. So I feel a bit sad about that. But I keep trying to look at the bright side that the party went well and I also found an envelope in my bedroom with my name on and some money in it. So one of my friends sneaked it in there today. It's anonymous, so I can't thank them but it certainly helps loads with the cost of today. So I'm trying to be positive, despite missing her card on CBeebies.

What's happening ladies? How's your days all been?

Glad the day went well. Courtesy of ds type in bbc iplayer on google and you should be able to watch CBeebies you missed

That's what I thought but I cannot find a replay of the birthdays I can find programmes from today but not the bit inbetween. Do you think your DS could help me?

We had a look on CBeebies but as you say its all programmes but under help you can contact bbc iplayer with detailed question . You would think this sort of thing happens and they will be able to help.. I hope so I know I would be very disappointed too.

you sound a bit down - maybe just tired after a busy day ?

Hi Dutchy, good to see you back. Sorry to hear about your poor dog, hope he/she is coping well. Glad you're still having fun with NM & that he's spoiling you.

Hi Beebers, you sound like you've bounced back into positivity. Hope trip to pound shop went down a treat & that you have a fab holl. Hope your toe has eased up a bit.

Getting, I think sometimes we need to allow ourselves days like that in order to move forward. All worth it if you are gathering insights. Hope your dd got hope safe & sound

Patience, there's no stopping you now you've got into your stride

I am struggling today due to tiredness, could hardly muster energy to pack. Got a registered anonymous letter in the post this morn. Turns out there is no limit to how low xh will sink. After going on a wild goose chase someone close to me had a look at letter & pointed out it was obviously sent from xh & I had completely misintrepred meaning . It was a really nasty underhand thing to try to drag me into. Worse, the day before I am due to leave on holls. Why do I fall for his f**king twuntery all the time . He was going to use me to walk innocently into something for his own gain .

Ah Tea, glad you had a lovely day & that was so nice of your friend. You must have some lovely friends to be so thoughtful . Is there anywhere here you could post & see if anyone recorded today's programme or if there's anyway to get a copy. What about an email to CBeebies?

Well fellow dumplings although the last few days have felt glum I really feel like I have made some proper progress on understanding how certain things occured in my marriage. Also an improved insight into the murky mind of exh and how some of his behaviours impacted on me.

I am surprised that my mind should want to be delving into all that at this stage as I have already given a lot of thought to everything. However I did have some new information and I feel its already helping me in my quest to detach myself from exh's low opinion of me which I have struggled at times to understand and worse struggled not to have as my own opinion of me

Today I cooked a proper tea, went to the gym,opened a financial paperwork file and understood NONE of it

Waves to all

I keep wanting to cry as I'm gutted I missed the birthday card, as you have to send it in 4 weeks before and I took the time and effort to make it.

I'm ok Getting just very very tired x

Tea there WILL be a way of retrieving the footage I would try but I expect you would need to give your DDs real name ..there is specific bbc iplayer help bit and I am sure they will be able to help dont give up yet

In FAQs they said they do not send recordings out.

Just gone on & checked it aswell Tea. That's a sh*te thing to happen .

Can you post a thread on chat Tea ....wider audience someone might know something or have recorded it ,you never know,def email bbc ,we will start a campaign if necessary!!!

It's no good ladies, I've resigned myself to the fact I should have recorded CBeebies all day. After watching the first 2 birthday times, I figured I'd not sent it in in enough time and switched off. Angry at myself mainly.

Off to watch tv and comfort eat, washing up the carnage from today can wait until tomorrow. The lounge is tidy, the recycling of all the wrapping paper is outside in the the communal recycle bins and I've piled it all in neat piles in the kitchen. I just can't bring myself to do it. Will watch tv for a short while and then go to bed.

evening all

h is very shocked about my new house ~(mwah mwah mwah !!!)

having the house valued tomorrow and ds1 is now in a fab school - so very very pleased. i was getting sick and tired of waiting around for good stuff to happen. i have always wanted to live in this village because i love the lifestyle it offers. h was never that fussed though so i thought now was the perfect time to take the bull by the horns.

bloody hell tea that is a bummer - i always thought they would have written a letter or emailed the people whose card they were going to show as they show them quite
regularly - surely they don't expect you to sit glued to the tv all day.

patience - sending good dumpling vibes for both finding a lease on for your business and also for a new house.

getting - a proper tea !!! I have forgotten what one of those looks like this is the one area i am struggling with, kids are eating well i just keep forgetting to eat.

starting do not let you xh ruin what should be lovely holiday, have a lovely time put all your into a box and keep it for when you are back .

waves to dutchy beebers and happy.

ps done my davina workout

aaah tea dont be too hard on yourself - at least you sent one in - i have been meaning to do it for a couple of years but never seem to get round to it.

sounds like the party was great fun and the cake was awesome

Hi all after a difficult 24 hours I have bounced back and decided not to be narked off by BE's twuntery - helped of course by kind Dumplings words and professional assistance.
I will not be bullied when I have done nothing wrong.
Tea, sorry that you missed the slot - post on chat maybe and someone must help
AB much impressed by your empowerment and love it when these XH's realise that not all about them
Patience, you will get there in the end with your business, I just know it
Getting, it sounds good that you are processing marriage stuff. I will pencil you in for a lecture on learnings at the meet up
Starting, you certainly need a holiday with all XH's behaviour. You will bounce back from latest twuntery I know - thank f* you are mostly away from him and I think always keep your distance. It seems like whenever you are kind to him it doesn't really help so detachment is definitely good.
Waves to all - including those pesky lurkers

Just did a long and highly amusing post......pressed send, and bloody lost it. FFS

I found what I'd lost. Thank you all for your good wishes.

I'm SO RELIEVED.

Back tomorow.

Nite xxx

i am starting to read new paul mckenna book but am yet to feel empowered. do you have to read the cd as you go along or afterwards. it says do not drive when listening to it. is that because he is going to put a spooky spell on me. god but i wish it was derren brown then i could imagine myself twiddling his wizardy beard.

looking forward to saturday night have purchased new top and necklace but am wondering about footwear now i have a joke sized toe. perhaps posh sparkly flipflops. or is that unattractive with huge bandage.

tea, i bet you are gutted about the birthday card. i have not looked into it but is there some kind of place that you could post on a cbeebies message board - there must be other people who have taped it. what was the birthday card of?

good night my darling dumplings, sleep tight.

BB glitter and sparkles on your bandage it has to be done !
Pink so glad you found it !
Happy glad you bounced back we are all improving our emotional fitness ...very flexible dumplings !
Getting so proud of you ..you are fab hope dd had alovely trip !
Waves to all x
AB reality and consequences ..its all good !
Startin have a fab time !!!!
Tea you will def get to see it ..keep the faith !!!!

Beebers, flipflops are the way to go I'd say. Hope you have a fab night out & great that you have treated yourself to new top & necklace .

Pink, am thrilled you found your missing item.

Tea, hope by some miracle you might manage to get a copy. It is one of those things that would be v upsetting . I also think it's important that you recognise how great you are to have given dd such a lovely party & especially for your baking efforts. Don't beat yourself up over this.

Armbow, you are an inspiration. I need to borrow a little of your attitude . So happy for you that you've got a lovely cottage exactly where you want to live. I also think it's exactly what you deserve after all you've been through.

Happy, I think you may be onto something about me being too bloody nice & xh taking advantage .

By typing this I am going to let go of all my rage, hurt & upset. It's been a day of slow realisation that xh has gone to great lengths & cunning to drag me into something. I now realise dropping court charges, having solicitor/police report to me that he was v mentally unwell & cancelling maintenace was all part of a greater plan! I feel so so angry & upset that he would do this to me in wk I was going on holls & especially to have timed letter to arrive today .