Struggling to accept DP sisters will not accept our dd

[MCDL]

DD now 4.2, although after some time dd is now accepted by Grandmother and brothers, sisters continue to want to have nothing to do with her. They are close to DP children 18 and 23, who also continue to dis own her. Finding it difficult to accept this. Feel if they took the lead, dp's children would follow. Feel they using dp's children as an excuse to continue this ridiculous behaviour .... Any advice ....

Oh yippee, yet more crass typecasting of people with aspergers as selfish and unfeeling

would have expected better from you Aitch tbh

'I have also taken none of these personal attacks on board ... '

Of course not. Why on Earth take responsibility for any role you and this 'DP' played in abandoning his children with an alcoholic, unstable mother?

You're a real piece of work!

Honestly, I hope his children come round for their own piece of mind and sense of peace, sounds like they were dealt a real shite hand when it came to their parents. How sad for them.

I think she must be quite thick-skinned or self-controlled if she didn't get angry about the personal comments on this thread (including the ones I made).

It's a kind of single-mindedness in the approach to the problem which I find it difficult to understand from my outsider's point of view here. Feels like there is a kind of unswerving purpose mayb e not many of us could maintain and Aitch was trying to understand that Greensleaves

well maybe tbh I have pretty much given up on grasping the situation. I don't think MC can really be bothered explaining it anymore either.

I thought it was about bringing the family round to accepting dd's presence in their midst. However if they see her anyway, I don't understand that bit anymore. Maybe ti is about her being invited/wanted at family celebrations. I remember that bit coming up somewhere in the thread. That is obviously not happening atm.

Seems to be all about appearances but maybe it counts for a lot their or in their life. Hard to say. Ithought too maybe MC just wants the family to love her dd, whether or not that is at all realistic

Eh Greeny? I missed that

People with AS fail to demonstrate empathy: that is in no bway thesame as not feeling

Indeed the diagnostic issue is issues with emotional understanding and appropriate display- ds1 fits the stereotype but ds3 conforms to the exact opposite by being especially loving and outgoing (just no empathy) fulfilling the creiterion of a deviation from norm without that of the stereotype

It is about dp's children accepting dd. DP son has met dd now on three occasions, no choice really of his own but contacted his Dad looking to be collected. Circumstances were each time that he was happy too do but dd would be with him. He agreed. Yesterday evening they stopped off for something to eat. This is a huge break through and may allow dp aunts not to feel such dis loyalty if they decide to see dd also ....

Dp daughter is away travelling for the summer .... She returns to start college depending on school results.

Good weekend on bridge building. DP, dd and dp son went out for the afternoon. They met with Grandmother afterwards, she had some food ready for them ..., I worked in the morning and caught up on some housework in the afternoon. Normal.

Doesn't your DH's son want some one to one time with his dad without your DD being there all the time. Isn't it rather rubbing his nose in it?
And how do you judge "it went well?" Because the DS was polite and tolerated the situation?

DS spends lots of time alone with his dad, they are away golfing together this weekend, it went well as he apoke to her and about her said he enjoyed her company, that she was a lovely placid and entertaining child also that he would encourage is sister to spend time with her also.