wanking while i'm in the shower

[isheaknob]

ok have a bf of 9 months. have got really close lately. he stays over at mine 2-3 times a week.
anyway he tried it on this morning and i said no i wasn't up for it as i needed to sort the kids out (they were downstairs watching tv). so i have a very quick shower and come back into the bedroom. he has a towel wrapped around him when before he had boxers. i ask him why and he said he was getting ready for a shower and his boxers were in his bag.
so he has a shower and it becomes obvious that he had a very quick wank while i was in the shower. i confronted him and he admitted it saying that he didn't think it was wrong as he was feeling extra horny! he said sorry but now i just feel weird about it. the thing is its not like he hasn't had it in a while as we have been doing it twice the last few days.
just need some female views as i'm not sure if i'm over re-acting. just because i say no does that mean he has to go and jerk off!
thanx.
oh by the way am a regular and am far too embarrassed to have my real name

[isheaknob]

no it doesn't hurt me by i just wasn't expecting it and haven't been in that situation before.

[SomethingOrOther]

Take it as a compliment. He's so turned on by you that he can't wait.

I'll be honest (because I've namechanged for this!) that when I got with DH I was young and (mostly) innocent. The whole wanking thing freaked me out and I thought it was nasty, disrespectful etc. Actually I thought it meant I wasn't enough for him.

Then DH confided in me that before he asked me out he had, erm, fantasised about me and, erm, sorted himself out... I don't know why, I thought that was HOT.

DH doesn't do it a lot (once a month maybe?) and I think it's quite sexy when he does actually! Maybe I'm a freak though...

He did once do it on our bed (while I was on a trip) and opened his eyes after to find a squirrel had climbed in through the window and was staring at him!

[isheaknob]

i'd find it hot if i was in on it too but it just seemed sneaky

[Gay40]

That probably added to the fun.

[AnyFucker]

I hope this thread has made you think a bit though...

Not sneaky...natural

[thickirishsausage]

I dont think the issue here is the act of masturbation itself. Yes we all wank every now and again and there is nothing wrong with that. I think its more about him not being able to wait. Isheaknob has said he has been having it twice a day the last few days so he was in no means desperate for a shag. If he wanted to wank that much why not wait till he was in the shower and isheaknob would have known no difference. Personally I think its a bit wrong when your children are just downstairs and could of walked in at an point. If it was my dh I wouldnt of been very happy about it either. Yes my dh wanks when im involved too or if we are not together for whatever reason not when we have been at it like rabbits for a few days and I have gone in the shower. I have to agree with isheaknob thats its a bit disrepectfull sorry!!!!

[isheaknob]

yeah it sure has! am glad i posted as its given me different ways to see it

[Coolfonz]

"would you really wank in someone else's bed while their kids are downstairs"

yes.

aside from that, if he can bash one out and stand up at the same time he's obviously a special guy.

[Tillyscoutsmum]

OP - glad the thread has given you different ways to see it. I think I would take it as a compliment really. Ok - he could have waited til he got home, but a) he'd have had to get undressed etc. b) he wouldn't have had you in the next room naked in the shower to think about and c) he wanted it there and then. The moment may well have passed.

Generally speaking, the more sex you have, the more you want, so the fact you have been doing it twice a day probably made him more horny iyswim.

[AnyFucker]

sausage...if the couple had been having a shag, the kids could just have easily walked in

that is how it is when you have young children

MN is full of stories of "getting caught out"

if he was discreet eg. under the duvet, or could easily hide/pull something over him if interuppted, what is the problem (and your "hint" about young children being in the house...what are you trying to say ? )

bloody hell...people with young children would never have sex if you didn't take the odd (controlled) chance for a quick one (together...or separately)

I used to have the odd fiddle during dc's afternoon nap ...it beats catching up on housework

it's natural, he fancied her....why would he wait until he got home...the moment would have passed, tbh

[xphantomflanflingerx]

no i don't think he did anything wrong either.He asked you and you didn't feel like it so he probably had one off the wrist because he was feeling in need of a bit of relief.He probably feels a bit embarrassed now and didn't think if he did it on the quiet you would realise he had been having a quick hand shandy It's not disrespectful if he has been staying there regularly and sleeping over and you have been together for a few months now anyway He obviously felt comfortable enough to want to do it there and as for the kids downstairs, you obviously have sex while they are asleep in bed next door so i can't see what difference it makes.As long as they aren't going to walk in the bedroom then it doesn't matter!:0)

[thickirishsausage]

I have small children myself so I know how hard it can be to fit it in with them around and about havinf a sneaky quicky I wasnt trying to insinuate anything by saying that mearly trying to say why isheaknob may be feeling the way she is.
I think we have all had a fiddle as i said nothing wrong with that I was just trying to say the way I think isheaknob see's it!!!! Plus I personally wouldnt be happy with my dh doing that if i was in the shower, if he can not just do without just once because I have sais no. Does that mean I would have to say yes everytime he asks or put up with him wanking as and when it takes his fancy?????

[Gay40]

Jesus, why should anyone not be allowed to have a wank if they fancy it? Nowt to do with saying yes every time he asks, but telling people they have to go without a wank???
Put up with him wanking????? Where do you live, in the 1890s?

[PeppermintPasty]

Blimey, I can't believe this. Be glad he's got the horn-which is obviously the horn for YOU. "Hurrah!" is all I would say that and about wanking generally.

[PeppermintPasty]

about that

[AnyFucker]

sausage...yes, you should "put up" with him wanking "whenever it takes his fancy"

what are you ? the wank police?

his body, his choice

now I agree with you where you say you shouldn't have sex if you don't feel like it....but that is a whole different subject, IMO

[Gay40]

WOOOOO WOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Here come the wank police!
Pink sirens on, folks

[PeppermintPasty]

too many jokes in my head about truncheons and taking down your particulars...

[thickirishsausage]

ok I know now so next time I say no to my dh he can go wank its not a problem and how it makes me feel is not relevent thanks for that explanation!!!!!

Sorry isheaknob I agree with you but abviously im wrong and a mans needs should always be sorted sod how you feel or what you want

[PeppermintPasty]

but why can't he wank "as and when it takes his fancy"?? i don't get it

[Gay40]

Why on earth should you feel anything about someone else having a wank?
Do you have to ask his permission when you have one?

[CakeandRoses]

YAB soooo U!

Poor chap: One minute he's having an innocent wank, the next his behaviour is being dissected by a load of strangers on the internet.

"put up with him wanking as and when it takes his fancy?????" and "what are you ? the wank police"

Two of the funniest comments I've read on here for a while!

[isheaknob]

i just feel that as it was in my bed and whilst i was in the shower it was out of order. i must say i am very shocked by the amount of you who would be happy if it was their dp

[SolidGoldBrass]

Is your attitude to actual sex this cringing and uptight? YOur distaste for the idea of him having a wank when you didn;t fancy sex seems so excessive, and you (and at least one other poster on here) seem to percieve sex as some kind of distasteful indulgence that morally superior people deny themselves. If so, I wouldn't be at all surprised if he decided he'd rather relate to his right hand instead in future.

[thickirishsausage]

Im not saying he needs permission. All i was trying to get across is that it should of been more discreet and not so obvious. I certainly wouldnt of been happy with my dh doing it i would feel like i what i ahd given him the night before was not good enough to satisfy his needs. My opinion sorry!!!!!