wanking while i'm in the shower

[isheaknob]

ok have a bf of 9 months. have got really close lately. he stays over at mine 2-3 times a week.
anyway he tried it on this morning and i said no i wasn't up for it as i needed to sort the kids out (they were downstairs watching tv). so i have a very quick shower and come back into the bedroom. he has a towel wrapped around him when before he had boxers. i ask him why and he said he was getting ready for a shower and his boxers were in his bag.
so he has a shower and it becomes obvious that he had a very quick wank while i was in the shower. i confronted him and he admitted it saying that he didn't think it was wrong as he was feeling extra horny! he said sorry but now i just feel weird about it. the thing is its not like he hasn't had it in a while as we have been doing it twice the last few days.
just need some female views as i'm not sure if i'm over re-acting. just because i say no does that mean he has to go and jerk off!
thanx.
oh by the way am a regular and am far too embarrassed to have my real name

[isheaknob]

we are at it like rabbits but with 2 kids under 4 it can be difficult sometimes. as i said before we have been doing it twice a day for the last few days so its not like he wasn't getting it.
can a man really not wait sexually?!

[Sammyuni]

"would you really wank in someone elses bed while their kids are downstairs"

Well your not just someone else your his girlfriend and i assume you have had sex in the bed before and also had sex whilst the kids were downstairs?

I think that's how he would have thought of it.

[nancydrewrocks]

Er when you say "it became obvious he had had a wank" please say you didn't go rooting through his bag to check his boxers.....

[grapeandlemon]

He has done nothing disrespectful at all. Why are you overreacting?

[Rafwife]

It was first thing in the morning when his testosterone is is highest, it's the early throws of a relationship he neede you there and then .

He couldn't so had a little wank in the bed you shag in all night long, he is so turned on by shagging you he couldn't wait, be happy

[isheaknob]

no i didn't go rooting, it was obvious as he would never change from his boxers to a towel and with him feeling horny i put 2 and 2 together. i asked him in a joke way incase i was wrong and he admitted it.

[nancydrewrocks]

Oh god seriously if you start "confronting" him in order to get him to "admit" wanking do not be suprised if he runs a mile...

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

Men can wait, of course, but I expect he didn't think it was a big deal.

[Sammyuni]

So there was no 'evidence' left behind so i really can't see the downside

[cadburyheroes]

I don't see a problem. In fact I wondered why this was in Relationships, I thought it was a thread about the OP wanking in the shower!

[isheaknob]

i guess its not a big deal then and i have gone about it all wrong. i was just shocked i guess.

[Gay40]

Can't see the problem at all. You didn't fancy it, so he just got on with it.
Wouldn't most people just have a go themselves if the mood took them?

[lovingthesun]

couldn't he have waited til he went home ? I think it's a bit gross actually & disrespectful...he might stay half the week, but that means nothing.

It's a Yuk from over here.

[Gay40]

Gross and disrespectful???
Are you serious?

[AnyFucker]

I think you have gone a bit overboard, OP

Did you express your shock and disgust to him ? He might be a bit pissed off with you, if you did

I honestly would see it as a compliment, he is that turned on at the thought of you etc etc

Next time, set the alarm earlier , but only if you want to, of course

[antoinettechigur]

No big deal I think.

Unless he used tissues strewn on the floor, of course

[antoinettechigur]

I mean left used tissues of course!

[BertieBotts]

I think you are overreacting a little bit. As others have said, he was horny, asked for sex, you said no, he sorted himself out. He probably could have waited until he got home, but I think that it can be uncomfortable for a man to have to wait if he is really horny (ie his balls are full - sorry for TMI!) so he probably thought nothing of it.

If he was at a friend's house or at work or something, or you'd only been going out 3 weeks then he probably would have waited, but he probably thought you wouldn't mind.

Preferable to him badgering you for sex if you weren't interested, in my opinion. And at least he didn't leave a mess for you to clean up - that would have been rude!

[Malificence]

Knit him a special mitten?

You could have invited him into the shower so he could give you a facial.

Honestly , I don't see the big deal, he's really not disrespected you, he's obviously got the major hots for you, I take it he's quite young?

[isheaknob]

his 27 so not a randy teenager.
like the mitten idea

[Gay40]

Alternatively, you could make a big deal of it until he decides you are overreacting and moves on. To someone else.

[AnyFucker]

wank-mittens are the way forward !

my DH is 47 and he is a randy bugger...some men will always be teenager-like in that dept (thankfully...)

[OrmRenewed]

Blimey! Poor bloke. It doesn't hurt you does it? He fancied a shag. You said no. He did some DIY! Win win situation I'd have thought.

[RunawayWife]

You are over reacting, sorry but its not the worst thing in the world he could do is it now

[Alouiseg]

Actually can't believe I'm reading this. What a non event!