We've got the Push factor, which prams are going to the final and which are a little bit karaoke...we decide

[Honeydragon]

Tiggy.....you can be Gary Barlow

yeah there is such a huge range of potential symptoms and manifestations isn't there?

and I don't know about you but I get that little voice in the back of my head saying "no, no i don't want anything to be wrong with my child. ignore it, it's all fine"
and then I stick my head in the sand.

tis one thing after the other right now with my lot. I tell you, ds3 better not develop any health issues he's my only one without something atm!

tiggy, i do have a garage, but its full of spiders, so no pushchairs going in there, just my wagons etc

I have a garage too but it's full of bikes. We could get in DSs bedroom two weeks ago but I couldn't open the door tonight! It's reaching crisis point! I need to sell some pushchairs or get them on good runs out and then sold!

was saying to DP just the other day that we should start up a pushchair hire thing.
would be great to actually properly try pushchairs out before buying them. or hire one to take on holiday or for other specific occassions

yes, i stick my head in the sand a bit, don't want them to say yes we think you are right.
suzie i am convinced i have as, i am very friendly, but struggle to make conversation in rl, unless its a subject i know ie prams, i can come across as unfriendly but i am not, find it dificult to make friends, i have been down here for over 15 years and have only one friend i could call a close freind, and 1 other, it can be very lonely and i do go into my world, as i think i have mentioned before i switch off with out meaning to, people have noticed this , but no way will i go and be tested, because if i have then everyone will know ds and pos dd problems is from me and trust me dp's parents would not let me forget that one

Trouble is i'd love to work as a geneticist so that sort of thing appeals to me...Trouble is with googling, one website will say xyz symptoms and another will be abc, and another will be a,b,y,z so then i read into it...If she did have something then it's definetely on the mild scale but one symptom can be maths issues at school and in that aspect i'd rather know so help can be started at school straight away...The children can have delayed speech...DD is having her 1st SLT session next week...Do i mention it to them or go to the doctor??? I also need to see the doctor about my extreme vomiting phobia that's getting unbearable now...I'm a right nut case at the moment!!!

That's fine TIY _ I was just worried she had been trying to contact me and I hadn't picked up messages or something (I'm notoriously shit at that!).

DH tests as on the high functioning side of ASD though not very HFing in tesco on a saturday morning. He cannot cope at all! He got wiggy when DD2 had her birthday party and hid in the kitchen or 'checked on the cat' upstairs. Luckily none of the girls show any serious signs of it (though DD2 is a bit more like DH than I think he'd like!).

In RL I'm an odd mix of shy but sociable so we do well together!

DD3 seems to be responding so well to her new ezcema cream and is on a new inhaler too. She's not scabby and bleeding for the first time in, well years! I only wish she could have had the cream earlier. She is now pretty healthy (for my family anyway!) just don't need her to get a cold to test out the new inhaler means she doesn't end up on a neb in hospital.

a pram hire shop would be great, i would be your first customer

the more we delve into ds1's problems the more convinced I become that I too have asperger's

a lot of his symptoms are things that I always said "nah, that's normal, I used to do that"
then I slowly began to realise that actually it isn't normal at all

ds uses doublebase gel, its really good, you don't rub it in, you apply it like strokking a cat, its the only cream he will allow me to put on him, all the others he says hurt him

it's easy to forget though that ASD does have very positive sides too. for instance the ability to do a great job on things like this

if only everywhere was as willing to harness people's natural talents and abilities regardless of any diagnosis they may happen to have

I don't bother with friends either these days...As i've got older i've found it easier to talk to other people, but it's definetely easier with a shared interest...My main issues now are an intolerance of noises, i can't bear to be touched at all or have people close to me...I'm touched out by having DD around whereas before she was born, i could tolerate DH to a degree...To be honest i just long to live on my own with no one to annoy me....I also read lots into numbers though it's not so simple now with number plates...I can read emotions but i can't react to them in the way normal people do...On other forums people post problems, and i just think pull yourself together whereas other people have great ideas to help...Only after i read them do i think, oh yes you could do this, that and the other...As a result i never mention any issues i have, though some people are party to my major issue...Someone PM'd me in relation to that thread and said my friend has Aspergers and he says the same things you do.

DD shows no signs of ASD, aside from the lack of speech, but as i said that could be connected to something else.

We have double base and diprobase but they did nothing.

Her eczema would flare in a new place, then she'd get a cold, then start having an attack all within the space of a day or two. Trouble is she'd be over the asthma attack but keep the new patch of eczema. She's had a lot of attacks....

I'm as nutty as a fruit cake and collect illnesses like Pokemon cards - I have OCD, depressive episodes (am hopefully over the PND), trichlotillomania, epilepsy, asthma, pustular psorasis (very glam!), hypermobility (though not HMS), probably going to develop scoliosis at some point due to dodgy back, grind teeth, have had an assortment of anaemias (B12/pernicious & folate).....

All I can say is - if I were a horse....

yes my ds, has amazing computer skills and can work out how to use gadgets within minutes, but he can not follow instructions and process information well [verbal]
suzie i can not go to sleep with someone touching me, when little i could not even have my teddy in bed with me, i hate being cuddled, but will happliy cuddle my dc's, ds loves his cuddles but on his terms.

i hate cuddles too.
always have. poor old DP

I hated being cuddled as a toddler, and in the few family photos that were taken, i was always squirming to get away...DD doesn't do that but she's not a big cuddler luckily...In fact since DH got a cold a month ago i've been sleeping on the living room floor as i couldn't bare the noisy breathing...And i've stayed down here because it's so much nicer not worrying if he's going to get too close.

suzie, ds had delayed speech [he sounded like he was speaking russian, he could not say mummy until he was 3], i managed to get him refered to a speech therapist, this was before i aired my concerns about him, it was her that referred him to someone else and it went from there, from first appointment to getting the dx it was a matter of months, his speech is ok now, a bit like a robot at times, but he has a stammer now, hoping he will out grow this, it can be so hard not to finish his sentance at times, although sometimes he will just stop, wait and say it does'nt matter i can not say it

our poor dp's going with out cuddles!!!!

Suzie - that is DH's major bug bear at the moment - too much noise. He hates it if the tumble dryer, dishwasher, washing machine and TV are on and the children are playing in the front room (downstairs is pretty much open plan). I find it quite soothing at times but he just can't cope with it.

I hate sleeping with anyone touching me but that is for very different reasons.

DH is very emotional, cries at lots of things (Andrex adverts for example), but is logical/pedantic about other things ('New and Improved' drives him to distraction). He also is incapable of getting lost. He just has to look at a map to suss out which way to go, even hours later. He drove me all the way from Sussex to The Lizard in Cornwall with out looking at the map after leaving home!! I, famously, got lost in M&S's men's formal trouser dept.

Now i'm the opposite with maps...I can study all i want but the reality is totally different...Once i've been somewhere then i don't tend to forget how to get back there but men are suppose to be good with maps, DH is...Now i lack emotions and rarely cry at things on television...But today DD and i visited the playschool she's starting in January and there was a little girl who made me cry a few times in the afternoon...She was so sollem and all alone i felt so much for her, especially when a member of staff was in my opinion bullying her because she wouldn't sing...I never once saw her interact with a child or adult in the 2 hours i was there...It was heartbreaking...She looked like the child who would always be an angel in a nativity with her huge blue eyes.

tiggy, i now only have 3 in the house and dp is still moaning 2 are folded and one set up, all under the stairs in the hallway so not even in the way, infact the same floor space his fishtank takes up and thats in the front room

ds, used to spend all his time at nursery either on the big computer or wandering round on his own sucking his fingers and fiddling with his label, i would watch him through the window when i turned up early, they never even realised he could not talk properly as they never really spoke to him needless to say dd is going to a different nursery

Well with luck she'll only be going there for 2 terms if she gets a full time nursery place at the local school in September...And i doubt school nursery staff would talk in such a rude manner to the children...I used to work at the playgroup which is why she's going there, as it's near to my work and parents so i can drop her off and they'll pick her up...She's very sensitive to being told off and obviously with her lack of speech, which they're aware of, she can't tell me if they aren't nice...I clean the hall where they used to be, and one particular member of staff who i fell out with over 3 years ago had had a go at DD on about 5 occassions, shouting at her when she didn't think i could hear basically accussing her of playing with playgroup toys, when in fact most times it was her own toys that happened to be the same as the groups blame Ikeas popularity.

DD3 sucks her fingers and rhythmically pinches her neck (well she'd pinch my 'bah's or even her own if she got a chance!!). She barely says anything though she is getting better.