Hi everyone this is my first time posting and is a difficult one for me.
I am 28 and am lucky enough to have just bought my first home with my partner. I grew up in Richmond in London and I realise I was very very lucky to do so. Me and my partner were living at my mums house in Putney saving for our first home and had initially been looking at flats in West/ SW London (Chiswick, kew, Putney) but couldn’t find anything suitable long term in our budget. We expanded our search and realised if we moved further out we could get a lot more for our money. We were rushing to get somewhere and to get our purchase done before the stamp duty changed in April, which would mean we would save over £7k in tax. We ended up buying our first house in Feltham for 10k under asking. The house itself is nice, cosy and I feel safe inside. The area beyond the house and surrounding streets/estate we are in I absolutely despise. I don’t feel safe, the people are rough, crime is rife and there’s just generally nothing at all to do. It’s so depressing. It’s caused me to spiral into a deep depression for which I am taking citalopram and doing CBT therapy. I cry everyday and my spark has gone. It’s causing a huge rift in my relationship as my partner is the one who told me the area is fine and he was naive and wrong. We initially wanted to start our family here, which has swiftly gone out the window since we realised what the area is like. I feel so stupid.
We have agreed that we will move in December 2026 but I’m not even sure I can wait that long. I am counting down the days till we can leave which I hate. We can’t sell right now as we would lose a significant amount of money which we can’t afford right now.
Has anyone been in a similar situation or can offer me support or advice ? Thanks