Moral dilemma

[PLNB31]

Hi just wanted a little advise, I have my house on the market as currently (been up for around 2weeks) looking for a bigger house for myself, husband and 4young boys . We are signed up to Rightmove, we want to stay in the current area we are in as our kids are settled in school. 3 days ago a property came up on Rightmove(added that day), My sister put the property on a family group chat and said she was going to see it, straight away I said I wanted to view that property also. My sister is very unhappy I said this and didn’t think I should view it as she was. We have now both viewed the property and both want to put in offers. My sister thinks I should be stepping back and not putting an offer in as she said she liked it first? Should I be putting my sisters opinion before doing what’s right for my family? Am I a bad person for putting an offer In?

This has made me sad and angry. You had an offer accepted on a house you love, you've been bullied into pulling out and potentially labelled as a time waster by the estate agent, and haven't managed to avoid damaging the relationship with your sister. Well, she's damaged it but you know what I mean.

Leaving the family chat sounds like a sensible move. I hope you find the house of your dreams just round the corner.

I have a feeling she won't be happy though, I think her motivations are less about the house and more about being competitive with you.

I have been and taken the lady who’s house it is some flowers and apologised! Seemed she already knew the situation so am guessing when my sister viewed she did some name dropping, luckily she was a very lovely lady 🙈

Oh no, sorry to hear you pulled out in the end. Hope you can find something else you like soon.

@PLNB31

This is pure curiosity - but now that it's kinda over are you allowed to share a Rightmove link of the house? I'm just curious to see the house that had so much interest caused this rift.

Obviously, you don't have to - but I just wondered what it was like.

Hope you find some peace with it all. Sounds lovely of you to see the homeowner and explain. Hopefully you'll find somewhere else - and so will your sister too.

I don’t really feel comfortable posting a link someone’s house