I have shown all the teachers at ds school a great deal of respect, in fact I think they are abusing the fact that we are not the average "pushy" snobs living in this area.
My husband is an incredibly polite individual who would never even dare approach them in any other way.
Not one of them can EVER accuse of us of being rude or non-diplomatic. I am naturally a diplomtic individual in professioanl situations. I think the school is abusing this fact to their advantage. We say nothing, so they do nothing to change the situation. We demand nothing for our boy, so they don't have to prove to us what they are doing to help him.
Respect in teaching is an interesting thing though - in my experience with students it needs to be EARNED from day one - it doesn't come naturally as a god-given right of a teacher !! In adult education at least, if you know your "stuff" and treat your students fairly, with good classroom managment, you often do earn it though which then makes teaching a real pleasure. I love teaching, it gives me the kind of job satisfaction I never had in my previous career.
Give respect to professionals? Eh, yes, but don't some hide behind the fact they have some sort of "professional" status and then abuse their position vis a vis the client/student/customer/patient/parent ? YES they do ! Bad lawyers do it, bad doctors do it, bad vicars do it....and guess what ? Bad teachers and Headmasters do it too.... ! Power in the hands of some people is a terrible/frightening thing. So I'm sorry to tell you this, but teachers are not ALL professionals in the true sense of the word.
Cory - I am sorry but you have misconstrued what I have said. My son is very kind to all the children in his class/group, but he does get upset by some of the comments which are unkind and a bit too aggressive and pushy about him being at the bottom of the class, etc. He needs to move out of the group for his self-confidence.
I wanted a re-grouping not because he is sitting with SEN or EFL, but to boost his confidence. In fact, I think all of his group should be regularly re-grouped. In some countries such groupings NEVER exist so as not to upset the children and create unnecessary competition. Of course, silly parents are also to blame for encouraging competition among 6 year olds who should have better things on their minds than who got the best spelling score last week ; )
I felt deeply sorry for one non-white boy in the class who has English as a second language and whose only crime seems to be his lack of "Britishness" in a very white middle class school - the teacher was treating him like a wild animal in a scene I was unlucky to have to witness.